I have a friend who was friends with a man who's married. Next thing you know, they became sexually intimate. The guy's wife found out about it and he broke it off with my friend without a word (he did send her one email saying he promised not to ever talk to her again).
However, my friend still cares about him and did not want to wreck his home. She just wanted to be friends with him without it getting this deep and causing problems.
Since the guy won't talk to her anymore, she's trying to find closure and regain the self-confidence and personal power she once had so that she can move on with her life and make better decisions, including being careful who she chooses as friends. She's taking steps such as devoting herself more to her job, strengthening her spiritual life, and going back to college to get her degree.
What other suggestions do you have for her to move on with her life,regaing her personal power and get past this nightmare? Thanks so much.
2007-02-18 10:04:21 · 5 answers · asked by PJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She needs to "allow herself to be human"! We ALL make mistakes. The next time she gets ready to get involved with someone, make sure they're divorced, or single. Life goes on, and she just has to accept that these things happened, but that they will NEVER happen again....therefore she has "learned" from it. Life 101!
2007-02-18 10:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should learn from this, that's the good thing about our mistakes, they go showing us which way we should've gone for the future. She should be thankful she didn't get pregnant. She should NEVER date a married man for a million reasons and usually they don't leave the wife. She found out so he chose to go back to her, that was to be expected. PLUS, if he was cheating on his wife what makes her think he wouldn't have done the same to her if he ever became hers? She's just going to try to put it in the past like any other heartbreak, only with time, she'll get over it, it's not the end of the world, she's not going to die. She should look forward to when she finds someone that is good for her and single. Staying busy will help. Try to take her out to have fun.
2007-02-18 10:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for my section, I disagree with what she mentioned to you. Anger is an emotion, and all of us have them! She does not have the main appropriate to assist you to recognize the way you're meant to experience. i visit declare that, even nevertheless all people gets offended quicker or later, that's the type you handle your anger that nicely-knownshows no count if or no longer you're a sturdy individual. somebody you have been in love with, and probably wanted to spend your existence with, left you and mentioned that she did no longer share your same emotions. of direction you ought to experience offended, to boot as harm, deserted, betrayed, and so on. those are all regular reactions to a breakup! She has each top to experience the way she does, too, to boot as get out of a relationship wherein she's no longer satisfied, yet you're actually not incorrect for having regardless of thoughts you have as a result. that is stressful now, yet enable time heal your discomfort and circulate on with your existence. She would be a sturdy female, yet there are different sturdy women accessible, and finally you will locate the only that's top for you.
2016-11-23 17:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I suggest that is more of a psychological / spiritual kind of help to find closure would be simply to write a letter... to herself, to him to no one at all... get out what she wants to say and express herself to the paper. Then, either bury it or burn it and toss the ashes to the wind. Sometimes just getting those feelings out of you and into somewhere else is all you really need.
2007-02-18 10:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by bitchgyrl420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can create her own closure ceremony. For example, she can write his name on a piece of paper, then burn it. She could write a poem or just words about how she feels and what she feels she has learned from the experience. It is important that she does these things from a feeling that she is all right-- that she has learned from the experience, and that her lessons have made her stronger.
2007-02-18 10:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by KCBA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋