I am 32 weeks pregnant and have been having sex only approximately once or twice a week since i found out that i was pregnant. When we do have sex it doesn't last very long. I'm not satisfied but i don't want to say anything to my partner because he is quite sensitive about it and if i make him worry about it, it only makes him worse. What should i do? It is putting me off wanting to have sex with him at all.
2007-02-18 09:40:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
We eventually did stop having sex while I was pregnant both times. Mostly because we just never could figure out how do it and not be terribly uncomfortable positioned. If you think that this is a problem that is only going to exist while you are pregnant you might just be better off keeping it to yourself for the next 8 weeks. However, if its an ongoing problem that exists after pregnancy you'll probably want to bring it up to him. Do so at a time when neither of you is actually in the mood for sex and try to be as specific as possible. Don't blame, but have some suggestions ready for new things to try. Hope that helps.
2007-02-18 09:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could have alot to do with hormones. From about 6-9 weeks pregnant I enjoyed sex all the time and it was great. But then suddenly from 9-12 weeks pregnant I was bored and unsatisfied during sex. It was so weird. And now, at 13 1/2 weeks preggo I got my sex drive back and sex is once again enjoyable.
Since you're 32 weeks along I wouldn't worry too much. Wait and see if things change and if there is no improvement after the baby is born, and you're ready to have sex again, then maybe talk about it.
2007-02-18 11:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my husband was VERY nervous about sex the third trimester. He kept thinking the baby would know what we were doing or he would be hitting her in the head, so to speak. I mad him read lots of links that I sent him that sex is okay while pregnant.
As far as talking to him about it, just keep the focus on you......not him. Tell him that sex is different for YOU now, so you want to maybe try different things or do it a different way. Don't tell him you are not satisfied, but do tell him that things feel different now and you want to "mix it up a bit". Really push for what feels the best for you. If you find that a certain technique or position feels better, keep suggesting that. All the while "blaming" you and your pregnancy hormones, so he does not feel inadequate in bed. Focus on the positive!! And hang in there........when you get the OK at that 6 week check-up, you will feel like a teenager again. All nervous about having sex for the "first time"....
Good Luck!!
2007-02-18 09:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by ShellyLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is being gentle with you because he doesn't want to hurt you or the baby. Try doing more exciting things in the bedroom and show him that its ok to still have a little fun while being pregnant. Tell him you can't have sex for 6 weeks after the baby is born so he should enjoy it while he can. Sex is totally fine right now. I wish you the best of luck and congratulations.
2007-02-18 09:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't take this as rude. Get a toy. You may have to try a few before you find one that works. Talk it over with him. Let him learn to use it on you. (you can even try it first to find out how to use it to make it work for you, so then you will be able to tell him.) Explain to him that now you are pregnant, it takes you longer, and you are not quite fully satisfied. Just tell him it is not him, but you and maybe it could use some help. I never wanted to use those things before, but after my baby things were different. It did take me longer, (much longer) than it used too. My hubby actually suggested it. So we tried it, and he is better at using one on me than myself! Good luck hon.
2007-02-18 09:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by bratzmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to draw out the foreplay so he will last longer.. it could also be b/c you are only have sex once or twice a week so he comes fast. i know when my husband and i have sex he comes fast too but that is because he doesn't get lucky that often b/c of my nausea and heartburn.. poor guy... but i know my husband does last longer after drinking some beers... so get your hubby boozed up then go for it... or try giving him hand jobs when you don't have sex.. that way he is used to getting it one way or another and will last longer.. when you do the hand jobs though.. stop when he is close to coming.. wait a minute then begin again... that way it builds up his climax time... goodluck
2007-02-18 09:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women(like myself) kinda loose there sex drive while pregnant. Could that be it? So are you not liking sex because he isn't doing what he did before you got pregnant or has this been a problem before. I would suggest letting him know you want to last a little longer it shouldn't hurt his feelings. You could make it seem that it is cause you are pregnant it is taking longer for you to be happy. Let me know! LOL goodluck!
2007-02-18 09:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by ~Beauty is Beautiful~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fathers go alittle weird as we do when we become pregnant.He probably fears of harming the baby and on your end you probably are feeling as if you are fat and maybe he is not into you anymore but trust me that is not the situation.My husband and i went through the same thing when i was pregnant.I believe you two should talk it out about how you both feel about intercourse while you are pregnant and be open and honest with each other.
2007-02-18 09:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by jessica b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad for the baby you can even ask your OB or midwife!!!
In fact it can even kick off labor.
Answer: I had the same problem as you and as much as I didn't want to tell him I wasn't satisfied. I told him the truth. All your parts are changing down there even if you can't see it. Your hips are spreading apart, your vaginal canal is relaxing, it makes it very hard to have fun. Just tell him it is a hormonal thing if you want... Even have your OB explain it directly to him so he knows this is normal.
2007-02-18 10:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by marymouse26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont have that much longer to go so i wouldnt worry to much, like hte other answer he might be outta wack because hes worried about what harm it might cause, alot of guys get weird about having sex once u become prego,,but u might not be enjoying it simply because u are prego, it throws ur hormones outta wack,, when my best friend was pregnant she didnt want to have sex at all,she just couldnt get turned on
2007-02-18 09:49:00 · answer #10 · answered by madre_de_isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋