Why do black women rarely consider dating white men?

Question

What is the problem exactly?

Answer 1

Even though it is not a reality today, the master- slave relationship will always be a factor. There was a time that white men took what they wanted from us, now the question is, why would I want someone white touching me. They raped and beat black women, impregnated them an then sold their children off like cattle. Even though the abuse of slavery was not inflicted on my body, the psyche of it still lingers in my culture. There has been time for healing, on both sides (black & white) but as you can see on this site alone, the prejudices and stereotypes are still clouding the views of even the youngest minds, there is still alot to overcome when it comes to blending the races.

If you are interested in dating someone black, be yourself and if it is meant to be, you heart will be visible despite your skin color. Good men are hard to find, I think any girl would appreciate a truly good man.

Answer 2

I know you want an honest answer, so please dont give me thumbs down, i am just being honest.

as i was growing up i fancied both black and white boys/men. Since the age of about 15+ however i have mostly only fancied black. Why this is i am not entirely sure I but i think it comes down to a number of factors..

Most importantly i think its largely to do with cultural differences. I just think that there will be too many differences for both of us to overcome.

I also sometimes suspect the motives of some white men. Sometimes i do suspect that maybe they just want to experiment with a black woman.

SUBLIMNALLY i guess I do suspect that some men maybe secretly racist!! Its bizarre!

And there is an aspect of me that just finds black men more aesthetically pleasing , although i have seen some very good looking white men too (particularly from the Mediterranean).

And lastly when i was single it was rare for me to be approached by a white man. It didnt happen often. Possibly i was giving off vibes, possibly they just didnt find me attractive. My friend who is much darker than me was always being chased by white men, and still is!!

Answer 3

Why all the generalizations? There's exception to every rule. It depends on how you were raised, regardless of whether you're Black or White. I was raised in an Upper Class Black Family who has friends of all ethnicities, especially White. I'm glad my parents were open-minded to instill discipline, great values and a genuine love and appreciation for all races. I was exposed to the finer things in life, including going to Boarding Schools all of my life. Every Black Female isn't part of the AIDS Epidemic or has lived off of food stamps. I was raised better than most of all of my White friends. White Men have always admired me. It has nothing to do with cultural and more about wanting to get to know an educated, gorgeous Black Female. People, stop letting the media influence you about stereotyping and get out there and learn about the real world. There's no truism in anything. Stop judging until you properly assess who you're dealing with. You may find out the Black Female Co-worker is the best suitable for you.

Answer 4

To be honset, I do not have any problem dating white men. Most black women I know don't either. It's just that at the end of the day, most of the men who try to date me are not white. I think the question should be "Why do white men rarely consider dating black women?"

Answer 5

For some reason, a black woman dating a white man is more taboo than a black man dating a white woman. For me, race doesn't matter, but I think society is yet to except interracial dating between a black women and a white man because in the past, such relations where not out of romance.

Answer 6

I think the question goes both ways why do white men also rarely consider dating black women. strangely enough i find that i get more advances from white guys then i do from black guys, and i think thats due to the stereotype of beauty. if you have more european features such as, as lighter skin, striaght nose, long hair , slim body etc. then you'll fit society's stereotype of what is beautiful. that is why you find that most realtioships between whites and black girls, the girl does tend to be mixed race or more european looking.
another thing is that people find it easier to stick with people from the same culture as there will be less issues in the long term.
i myself dont prefer a ecratin race. If a guy is hot then he's hot!

Answer 7

Stereotypes play far too big a role in this issue; as a young black woman Im not averse to dating outside my race (however to be perfectly honest i think i would be a little weirded out by the whole intimacy aspect...maybe because im not mature enuff to try out the box quite yet)
but personally I find white men dont approach me, i blame this partially on stereotypes that black women are 'harsh' or 'aggressive' or 'bitter'....which is sometimes true but thats with most stereotypes. Not with me though!

Answer 8

I've dated white men before and I have no problem with It. I don't really care what race he is, but some women do. Every black woman has a different view on this.

Answer 9

How do you know that they rarely consider this? Surely it is just the case that people date in the circles in which they move. It is rare that you will just meet a random person on the street and then go out for a date with them. It is much more clinical than that surely?

Answer 10

I do not think there is a problem. If I was single I would date a white man or anyone else who I found attractive. But I think we live in a society that try to make it seem that white men do not like black women, so there may be a sterotype that a white man would not want to date a black woman. But I say to each his or her own.

Answer 11

Lots of possibilities. Some people believe in seperation more than love. nothing can be done about those people. Others may be afriad that you are 'experimenting' with them before you get married to that blue eyed girl dowm the road. Bear in mind the fact that most people, imagined cultural differences aside, just want to connect with people, to accept and be accepted on their own terms. As a result you ultimately need to be in a social environment that supports mature interracial contact, rather than the pre-teen reductive bullsh*t that ususally happens in some liberal (and faux-liberal) circles. I'd imagine that many black women would love to date you. You just have to ask them out - and treat them as individuals too.