12 year marriage with four children. I have been dating a man whose wife left him after 12 years and 4 childdren and married someone else within a year and had another baby. My b/f and I are in a long distance relationship. We see each other about 5 days a month and he treats me like a queen but doesn't want to commit any further than what we have. We have been together for three years. Could I be in a rebound situation?
2007-02-18 09:06:09 · 6 answers · asked by time_ready_love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, although he treats me like a queen I worry that he may see other people during the other three weeks of the month although I have no proof my gut tells me so.
2007-02-18 09:26:15 · update #1
A rebound relationship does not last 3 years...so no, it's not a rebound thing. It just sounds like after a 12 year marriage that ended he doesn't want to get into a committed relationship.If you want more than he is willing or capable of giving then you need to move on. Don't stay in a situation that is not making you happy.
2007-02-18 09:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news is that your not a rebound..it has been to long to be that but the bad news is that you do not really have a relationship with him. You have been together for three years and he will not commit..on top of that the lady at the grocery store sees him more then you do..You need to cut him loose. How can you continue with this knowing it will not go any further..can you be content?? I would not think so!
2007-02-18 17:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together too long for it to be a rebound. He's probably afraid to commit because his wife stomped his heart by leaving him for another dude. If this is too much for you then let it go. If you can support him through this and you're not in a rush to marry him or anything like that then let him heal so he can be an even better man for you .
2007-02-18 17:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely,yet you're safe. The distance allows you to get yourself back. Commit to yourself and children first. Regain independence and self worth then take on the TASK of relationships.
2007-02-18 17:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not a rebound situation, but definitely a guy who's not about to get himself in that situation ever again. You may just be frozen in time.
2007-02-18 17:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in a "Stringing you along" relationship. Cut the strings.
2007-02-18 17:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋