I'm coming out of the closet and a little shy- who has any advice for my situation?

Answer 1

Take your time, don't rush it. You're going to come across those who will try to take advantage of you then you'll never hear from them again. You don't have to be like that. Don't stay with someone just to have someone. A relationship should be a two way street. Stand tall and believe in yourself. When you enter a room, smile. Good luck.

Answer 2

You didn't say how old you were, but I can encourage you to seek out other gays/lesbians in your area. If there's a gay bar, and you are old enough, go in and pick up all the free magazines/brochures you can find. These will lead you to groups to join within your city/surrounding area. If you are in college, seek a group there...most colleges have them. Another possibility is joining a Unitarian Church, they are very open to the alternative lifestyle. And don't let yourself be upset by the trolls who answer your question in less than a favourable way. Ignore the ignorant. Good luck and blessings.

Answer 3

1. I'm sorry that you have had to read the ignorant, hateful, violent remarks of some of those "people" who answered before me. It's funny how admitting that the very core of your being, the very nature of who you are, offends people- scares them to the point of being bigots, extremists, and downright monsterous. Similar hateful remarks were shouted at African-Americans during their fight for civil rights in the sixties, at women when they demanded the right to vote and to people of the Jewish faith during the holocaust. The world is full of monsters.

2. With that said, my wish and prayer for you as you come out, as you see the light for who you are, is that you gravitate to those who truly love and support you the most. Also understand that there are many wonderful groups you can join, churches or synagogues who will love you and not judge you, and people who will want to know every part of your spirit, not just the part of you who is gay.

3. I agree with the others who tell you to "take it slowly". It doesn't have to happen all at once. In fact, coming out is a lifelong process really. There is always someone who will assume you're straight. :)

4. Learn to love yourself and others all around you. Pity the monsters for their ignorance. Create your happiness and don't wait for it or expect it to come from others.

Peace to you.

Answer 4

Coming out does not have to be rushed. Take it one step at a time. You should be comfortable with yourself first, the "outside world" second.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

I am so glad that you are coming out. The first part of treatment is admitting that you have a problem. You see, like any mental illness, there is help. Homosexual behavior is a mental condition that prevents otherwise normal people from being attracted to the opposite sex. The Devil would want nothing more than for people to normalize it and make it ok. But just like a cleptomaniac, just because you have an urge to sin does not mean that you have to act on the urge.

Believe it or not, Christians love you and want to pray for you. We do not hate you because we disagree with that part of your life. That is just what others would want you to think. The truth is God is love and forgives. But forgiveness entails stopping the sin.

God Speed!

Answer 6

You should tell someone close to you first. Someone you know will be cool with it. That'll give you the will power to tell those you really dont want to. For me it's parents.

Answer 7

take it one step at a time... tell your parents and you will feel batter...dont rush your slef, its a long road and life to travel.. jess

Answer 8

tell the person closest to you first, someone who you know will except you for and still like you

Answer 9

Smile. Smiles help everyone feel better.

Answer 10

Just be who you are and be comfortable with yourself.