I have been falling out of love with my wife because of years of abandonment. No matter how I brought it up that I wasnt happy, it didnt change. Now the feeling I tried to get from her are gone and she thinks its because I cheated. We have been married for 6 years and the last three have been like living with my roommate. All I wanted to give was my love and I got nothing in return. I have not cheated and will never cheat. Now we have a daughter and the thought of not seeing her everyday is killing me. What do I do, counseling didnt work and faith is lowering. I am so lost it is scary. She blames everything on the fact that I shared my feelings with someone at work who happens to be a female. I had no where else to turn, it was sad and I regret it but I couldnt keep things in anymore and everyone at work was noticing I was a wreck. So I talked.
2007-02-18 08:26:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's always two sides to every story but what you've said here it sure doesn't seem like you're to blame.
Trial separation is an option. Regarding your daughter (it is very very heartening to see how you feel for her), contact a family attorney who specializes in father's rights.
None of this is easy, you've tried. It sounds like you put forth a herculean amount of energy to try and salvage this loveless relationship. It now, essentially, in the court's, your wife's and your hands.
I wish you the best of luck . . .
2007-02-18 08:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried a marriage councilor? You both would have to want it. Unfortunately she is the one who threw it away when she decided to shut you out. I am sorry. She just isn't the one for you. There is someone out there for you and only time will tell you that. In the mean time get an attorney and set up visitation with your daughter so that she doesn't try to keep you from her. Make this your priority now, and work out the separation or divorce after. Your spouse is very insecure, and I am afraid she hasn't been truthful with you on things from her past. Issues I like to call it. It is not your fault. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-18 16:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they (women) don't want to admit or can't handle the fact that maybe, just maybe, the problem really is them. If you do in fact love your wife, and want to work it out, I would suggest trying to go to another counselor, and recommending counseling for her alone also. Let her know that the reason is not another woman and never has been, that it is because you are not happy with the way things turned out in your marriage........if none of this works then I suggest you split up, get over her, and move on with your life my friend.
2007-02-18 16:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. You didn't cheat. Let her know point blank that you didn't cheat and never would. She might be unhappy herself and just sort of using what happened at work as a last straw to make a change. Step back, calm down, and let some time elapse and see where it goes.
2007-02-18 16:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming we have the whole story just from reading your post, you've waited too long already. May we assume that you BOTH went to counselling, together? If not, do that.
If you did go to counselling together, this marriage is O-V-E-R. Move out, file for divorce, and try to get a life.
2007-02-18 16:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear u must to give all your power to your wife... and daughter... u can't approach from your daughter without come back to your wife... u can feel the same with her if u want that and if u believe that.... if u not interest in her because u have other one.. trust me i know that... so leave all the women u know.. your wife is the most beautiful and love u just be close to her and show her how much u love her and care about her she will change.... good luck
2007-02-18 16:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention if it was joint counseling or just for yourself. But if you both have had counseling, and it is still just as bad, you may have to consider ending the relationship. What about full custody of your daughter? That would allow you to see her every day. Good luck to you.
2007-02-18 16:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by electricpong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say try another counselor. I mean there is a reason you 2 aren't divorced yet right? There has to be something there. Dont loose your faith. If you believe God or whatever it may be pray. And don't stop trying if you really love her.
2007-02-18 16:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the best thing for the both of you guys is to split up and start living your own lifes. The kids will always be there.
2007-02-18 16:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you and your wife sat down and actually talked to eachother in a serious way? If you haven't try too and tell her to be completely honest with you. Say to her screw all the feelings just straight out tell me how you feel
2007-02-18 16:31:33 · answer #10 · answered by sugarnspicealwysnice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋