that she felt weird hanging out. My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago. I thought the relationship was going well, but she didn't feel the "spark." We were friends before we started dating, and we decided to stay friends after breaking up. We hung out a week ago and I felt perfectly fine. I acted normal and did not do or say anything that i normally wouldn't. Talking to her today she said that "And plus, it is weird when we chill, it's like theres weirdness all around.... well, it feels weird cuz i can sense how u don't feel so comfortable anymore. like suddenly we have nothing in common."
What is weird is that she broke up with ME, not vice versa... if anyone should feel weird its ME. She was the one who wanted to remain friends. She has been nothing but honest with me since we started hanging out, and i dont think shes being dishonest and i am pretty sure it is not another guy. What does she mean when she says this? Why does she feel weird? serious answers only please thanks.
2007-02-18 08:17:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course there's weirdness. She broke up with you and still wants to be friends and hang out; that's the weirdness. It just can't happen like that. People want to remain friends after a break-up but when you're still dealing with feelings that are more than that of friendship it's almost too difficult. I think there's nothing wrong with making a clean break. I'm guessing that she wants to keep you as a friend so that she doesn't feel less guilty about the break-up and she still likes you but just doesn't want to date you anymore. Well then perhaps she shouldn't have the benefit of hanging out with you anymore either. And my guess is that you want her to see that she really wants to be with you and not just as friends and this is only going to be torture for you. I'd tell her that you can't see her just as friends...at least not this soon, not right now until you've had time to deal with your feelings over the break-up and move past it.
2007-02-18 08:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being weird.
She wants to be friends and may feel guilty about wanting to...because she thinks you may still want her or you may harbor some negative feelings about the break-up.
But whatever for that. You sound like you're not tripping anything and are just being cool.
She sounds like a draining personality with a headtrip or two, so you may find yourself wanting to be around her less. You know, if she can't just hang out without overthinking stuff.
2007-02-18 09:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times for girls they get their emotions all tangled up in their relationships.. which they should.. but just think of it his way.. If you were friends, then started dating, then were friends again, she has some emotional de-tangling to do. It could work, you could stay friends and it could be fine, but she might feel weird for a while. Just hang out and see how it goes.
2007-02-18 08:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels weird because she knows that you would like to be more than just friends with her..she does not know..what to say to you..for fear of hurting your feelings..maybe the fear of giving you false hope with her..it sounds like because she feels she can not talk openly to you..knowing the way you feel about her..she is giving you the brush off..trying not to hurt your feelings in the process..I do not think she is being dishonest..I think she does not want to hurt you..how can she talk about another guy..she is interested in with you..when she knows in the back of her mind that you want that guy to be you..you want more than she is willing to give you..so it makes it weird for her to be around you..so she is giving you the brush off..
2007-02-18 09:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by birdman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she feels weird cause your not her boyfriend anymore and usually the first non bf/gf time together can be werid for us girls and even guys.
I would keep thehanging out to a bare minium for awhile. Just talk on the phone or net. Give her and yourself space to be on your own and such.
She might need to see herself without you for a time and you never know it might make things much better between you.
2007-02-18 08:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by gerking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that she thinks that you and her have nothing in common. Try talking to her about it
2007-02-18 08:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Blonde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋