I went to a friend's home for cards and drinks, he had about 8 people over. I think his wife was upset with him, and it showed. She was unfriendly and uncordial. Call me old fashioned, but when I'm at a couple's home, I expect the wife to make coffee and put out food when guests are over.
It was a very uncomfortable night for all involved.
Is it me or do you think it's in very bad taste for someone to show their anger with their spouse when people are over. I almost called him to ask him what was up with his wife!
2007-02-18 08:12:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes it's rude and immature.
When I was much younger, I was in a very bad and toxic marriage. I did the same thing. It never occurred to me how miserable I made the people around us. I was just so consumed with my own anger. We had a very dysfunctional marriage. In a way, I wanted someone to save me from my pain,I knew I needed to get out, but I didn't know how...I guess that is why I couldn't hide it in front of people.
You won't get anywhere by saying anything to her husband....but you just might want to stay away. These 2 are probably on a downward spiral with little chance of it getting better unless they do something about it.
p.s. I got a divorce...have since grown up and am in a happy, healthy relationship. I learned my lesson!
2007-02-18 08:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by kallie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife may not have wanted guest over and the husband forced it. There could be any number of reason why this happened. Maybe the wife did want these people in her house so tried to embarrass him in from of the guest as a control mechanism.
It was a very distasteful thing to do to guest in your own home know matter how you slice it. I have seen men do this to women. It does spell major trouble in paradise.
2007-02-18 16:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know about the coffee and food... but I do think she should be a good hostess and not make her guests uncomfortable. (I suppose coffe and food could be part of it) I think what ever spat they are having should be put aside for the evening and then taken up in private later. Not everyone shares my views. I wouldn't call him and ask him what the deal with her was because if they are fighting about it.. he might say something like "see even Joe thinks you were rude!" and that will cause bad feelings for later on. (unless it was something really awful in which case they should have canceled the party)
2007-02-18 16:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wasn't expecting you. And NO.......it's not up to "the wife" to make coffee and put out the food when guests are over. What's up with YOU???
2007-02-18 16:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are a guest in someone's home you have no right to expect ANYTHING. No one FORCED you to go to their home, no one FORCED you to stay. Since it is HER home as well as her husbands she had everyright to behave in whatever manner SHE chose to behave in in HER home. As a GUEST if something is uncomfortable you have the right to leave...How YOU choose to behave in YOUR home when you have guests is up to you.
2007-02-18 19:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋