I've never orgasmed from masterbation, or from intercourse. My boyfriend feels like he's inadequate because he can't make me come... but I don't know if there's actually something wrong with ME because I've never been able to orgasm even on my own. I don't know what to do, or even if there's anything I CAN do... please help!!
2007-02-18 07:54:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Have you ever tried a G-spot vibrator?
First time I did, I went off like a ROCKET! Also, you could try it "doggie style"; my girlfriend says it is a great way to get off, a LOT better than "missionary".
It's probably not that big a deal, but you might try asking your Gynecologist, especially if your on any kind of meds.
2007-02-26 03:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Tawni HP 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem and didn't have an orgasm until last year. There is nothing wrong with you so don't think that. Most of the time, women don't orgasm from intercourse because their clitoris is not being stimulated. The number 1 way a women experiences an orgasm is oral, but you don't have to do that if you and your boyfriend are not comfortable with it. Try this. We you are having intercourse, try to relax and enjoy what is going on and how it's feeling. Direct and lead him to what you want and what feels good to you. Moan, whisper, make little noises, and this may turn him on even more. Don't think about "oh i got to bust one", cause you never will. Enjoy the moment and you will know when one comes. Also, try flexing your vainal muscles. It's like you are opening them up. There will be a little tingly feeling like you have to pee, but don't worry you won't. I really hope this helps and hope you and your boyfriend enjoy the feeling and try not to think about it. You will know when it happens.
2007-02-18 08:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by jenni_2004us 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might be working to hard at having one that you're to anxious to succed! Try this, when no one is home and you have peace and quiet and are all alone - take a nice hot shower just long enough to relax. Once your relaxed shut the shower off and turn the tub on. Lay on the tub floor and let the bath water run over yourself. You'll have to put your legs up against the bath wall. Adust yourself around until it's comfortable and feels good. Some women have to squeeze, doing kegals to be able to achieve! Good luck. And don't worry, it'll happen. For some ladies it's just not easy and some almost never have one just from sex. Actually, A LOT don't, it's very very common not to. But keep trying. You'll get it.
2007-02-18 09:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Shellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of orgasms.One being from clitoral stimulation and the other is the well known G spot deep in the vagina , kind of above the pubic bone. It's not uncommon for women not to have orgasms. And some experience their first at a more mature age when they feel totally comfortable with their body and knows what to ask for from their man. Be patient , try deep penetration, different positions and RELAX. A friend of mine would use a clitoral stimulator (toy) during sex and she loved it, so did her husband since he could feel her orgasms.
2007-02-25 13:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, I had the same problem. I learned to take the matter into my own hands (if you know what i am saying!) Eventually I became more relaxed, and also bought a bullet (vibrator) awesome!!! Love it!! It has been 5 years since I resolved the problem, and I am still learning more ways to have fun. You should be just fine, sometimes good things come to those who wait!! :-)
2007-02-23 03:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Carla S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be the answer you are looking for but buy yourself a vibrator. I honestly never had an orgasm until I learned to do it myself. It helps when you know your own body and the exact spot to hit to get yourself off. It also sounds like your current b/f is very selfish sexually. That kinda sucks for you. A vibrator also helps in this area too, because if he can't be bothered to get you off you can do it yourself. Oh, and if you do get one make sure he knows you have it. This might give him more incentive to try harder to make sure you get off.
2016-05-24 03:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question I would like to ask is if you are on any type of medication? Certain types of medications can prohibit and cause sexual dysfunction, same thing if there is a disease such as diabetes. Sex is a mind thing, when you have tried to pleasure yourself, do you fantasize about what turns you on? Some things you may want to try with your boyfriend would be to watch a porno movie together while he stimulates you with a vibrator, you can try to mimic what you see on the screen as a turn on.
2007-02-24 13:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like you need to pee when you have sex or mastrabate? If so don't worry. It is a common problem for women. You won't pee, just go with the feeling. If you are uncomforable, then you may want to mastrabate in the shower or bathtub or while sitting on the toilet, so that you don't have to worry about peeing, you won't make a mess.
2007-02-21 17:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem that you were having.i found i was nervous during sex,so i decided to go out and by a vibrator and use it,i thought about other things while i was using and i found myself having my first orgasm..
2007-02-26 06:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by kashi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you able to orgasm on your own?
Try relaxing or using a vibrator!
2007-02-18 08:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋