Should I leave my spouse and work in another city?

Question

I am going for 2 interviews one near where i live and other in Alabama . What do u suggest should i leave my luving spouse and join there? I am quite positive about both. Career wise its very lucratvie for me but my hubby is quiet and has left to decide on my own?? What do i do???
Please suggest???

Answer 1

I live in another city going to school while my husband and daughter live 4 hrs away. We are separated only because we have no choice. I am going to university so we will one day we will be financial secure. My husband could not find a job in the city I study in and my in-laws are looking after my husband and daughter.

You should apply to all the jobs and do the interviews. Then take the info and decide with your spouse what your best choice is for the two of you.Your spouse might be willing to move. I don't understand why you would take a job that separates you and your spouse if you don't need to. Unless you wish to divorce.

Answer 2

Is this something you have to do? Maybe you should really consider how your spouse really feels. That means sit down and talk about it. Work out the pros and cons of both jobs. I guess if it was a life or "debt" situation it would be very hard not to go. Next thing you might want to consider is kids, do you have kids and how will they feel about their mother working so far away. If you are a mother and you have small kids, even kids in high school, you must understand that being their for them is very important to your family. Is it really worth putting your marriage in a possibly damaging spot? I myself, if I were in your position, I wouldn't go. I wouldn't want to be away from my loved ones over a job. I would find something in my own town. Or relocate with the entire family.

Answer 3

UH, wasn't "for richer, for poorer" and "for better or worse in your vows?
They apply here, sweetie. Do you know how hard it is to meet someone compatible enough to marry, these days? You even called him your "loving" spouse. Don't go ruining something for the sake of a job. Men don't say much by words, but you are probably crushing him inside for not choosing HIM over a job. Maybe he deserves a woman that can appreciate him. You really are making me sick that you could even think about it. If you want to compromise, then just go to the interview near home, as you put it. Forget the one in Alabama . Your hubby probably needs a hug form his self centered wife !!!

Answer 4

Why couldnt you both just move there if you get the job? I think it is kind of messed up that you would consider leaving your husband in another state just for a JOB. I mean if you took the time to marry this person i would think that he was important to you. I just cant imagine a job being more important than a spouse, ESPECIALLY since you have an interview near you.

Answer 5

You guys should never got married in the first place. You don't believe in togetherness. You think that living a part and working in different states making good income justified everything.

This is the ingredient for ....seperation, cheating etc..
Why? Don't let money or career goal let you two grow a part, because you will.

He's understanding, so you say, but how long and with you will he goes for comfort in between the understanding and loneliness?

And what about you? You need love and comfort from someone near by, not a state or two away.

Answer 6

If you have to ask then the relation ship is on shaky grounds.

As adults you both need to sit down and work on the pros and cons of either moving or stay.look at each other list.
Decide financially and as well as a carrier move is it good thing? If it is just a job then may be you need to keep looking.
If it important job move. Then maybe it would not be a bad deal for your boy friend to quit his job and follow you, who knows he might get a better job?
What every you decided you must sit down and talk till it is worked out.

Answer 7

Would this be a permanent situation?
My husband and I recently spent a year of separation because he took a job about 1800 miles away from where we were living. I was in the old state, fixing up the house, selling the house, and trying to get certified to work in my career in the new state where he was. It was very difficult, but for us, it was worth it. We wanted to move to the new state, and we knew that the separation would not be permanent.

Answer 8

I recommend having a talk with your spouse before making any such decision. His being quiet is not necessarily, a sign of consent for you to leave him. You can have a career, but if your spouse is loving, as you described him, then you need to consider staying together and keeping your marriage intact.

Answer 9

Why do you have to leave your husband to take on a new job? Don't you love him anymore? What would be so wrong with taking you husband with you? It you're tired of the marriage and want leave that's one thing. If that's the case then yes, I'd leave him.

But if you have a perfectly good marriage and the man is a good husband then why, in this world where good men are hard to find, would you want to go and leave him behind?

Girl, get yourself a Yankee Stadium sized suitcase, pack your clothes and his and take your man with you. Good luck

Answer 10

I think if you can find a job in your area, that would be best. But if you need this other job to survive, and if you really want it, you need to talk to your husband about what HE thinks. Of course you can't live permanently apart, so he's either going to have to move one day, or you'll have to give up this new job, or you'll divorce. Simple as pie. In any case, you need to talk to your husband about what HE thinks/feels/needs.