Would you be mad if your husband lied about?

Question

money all the time? He constantly takes more and more money for bars and gambling debt. Every time I get paid he says he "owes" money for something...gambling, to friends, at a bar etc..then he goes out to the bar 4x a week and says he deserves too. He does not hold down a job; i work full time and take care of all the bills. I blew up today again when he said he "owed" $100 to a friend! I don't know if he is lying to get more money of if he really is borrowing more and more...I need opinions!

Answer 1

It sounds like he's using you to support him .... i would be very angry if my husband did this to me.... He needs to quit gambling and drinking at the bars ...he needs to start helping you will bills and .. take care of his family .... you two are in this together ..and your the only one putting effort in ....

Answer 2

You are so close to the problem that you can't see the obvious that is slapping you in the face. You are an enabler. Go look it up. You are part of his problem. By carrying him, you are allowing bad behavior to be rewarded. You have got to realize, that you are a good person, and you don't deserve to be used like this. You need to get rid of any bad baggage from the past and start respecting yourself more, you're not a kid anymore. If it means being by yourself, so be it. Put your foot down. Don't let him play on your insecurities. He's a grown man. If he made the debt, he can pay the debt. What would he do if you were to die in an automobile accident? Who would pay his debts then. Teach this man to be responsible. Don't be surprised though if he doesn't go out to find another sugar momma who will listen to his sob story about how bad you were to him etc. You know what you're about, so don't fret it. Peace out!

Answer 3

If you are the one that is earning all the money then after you have paid all the bills... for living etc you will be looking at your disposable income... YOU decide how much you will give him and tell him that there will be no more when that's gone and he can spend that money how he likes...

Treat him like you would a teenage son (after all if he is not working and is irresponsible enough to run up debts... then he deserves to be treated like a teenager).

Reason I may sound so bitter... I was with a guy who did this to me too.... I worked, he didnt... I earned the money and he spent it.

Listen honey, if you are adult enough to go out earning the money then YOU should have the pleasure of spending it... NOT to be bled dry each week.

Ask him to go get a job then he can live within his means (his income, not yours)...

Hope this helps...be strong... you are strong already if you are putting up with this.. Take care xoxox

Answer 4

your husband seems to have a gambling and drinking problem. (yes it is a problem.) you funding his addiction is not helping him at all. next time he needs money to pay a debt or go out and gamble or drink tell him straight up that you don't like his habit and are no longer going to fund it. if he wants that life style he needs to get a job or get better at his hobby and win some money so he can pay his own debts. and next time he says he owes some one ask him when he plans on paying back all this money he gets from you. i would never tell you to leave him because you married him and that means that you were willing to Indore life with him but your wedding vows never said you had to support his unhealthy habits. you never made that commitment, so there is no reason you should be paying for his party life style.

Answer 5

Go see a lawyer ASAP. He sounds like he might have a gambling problem, and as long as you are married, you could be held responsible for his debts. For all you know, he has racked up thousands of dollars on credit cards to cover his gambeling habit, and his "buddies" may really be another woman.

You really need to seriously consider a divorce. He's not going to change, and for the moment, he is dragging you down with him. Get out now before it is too late.

Answer 6

Yes. I woudl be livid. A man DOES deserve his "guy" time (as women deserve our girl time) but spending the familys money is an addiction that is going to ruin your family.

I'm not sure if you have children or not, but there is a chance for him to redeem himself.

Tell him that you are packing (and taking the kids, if any) and moving in with a friend/parents/sister/aunt whatever untill he takes himself to rehab and curbs his gambiling adiction. Give him a time limit (2 weeks to get into rehab works nicely) Tell him that if he is TRULY a man, he will do it for the sake of his family and his beloved wife.

Also, remind him, that you will not disclose any information about your marital problems to your family. If you family asks, jujst tell them you are having some problems, and he is working them out. And don't give any more info than that.

if your husband does NOT want to change his ways, then you might have to divorce him. But please, try to help him change first, Divorces are ugly and expesive and bad on kids.

good luck!

Answer 7

He has got a problem! Show him what bills you have to pay and what you end up paying towards his debts and friends. I would be very upset. He needs to grow up and take responiblilty or you need to get out. He couldnt live with out you bc you take care of the nessesities...I wouldnt have it. No, he doesnt "deserve" to be at the bar 4x a week. You start going out- you deserve to!

Answer 8

Do you think this situation is good for you? Do you want to continue supporting you husband?
Do you think this is the way you can build a family?
My suggestion pay all your bills on line, on automatic transfers, so all your resposibilities are covered, and then he has less money to ask for, open you own bank account, and tell him if he doesn't seek professional help, he better find another place to live.
You have to love yourself above anyone in the world, I don't think this is a healty situation for you,
You don't mention of you have kids, but if you do, that is not the example you want to give to any of them, not to a daughter, to have so low self steem, not to a son to have zero respect ofr his famliy in the future.
Your husband thinks he deserves four days with out work?
And what to you deserve?
I think he deserves coming home one day and find his key doesn't open anymore, and find divorce papers attach to the door.
LOVE YOURSELF, love your kids if you have them, and change your life.
Do you really think that a guys who spends all night in bars, is not cheating on you? do you want to risk your health and life to STD of AIDS?
Do you want to have a pimp for a husband or a real man?
Get a divorce, that is what you really need.

Answer 9

i think of the appropriate thank you to respond to your question is with a query. have been you 2 jointly while he slept with those human beings? If the respond is not any, then I certainly think of which you're able to enable it bypass. If he did it jointly as you have been jointly, that's a diverse count and you're able to bypass away him by myself. Picturing your loved ones member with somebody else sucks, yet once you're actually not jointly, you quite shouldn't decide till he remains attempting to sleep with those human beings. on occasion human beings lie because of the fact they know the reality will harm. It sounds loopy, regardless of the undeniable fact that evidently like he lied because of the fact he loves you and wanted to construct a destiny with you. have been you satisfied the day in the past you found out? of course he's dedicated to you and only be grateful which you have a sturdy husband. enable the water bypass under the bridge because of the fact this would by no ability be satisfied and the argument will only proceed.

Answer 10

Yes I would be mad if I was the only one bringing home the bacon. Your husband needs help and needs to talk to a counselor. You should really sit down and talk to him about this matter it is very serious. Tell him he needs to wake up and smell the coffee or else he will end up owing so much you will loose everything.