Why does my 8 months old son scream ?? what do I need to do I feel as thought Im failing as a parent?

Question

my son is 8 months old and he acts spoiled--he screams at tha
top of his lungs like you would NOT believe!!!
I mean I kinda dont understand why--I keep saying hes just a baby this is how babys act--but do they I mean really havent been around a lot of babies and my son hasnt really been spoiled we dont give into his tantrims the dad is in his life --we put him in time out when he goes sumwhere he shouldnt be we smack his hands and tell him no when he touched or does something he shouldnt( but not too hard enough to knoe DONT go all crazy on me) i just kinda feel like Im failing as a parents I dont want mt son to be spoiled I want him to act nice and respectful i even practice manners with him (yes no please thank you) all that I mena i knoe hes 8 months but ...idk Im just trying Im a young parents (18 bout to be 19) im Im just kinda of new and unexpierenced OBVIOUSLY BUT I AM TRYING

yes my son is 8 MONTHS OLD NOT 18!!! and I PUT HIM IN TIME OUT IN HIS WALKER WHEN HE PULLS ON WIRES OR GOES BY THE TV (TRYING TO DO SUMTHING WITH IT) I SMACK HIS HANDS GENTLY WHEN HE GETS INTO THE DRAWRS OFCRAP HE WILL JUS KEEP DOIN IT AND DOIN IT AND THEN HE GET TO A POINT WHEN HE SCREAMS WHEN HE DOESNT GET HIS WAY AND I DO SEND HIM TO ANOTHER DIRECTION IVE READ ALL THAT STUFF BEFORE AND I HAVE DONE IT HE JUS SCREAMS LIKE CRAZZYY HE ONLY SCREAMS WHEN HE GETS HIS WAY NOT WHEN HES WET OR HUNRY NONE OF THAT JUS WHEN HE DOESNT GET LIKE FOR EXAMPLE IF HES PLAYIN WITH MY CELL PHON E WHICH HES OBSESSED WITH I TELL HIM NO AND TAKE IT AWAY FROM HIM HE STSRTS FUSSIN RELLY BAD I DONT GIVE INTO IT BUT SUMTIMES I WANT TO CUZ ITS BAD!!!

Answer 1

Ummm....he screams because he is only 8 months old. Did you mean 18 months?? Well, I'm going with you saying he's 8 months old. What the hell is a time-out to an 8 month old? My daughter is 9 months old and she doesn't even grasp the concept of "no" let alone a time out. You can't teach him manners right now. He doesn't even know how to talk. I don't know what you're doing exactly and what you're trying to accomplish, but you're going about it all wrong. He's learning that he has a voice and is using it. Leave the kid alone!

Answer 2

Let me suggest some things:

Perhaps your baby is receiving too much stimuli from the tv (flashing lights and flucuating noises), radio, etc. This apparently causes a baby to go into "mental overload." Assess your daily routines and make the necessary changes.

Perhaps your baby is crying during his/her "fussy time." I've read that this fussy time generally hits during the early to late evenings. If it's not just a dirty diaper, gas, colic, tiredness, etc, than it's probably just the fussy time that apparently parents have little control over.

I have read that the better way to "discipline" a baby is to simply distract your baby with something different. I can't say that I particularily agree with using a raised voice and slapping the hands...unless you want your child to act that way when they get to preschool/kindergarten.

I'm not sure when time out should be introduced, but I do know that the younger the child, the shorter the duration should be for time out. An 8 month old might not gain anything from time out...but it will problaby be a very usefull method in the near future!

The most important thing I think you can try to remember (when the going gets tough) is that whatever you do is modeling to your baby what he/she should do. I prefer to see mothers that use a low voice (serious, non-the-less), time out appropriately, and patient reminders followed by simple (not dramatic) consequences.

Good luck with everything... I'm about to venture into parenthood in a couple of months too... A couple months from now, I might look at what I have written and laugh hysterically at it!

Answer 3

My son is 11 months and has quite the temper on him. HE will scream, kick and cry when he is told no or if we take something away from him. I find that re-direction works great. I just redirect him to an appropriate activity. Babies at this age are into exploring and I am always explaining to my son what is right and wrong. Though he cannot communicate it back to me I still verbalize and explain why he cannot do things and show him things he can.

I myself have a temper, always had, so my son has a bit of me in him. No big deal, it takes patience and time. A baby's long and short term memory are not like adults. I am not to sure if time-outs are age appropriate at this time. Those work better when your child can understand the concept of right and wrong. You cannot spoil a child at this age, just take a deep breath and try approach it In a different light. I wish the best for you and your family!

Answer 4

You should start time-outs at 2 yrs. old and you should be calling your pediatrician's office so often with questions that you have the phone # memorized. Mine told me that they expect questions with your first child. He jokingly told me that I was limited to 20 questions per day. I called frequently. Try joining a breast feeding support group or a mom's group. They are great places for asking questions. You will need answers from people who have young children. Things have changed a lot since the time your mom had you.

If he's 18 months and screaming, then he's trying to communicate and is frustrated that he can't. Try some basic sign language - food, drink, sleep, etc. If he's 8 months, maybe he has an ear infection. Whatever you do, keep your cool. He's just a baby who deserves to be loved. If this gets to be overwhelming, there are some great antidepressant medicines for you that will help you to cope with this and not be so angry or stressed.

Answer 5

My son was the same way at that age and when he pitched a fit for no reason I put him in his crib and told him I would come back and get him when he stopped screaming.(didnt really understand it yet) But he did learn that I was upset with him by the tone of my voice. Or sometimes if my son started screaming I would move him to another room close enough for him to see me and told him I didnt want him by me screaming like that. Try to ignore the tantrums if you can and when he settles down give him a hug and tell him you love him. I'm really big on my children respecting me so this situation is a good place to start. Keep explaining why we are doing what were doing. He will learn very quickly he can't always get what he wants everytime. Good luck!!

Answer 6

You don't put 8 month old babies in time out and you certainly do NOT hit them. No wonder he screams. First of all STOP hitting this BABY, then get it through your heads that he IS a B-A-B-Y, and INFANT not an adult, Not a teenager, at 8 months he doesn't understand the concept of "No" He doesn't know what the hell "no" is. From where I'm sitting it's not the baby who has the problems at all, it's the parents who are in DIRE need of parenting classes, I suggest you contact your local social services and find out if there are any available to you or at the very least have a "home care" nurse come in and TEACH you how to treat a baby. This isn't a rag doll it's a BABY and you don't hit, and you don't put him in time out when he doesn't UNDERSTAND

Answer 7

He is not screaming for no reason. He may be wet, hungry, uncomfortable, sleepy, or frightened. 8 month old babies tend to be pretty forgiving.

You might think, and I say this gently, of seek out parenting classes or a mom's type meeting at a community centre. You are not alone.

Really, no one teaches anybody how to parent. You are not failing - you are seeking advice now and that is not a sign of failure.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Relax. You are doing fine. A lot of babies go through a screaming phase. Sometimes I think they just want to hear themselves be loud.
The time out thing won't work yet. This is for older kids who can understand why they are in time out. At 8 months, he won't make the connection between the "crime" and the punishment.
You are in a hard part of raising baby, so try to take care of yourself as well. And don't beat yourself up. Be proud that you are responsible and loving.

Answer 9

Their all angels. If you really want to know if its a behavior problem take him to a friends house. This is the hard part leave him there for a couple of hours return. Ask they how he responded. The failing bit is just you your doing fine there is know right or wrong way.

Answer 10

You are not failing as a parent. Babies just scream. It's what they do. If he could be hungry, sleepy, in need of a new diper, or he may just want some attention.

I am probably not the one to be giving advice though (I'm only 17) but it seems to me that you are doing good.

I wish you and your child the best of luck.

god bless you!


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