I am a Christian, and so are my parents. My boyfriend of two years is not Christian. (He's Unitarian Universalist, but doesn't really know what he believes. Does not believe in God.) My parents don't want me to be with him because they believe that the ultimate end of dating is marriage, and that it is extremely bad and unwise for a Christian to marry and non-Christian. I am absolutely in love with my boyfriend, and though it's sometimes hard because we have very different beliefs, he's still everything to me and the love of my life. I could see us spending the rest of our lives together, but I don't know how to make my parents accept our relationship.
2007-02-18 07:18:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm a sixth generation Unitarian Universalist. Lot's of us have married Christians. Bad news is Christian's draw circles that exclude us, good news is we draw circles that include them.
You don't mention how old you are. That would certainly make a difference to me as a parent. Of course, if you are over 18, then it's entirely your choice.
You do need to look at the practical aspect of your faith. Does it negatively impact your relationship? Could you raise children that were not Christians? Have you attended church with your UU boyfriend? How did it feel? Could you see yourself attending a UU church as a wife and mother?
Final truth is that you can't make your parents accept him. They either will take the mature road and adjust or they will continue to nurture their ignorance.
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2007-02-18 15:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Magic One 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Unitarian Universalist. I hate to add gloom to your life and point out a failing in one of my own faith, but if he hasn't asked you to marry him in two years, he isn't going to.
This gives you two ugly choices;
1) Tell your parents you aren't going to marry him, you are just going to have fun together until you are {18/20/25}, then you'll break up and start looking for someone to marry. Note that each year you wait the pool of availible men gets smaller.
2) Drop him now, wait six months for the ache in your heart to dull and find someone in your denomination to marry.
Your parents are never going to accept him.
If by "Love of my life" you mean the only one in the world for you, think of it this way; if your family had moved halfway across the country when you were 14, do you really think you would have died an old maid? Or would you have found a soul mate in {Seattle / Denver / Baltimore} ?
There are some people in my congregation who are married to non-UU's. It only works if the spouse isn't a particularly devout Christian, Jew or Sikh.
2007-02-19 02:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes it more difficult when your parents don't like who you choose, but it's not the end of the world. If you love him, that's what matters. They will either accept him or not. You still have to live your life. Good luck!
2016-05-24 03:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one that loves him, not your parents. Continue to live a good Christian life and take a good hard look at your boyfriend. Talk to God about it and if you still like what you see then go for it. Never stop loving your parents, but it's you life.
2007-02-18 07:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the way i see it, i don't think it really matters what parents say when it come to love...i personally haven't found the one for me yet but i will some day and I'm not going to listen to what anyone else thinks because if I'm in love with him and he loves me back just as much none of that will matter...( D (im Christan 2 by the way and so are my parents and i might someday have the same problem, so i wish you all the luck in the world!)
2007-02-18 07:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end u have to do what makes YOU happy. If you live a life of trying to please the parents then you will end up miserable. I know. I did for the longest time. On the other hand, sometimes parents are right! But yah... you need to choose if you are more important to you or if your parents are.
2007-02-18 07:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Caramella 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your religion matters to you, you wouldn't date outside your faith. So I'm guessing that if you continue with this guy and eventually marry him, you won't remain faithful to your church and religion.
Anyway, while you're spending the rest of your life with this boy, how will you raise your children? Is he going to stay home on Sunday while you go to church, or do you think he'll convince you to skip services?
2007-02-18 07:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep showing and telling ur rents that u love him a lot, and eventually they see the light. i am a Christian so i can see where ur rents r coming from, but just keep showing them how much u like, i mean love, him, and GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-18 07:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by dancin' chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋