I have a really good friend that is 4 years younger than me (8). he is on my little brother's hockey team. The thing is that my friend really doesnt like my little bro. although i dont care, my mom does. she doesnt want him over anymore because she says family is first. i really dont want to give up a friend because of my brother. what should i do?
2007-02-18 07:17:43 · 12 answers · asked by cool dude 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im not be able to change his mind bout my brother.
2007-02-18 07:26:27 · update #1
I think you're right and that you and your mom might want to re-think this whole thing. Like if he's on the TEAM with your brother, might it not send a wrong message about team-mates to the detriment of the team itself by him staying away?
I can understand that your younger brother feels as though it's his right to be included in activities with you and your friend, but here's where mom needs to tell your brother that this friend is _your_ friend and that you need to have that friendship separate and apart from your little brother...like you need your own autonomy to pick and choose your own friends.
There always will come a time when a younger sibling becomes jealous of his elder because he/she seemingly is being given more favoritism. Mom needs to tell your younger brother than his time will come just as yours has and that he should not be jealous. Mom might invite other of your younger brother's friends over so he has someone else to invest his time with.
Good Luck--Growing up with siblings isn't easy, is it?
2007-02-18 07:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Moe J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Family doesn't always have to come first. You should put yourself first sometimes. Most of the time though... you really should consider your family. They'll be with you throughout your entire life. Just think about how you would feel if your brother became friends with a boy in your class at school. Let's pretend that this boy didn't like you. How do you think that would make you feel? Do you think it would cause you to feel just awful? I think it would. And that is what you are doing to your little brother. Your mom is right. It's not ok to befriend someone who makes it clear that they don't like your little brother. Also... if you think about it. He's not being a friend to you if he's not nice to your brother. Go give your mama and brother a hug and tell them you are sorry. And call up that friend of yours and tell him that you like and love your brother and you're not willing to hurt his feelings for a friendship from someone who doesn't feel the same.
2007-02-18 15:26:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Im sure you love your brother,but like your freind too ,but your brother is more important to you.Imagine how your little brother feels right now,when youd rather be with your freind than him.He will be thinking to himself,why does my big bro prefer to hang around with someone who doesnt like me instead of hanging with me.This is probably hurting his feelings but he wont show it because hed rather act like a big guy. He maybe thinking youd rather have your freind as your little brother because hes the same age as him. I know it doesnt always seem like it but mums do know best. Honest! Hope you choose your little bro and make him feel proud,its the right thing to do .BE HAPPY.BYEEEE
2007-02-18 15:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by patsy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normally I would agree with your mom, but this is a little difficult. Do you know why this kid doesnt like your brother? If not, ask him. If its something stupid then tell him he's being petty and leave him alone. What goes around will come around and then he'll know how it feels. Stick with your family on this one.
2007-02-18 15:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First find out why the two of them don't get along, then whork with the feedback you get from that, try to get the two of them to be friends. If that doesn't work go over your friend's house hang out with him any where else but your home.
2007-02-18 15:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Maxilary 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be a good friend to him.. Hang around .. Have fun.. But family first! So dont get too close a friend to him..
2007-02-18 15:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by krishna c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
friend ships end, family is forever, have fun with your friends as you can and hold them close, your family will always forgive you, but your friends might not. Stay with you friends because they could help you later, but you mom and bro will get over it
2007-02-18 15:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by cookiemonster2820 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be hanging out with kids your own age hun. Family does come first.
I think you are the one going and giving all the good advice a thumbs down. You don't like what you're hearing do you??
2007-02-18 15:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to get him to go around your brother....try to get them 2 to be friends too...
2007-02-18 15:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by *Isabella's Mommy 7/23/11* <3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family always comes first! 'cause when you are in trouble, your family will be there for you and take your trouble for them not your friends.
2007-02-18 15:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kary 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋