I love my wife too much but the only problem is she isnt mature enough.she sometimed does things i am really fed up with.Those things are just not hurting but childish.I expect her to be mature but she is not.I am also not perfect but the little things are expected out of everybody which is known as common sense.She sometimes looks as dumb as an idiot but at last I love her so much that I cant do anything.I tried talking to her many times and for somedays she did well but agin the same problem persists.Please help.I want her to be smart and sensible.
2007-02-18 07:12:44 · 21 answers · asked by MOHIT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
friend, the world is a mirror for 'it reflects to us, what we are inside'! nature has presented you with an oppurtunity to perfect your self through your wife.. we are made to learn the very same things in which we think or thought we are good at!.. if you really love her, accept your wife unconditionally, give her space to learn and above all be a role model to her - 'be the change you want to see in the world' and for god's sake please dont preach her.. you know what our problem is? we fall in love where as love is empowering, uplifting(rise) in nature!
2007-02-18 16:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by bala 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be begging and pleading, but in her mind, there is no incentive (or reason) to change. The next time she does something childish, tell her that this has got to stop and that if she wants this marriage to survive, she is goign to have to change. Tell her love may have brought you two together, but her childish behavior is going to split you two up. I bet she will get the message REAL QUICK!
2007-02-18 15:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You married her like this and this is it now. You can help her with certain things but don't put her down infront of others as you will undermine her confidence. When she starts acting silly, why don't you give her a look or make a noise that only she will understand as a pointer to stop.
2007-02-18 15:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by JJ88 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, it is difficult to change her as this is what she is. since u love her so much, instead of changing her y not trying changing urself first. Mayb change ur expectation, allow her more time to change gradually. Dun expect her to change so fast. it can take years. Mayb change the way to deal with her. Start with urself so tat she can see your changes you made for her. But remember less speed, no haste, otherwise ur marriage wld b on the edge.
2007-02-18 15:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by a girl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WELL IN ORDER TO GET HELP WE WOULD NEED TO KNOW WHAT SHE IS DOING. YOU SEE, IT MAY BE YOU, NOT HER WITH THE PROBLEM. YOU HAVE NOT SAID ONE THING THAT SHE HAS DONE WRONG. MARRIAGE IS WORK AND LOTS OF IT. FOR BETTER, FOR WORST. YOU MAY HAVE TO DEAL WITH HER UNTIL SHE GROWS INTO THE MARRIAGE. YOU WILL BE OKAY JUST BE THERE TO FIX WHAT SHE BREAK AND WHEN SHE IS FALLING BE THERE TO CATCH HER BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT YOUR JOB IS NOW. LOVE HER EVEN WHEN ALL THESE THINGS HAPPENS. JUST DON;T EXCEPT HER CHEATING ON YOU. AS LONG AS SHE DON'T CHEAT ON YOU, BE THERE TO TEACH HER. YOU ARE NOT HER PARENTS, YOU ARE HER HUSBAND, WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE, GET HELP BEFORE YOU REALLY NEED IT.
2007-02-18 15:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by BLUE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there a huge age difference between you two?IF not then,Did you ever admire her when she cooked food for you,or she washed your clothes?M sure you never did this.Stop scolding,abusing and ignoring her.Admire her more for her right things than emphasing on her mistakes.She is innocent not mad.Start bosting her up.Follow this practice for just 3 days its my request to you.
2007-02-18 15:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by pooja a 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long did you and she date before getting married? It sounds as though you had the idea that she was _partially_ okay for you even then, but that you thought you could CHANGE HER once you were married.
WRONG !
Why not try talking yourself into appreciating the lady for just who SHE IS, Loving her too much...I think NOT!
If you loved her too much you'd love her UNCONDITIONALLY...WARTS AND ALL.
GROW UP BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!
2007-02-18 15:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Moe J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is soooo sweet you dont see many men advetising there love for a women like you have most of the time it is women that love men more your sweet and i think you have answered the question your self you say she is not mature enough and if she cant see how much you love her then maybe she is not good enough for you
2007-02-18 18:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by princess 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Accept her for who she is and one cannot change another without proper communication about what the two of you loves.
2007-02-18 15:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
isnt mature?!
try to do the same things that she did and if it annoyed her then there's a hope for her to change if not thentry to skip it as long as you love her
2007-02-18 15:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by Hodica H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋