My boyfiriend moved to Redditch 4 weeks ago to start a new job. We are still together and have a solid relationship. He is now asking me to move down there with him but I don't think am ready. Your views please
2007-02-18 07:12:07 · 14 answers · asked by Becks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should never do what you are not ready for, it will cause tension and conflict and ruin the relationship.
2007-02-18 07:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f your not ready then dnt do it? i tried a long distance thing it was ok for a while but then it came to the point were i or he couldnt be bother travelling all that way for a day or so together he wanted to move in with me, i had to make the choice of let it happen and find out if we could do it or stop it now to make it easier on both of use, i choose to end it, i wont say it dnt hurt because it did but life goes on and some times you heal quicker when there far away (if you get me???)
i hope this bit of waffle has helped :) good luck!
2007-02-18 07:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by mummyzgall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it until u feel ready to. If the relationship is solid, u will be fine until the time is right for u to move there.
Good luck xx
2007-02-18 07:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iv been with my chick for 5 years and i have always been away. If you can just pick up where you left off in a relationship your onto a winner. I work in Afghanistan so i have a risk on my life at times too, which makes it harder! Just get massivly into work and your friends at home and it does make it easier all round. Your not alone!!!!
2007-02-18 22:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by will 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be ready. Go if you feel like it and stay if it really makes you upset. Go down there for a week and see how you feel. Make out a list of pro's and con's and talk with him. Good luck.
2007-02-18 07:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personaly would not go for a long distance relationship. now that he chose to work in a land far far away then that means that you now need to decide from three options:
1) put up with not being able to see him very often
2)move down there and move on
3)dump him (harsh but still an option!)
the decision ultimatly is in your hands.
do what your intuition tells you to.
2007-02-18 07:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have been married to my man for 21 yrs, and he is in the RN> if you want to know bout long distance relationships, marry a person in the forces!
its tough to be apart from the one you love, but it can work, and can make the relationship stronger!
you have to be able to trust tho...
don't move anywhere if you don't feel ready..
love will wait, and endure distance if its meant too..
good luck
2007-02-18 07:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by tiny_lou1965 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im going thru the samething in long distance relationships my girlfreind wants to get married and come down and live with me but my family dont believe in it which is kinda sad kuz only If they only knew how how sweet she is and everything but i know how it goes
2007-02-18 07:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sean S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships seldom work out...but they're not impossible. Communication and honesty are keys to a successful relationship. I wish you the best of luck...........
2007-02-18 07:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at least you dont need to worry about him cheating.
redditch isnt that nice (i have family there and its my opinion) so only relocate if you really want to.
you dont say how long you have been with the guy. if its less than a year dont go.
2007-02-18 07:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋