Has anyone ever been raped? How did it happen to you? are you mentally ok now?

Answer 1

Yes, I have. The situation is kind of mute but it could have been prevented had I avoided him all together. I don't blame myself for it occurring nor do I believe I set myself up for it. I, in no way, enticed him or acted in such a way to prompt a rape. I was really young at the time and couldn't have done any of that stuff. he was just a very twisted and perverted person. I will say that I am okay mentally. I'm not suicidal or anything extreme. I do get depressed but not deeply. I'm not the same person I was and do believe that had it not happened I wouldn't have the kind of personality characteristics I do now. I went through therapy and have been in a healthy relationship with a very supportive man.

Answer 2

yes, and no i will never be mentally ok to what i was before its just another kind of ok. How it happened that is between him and his god. I refuse to relive it.

Answer 3

I was by my stepfather when I was young. I am okay now as long as I stay away from him. If I don't the feelings come back.

Answer 4

I was raped 5 years ago by people I considered my friends. Basically what happened what that a female friend of mine (after a night of heavy drinking) decided it would be fun to fool around, and she wanted her husband to watch. I agreed with this as long as he did not touch me. Several times into it he touched me. I had to stop and remind him of our agreement. Then the next thing I remember what that he was on top of me. Afterwards I tried to blow the whole thing off as a bad night, until it happened again. Yes, this is the "rape me once, shame on you... rape me twice, shame on me" scenario. My female friend wanted to patch things up because, according to her, she didn't want to lose my friendship. I agreed to try again as long as nothing of the above kind ever happened again. One day after returning from a day trip with my female friend, I went into the house to say goodbye to her family (she had 3 young kids). Her husband was there and started making remarks about me being his "second wife" and so on. My friend went into her room and refused to come out, and started calling me in there, saying she wanted to show me something. I went in there, hesitantly. Her husband followed and locked the door behind me, then told me I had to be quiet so I wouldn't wake the kids. I froze and was shocked by the situation. My friend was insisting that we have a threesome again and started trying to take off my clothes. Since I didn't regard the first time as a rape, and coming from a history of being sexually abused, I just phased out. I don't remember much from that night. It wasn't until 2 years later that my boyfriend (we had hooked up that year so I was single when all of the above occurred), who works in corrections, explained to me exactly what happened. For an entire year I was plagued by flashbacks and anxiety. I would flip out if I was even remotely reminded of what happened. My boyfriend stayed with me through everything. He even helped me report it, even though I knew nothing would come about. The important thing was for me to take that step and tell myself that what had happened was not okay. My boyfriend was the key to helping me work through everything. He gave me sound advice on how to work through the panic attacks and encouraged me to think about what happened, because ignoring it wouldn't help me move past it. He also worked with me on self-defense moves. After 3 years of remembering what happened and living with it every day, I can say that I am a much stronger person now. I will NEVER let myself be victimized again. I don't think what happened to me was a good thing by any means, but I came out on the other side confident that I was worth something and that I could stand up for myself. I have periods of time where I get triggered and relive everything and have flashbacks, but I work through them. I have come to a place that I can bring up the memories and work through the scenario, but I change things up. I beat them up and escape. I know I will never be the same, that I have to live with this every day, but I can be strong and okay, even though something horrible happened to me. Oh, and btw, my boyfriend and I got married this year :). Despite being raped, I have been able to come to a place where sex is enjoyable again and I have control over my sexuality, no one else does. I think being raped is a very horrific and powerful thing that no one should ever go through; I don't want anyone to get the idea that I am glad that I was raped because I'm a stronger person now. I would much rather go back and change things and become a stronger person without it.