after a divorce,why children stay with their mothers,why not with fathers?

Answer 1

Because most Mums would die for their children,
Not many fathers would
I can't even get my ex to see my baby, let alone look after her

Answer 2

in the past the courts placed children with the mother b/c of the importance of "bonding, emotional security, etc." as it has been proven in multiple tests & evaluations, the importance of a Mother's love & touch & how vulnerable young children are if they are removed or in some way prevented from developing this type of bonding. However, in recent years courts have been taken into consideration the health & well being of the child as a whole, & the stability of both parents...the optimum situation is "Joint Custody", with liberal visitation, open lines of communication between the parents. Thus having both a Mom & Dad involved equally in the child's life, this has shown to give the child the best chance for having a stable, secure childhood, as well as, strong self esteem & self respect & being able to have healthy relationships with friends & later in life with a partner. (all these characteristics are formed very early in life, & start at home with the parents.) My stepdaughter has lived with her Daddy & i for many years, as this was the best situation for her. Each case needs to be determined independently - based on the individual people involved.....what applies to one family doesn't appy to another. If the father can provide a more stable, healthy environment for the child then the child should be with the Father. Many times the opposite occurs b/c the father doesn't pursue custodial rights, thinking he is sparing the child or thinking the courts will find against him...

Answer 3

Since the mother has traditionally been the caretaker of children, and given how many "biological dads" are out there (men who do not act as real fathers to their kids), the court system favors the mother in almost all instances.

Unless you can prove that a child's mother is not the best person to care for him her, kids will go to the mitehr.

But, don't forget about joint custody where both parents equally share the role

Answer 4

Because generally, in the eyes of the judge, by default the mother is generally better suited to take care of the children and may have a stronger bond with the children than the father does. Now that may not always be true. And if it isnt, the father should take it to court with evidence. Also i believe if the child is over 12, he/she may have a choice.

Answer 5

This is not true in USA any more, but a bias in this respect does exists as you describe it, all over the world..

Mothers were always consider natural nurturer, of children, which has some truth.

But court will take every thing in to account/examine in most locations.

Then and then only they will award the custody to best suitable partner.

Answer 6

that is the way the stupid courts think
if it was some one in their family with a crack head mom it would be so different
i know a mom that got her two girls when she should not keep them the father has proof that she is on all kinds of drugs and the kids are left alone and the courts still wont give the girls to the GOOD dad some times life SUCKS

Answer 7

Courts always favor the mothers, even if the mother was a terrible one who threw things and called them swear words and such. My husband lost custody of his kids to a woman like that when he divorced her because she also CHEATED and she still got the kids. Sucks.

Answer 8

Can be done if the mother wants them to live with father in court.

Answer 9

It all depends on the situation. Like for me, my husband would most likely not get full custody because I have been raising our son basically alone. He is in the military and has been gone for most of our son's two years. I'm not saying that it is fair to him, but would it be fair to me if he got full custody? That's why they have joint custody. Why do people assume that the child will never see both their parents if they are divorced?

Answer 10

I stayed with my dad because it was a more stable condition and because I chose to....I was 15 and fought with my mom all the time. I certainly bettered my relationship with my mom. These days if the kids are old enough the courts take what they want into consideration.