Why is he lying to me?

Question

So I know this guy, he's a friend, and I like him, he like me and things have happened between us but we're just friends and it's going to stay like that. However, he's been quite distant with me recently. I'll ask him a question and he will reply with something that I know isn't true. He blocked/deleted me on myspace and said it was an accident but you cannot block someone accidentally. This lie especially annoyed me because he was laughing about it. If he didn't want to speak to me, he'd block me on msn etc too but he didn't. I value the friendship and don't want to lose him as a friend but I really fear this is going to happen if I don't sort it out but I just don't know how

I don't want a relationship with him, I just want our friendship to be normal, thanks

Also, I don't just know him on the internet, I know him properly too

Answer 1

When sex is not part of the equation.. if it is before/during or after sex or in anticipation of more sex then chances are he is spinning you a line to get his way..this friendship is one sided - as sore as it is, I think you are just a notch to him.. to block you and lie about it speaks volumes. He does not respect you or value your friendship..

Entirely his loss honey - to get close to other people you need to make yourself vulnerable in many respects.. you did this and got burned.. all you lost was a shallow loser with no consideration for other people..he on the other hand lost someone who genuinely cared for him so he is the real loser (although you will be the one to pay in pain)

Look at his actions not his words - don't inflate his ego any more by even asking him about things, if he cared he would not do it, lie about it or laugh at you - you are worth way more than that..

Hope this helps.. be wary in future though - more frogs out there than princes and just because YOU are genuine does not mean (despite his crocodile tears) he is.. if he is the real deal he won't mind proving it to you AND more importantly you won't have to be sitting worrying why he is doing things to upset you..

Answer 2

Sweetie let it go, you see the signs he is not worth holding on to. What kind of friend would block you, not a true one. Don't try and make an excuse for him if he blocked you from one acct, that obviously means his is trying to tell you something without telling you verbally. Just back off for awhile.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

'Relationships' can be complex creatures, difficult to see, understand and fix.

When one persons feelings mutate into something else, then there is nothing much that can be done, the become what they are (for 'that' person, at least). If they have changed and you don't like it, then you would serve your own interests best by stating so and what you feel.

If they can't be returned to what they were (likely as not) then you make up your mind to accept what they n ow are or ~ you say Good by.

You have total control over yourself in that relationship and how you behave.

Use it wisely ~ and good luck.
Sash.
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Answer 4

You need to confront him about this - ask him why. The worst that can happen is you will lose a friendship, but do you really want him as a friend anyway if this is how he treats you? Sounds like a child to me...

Answer 5

Maybe he thinks you two are getting too close and just like you he doesn't want to be more than friends and he wants to cut you out to prevent this from happening. Leave him alone for a while. He'll come running back

Answer 6

Cutie,

I think he is playing with your feelings and that you ought to find your self genuine friends. When someone hurts you while laughing it means they have no depth of feeling. It's not funny and you can get emotional damage. You don't have to earn peoples love. Find some nice people to play on the Internet with.

Answer 7

You Should keep trying to talk to him, dont get angry with him. Tell him you feel this way.
this happened to me once, and it hurt really bad but dont worry things will get better if you give it time. You did say that you were only friend but when people feel things for other people you do things you would never of done before.
but i promise you things will get better.

Answer 8

just explain tht u r just good friends let him know u know he is lying and reassure him that he doesnt need to lie to u no matter what tell him u dont want to lose his friendship but be firm and tell him u wont tolerate lies and u dont deserve to be lied to hope this helps ..

Answer 9

beinging honest what im reading you must feel for him more than he does for u but the only soultion i would say is dont get in touch with him for a few days see if he get in touch with u and maybe he will realize ur still a good mate 2

Answer 10

I think the only way of dealing with this is to ask him straight out what's going on rather than ***** footing about.