My husbands ex. wife whom he married twice and mother of his 16 yr old daughter is extremley upset with me!I have only been married to my hubby for a year and half but he has put me in his will aparently as the executor.Also i am supposed to be the sole beneficiary according to her ?I am not sure what is going on i have never even seen my husbands will so i dont understand what half the things she is saying actually mean?All i was told by my husband was that he has a letter that is in a saftety deposit box and that if anything happens to him i am supposed to read it and follow the instructions?Should i talk to my hubby about this?
2007-02-18 06:14:34 · 9 answers · asked by Melrose G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 24 going on 25 and my husband is 14 yrs older than .He just had a heart attack and was diagnosed with lung cancer so i have been more worried about his health and odd mood swings than anything else.
2007-02-18 06:19:26 · update #1
Its really not your problem. If you are worried about it, tell your hubby to talk to his ex and get it straightened out.
She has no reason to be angry with you.
2007-02-18 06:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by independent101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss it with the husband.
Though I do not find it odd at all to have the woman I love as the SOLE executor. I definatly would not leave it up to someone I divorced (perhaps my situation is different, but I DO NOT like any of my ex's, and feel I should leave them absolutely nothing to them).
But if an ex or the daughter is putting pressure on you, that might be another thing to discuss with the husband, but... beware, what you don't want to do is become known as someone they feel they can push around. And you don't want to be known as when they say something to you, they know you will say it to the husband. This is a cruel way to send messages to the husband through you. It is not an easy situation you are in.
But you are entitled to be the sole executor of his will, no doubt about that. The ex may be a little sore at this, but that is not your fault they could not work things out. And do not feel guilty about being entitled. You are the wife, you are the current love, you are entitled to the privledges and benifits of the position.
2007-02-18 06:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by rfriend306 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on what state you are in. Most likely, the ex wife has no claim to anything. But, in Texas for instance, if I remarry, I can put my new wife in the will, but at least 1/2 my estate must go to my children. The other half I can do with as I please.
Being executor of the will doesn't mean that everything is left to you. It means you are in charge of ensuring his final wishes are carried out.
What likely happened is that the required portion of the estate is left to his daughter, but it will be placed in trust until she is of age. You are likely named on that trust as well. In my case, my parents are in charge of my estate until my children are adults. Of course, my ex felt I should name her on the trust, but it didn't happen. What will happen, given my children are young, the ex will receive a lump sum child support payment from the estate, then the rest will be held for my children until they are 18. I have provisions in there for my parents to purchase vehicles for each when they turn 17. Also, neither child can receive the money directly until they are 25. They can use the trust to pay for college before 25. But, if they decide not to go to college, they cannot receive the money until they turn 25.
Best bet, talk to your husband about this. That way, you know what to expect should the worst happen. From the sounds of it, the ex is going to stir up trouble if this happens. Being prepared will allow you to complete your duties as executor much easier.
2007-02-18 07:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Secondly I´d advise to your husband to stop telling his ex everything and let the Lawyers handle it. It Could be that your husband wants to cause pain on his ex. To avoid any speculation,stop the talk and let the Lawyers handle this on paper. I´m pretty sure that you can read for yourself. Don´t be naive. Tell him to show you the paperwork; then read it for yourself. Secrectly make copys of all paperwork pertaining to you, then keep it secure.
2007-02-18 06:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely talk with your husband about this or you will be in the middle of a huge battle with his ex later. Just tell him you want to know what is going on and be aware.
2007-02-18 06:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by katie d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should get him to get that will and go to the attorney who helped him and get the attorney to explain to you everything that is in the will. Really you should be aware of everything so you can know how and what to do. I have seen situations like the one you are in get extremely complicated and drama filled. I mean someone is going to feel like they are left out. The attorney can explain to you all the details and legal ramifications. You really should be aware of everything especially since your husband has a lot of medical problems.
2007-02-18 06:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex is crazy. Did she actually think he would leave her everything? She got what he owed her in the divorces! My only concern is his daughter.
2007-02-18 06:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by orchid0923 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did don't worry till the time comes.......
2007-02-18 06:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should....
2007-02-18 06:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋