My Ex divorced me after 18 yrs- he had an affair with old HS GF for over a year.We own a business that neither one of us can afford to walk away from.His sister is very close to me and works in the office with me.She doesn't like how verbally abusive and how close to physically striking me he has come when we have arguments.He is very jealous of our relationship and has forbidden me to see her outside of work-we still do and he has found out.I told him he cannot forbid me to see somebody-his sister is an adult and can make her own choices.He is with his GF and he becomes very threatening - verbally usually - towards me and anybody I date. I don't think it would change even if I didn't work with him. He wants what he cant have-I'm scared to bring another person into this equation because I don't know if he'll become physically violent to my new BF. I don't want life to pass me by though.
2007-02-18 05:40:16 · 10 answers · asked by just trying to live my life - T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, he can only be abusive to you if you let him. Stand up for yourself. You should also do whatever you can to get out of the business. Let him have it if that is what he wants. At least you will have your freedom. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO HIM ANY MORE AND DO NOT HAVE TO ANSWER TO HIM. For the time being keep your personal life and your business seperate.
2007-02-18 05:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alaska 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're stuck with the situation (you created) until you change it. The judge never should've allowed you to divorce and keep the business together. In most cases, a judge won't allow this, so you must've given him some indication that the asset could/should remain a joint one.
I would take him back to court, and have the business liquidated or split somehow.....or you back out on your own become a silent partner.
2007-02-18 05:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 06:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that is heavy. You might want to consider having him buy you out. You really need out of that situation. Whatever the business is, I'm sure you can mangage off what is offered until you can find another career move. Good luck.
2007-02-18 06:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court. Maybe you can win his half of the business and get a restraining order. Don't let him run your life. He's the one who screwed up here.
2007-02-18 05:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by orchid0923 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why don't you hire a lawyer and start to gather your evidence of his abusive behavior....video tape him....make voice tapes of your conversations...do what ever you have to do to get the evidence...then if you need to ..get a restraining order which will keep him away from you and from the business...that should wake him up.....good luck and be careful...but take back control of your own life
2007-02-18 05:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be free of him, sell him your half of the business and walk away. Move to a new town (I did) and start your business there. This guy is not going to ease up.
2007-02-18 05:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by nikki newman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have security put in video surveillance, with voice recording and catch it all on tape.
You would nail his @ss with some decent footage.
2007-02-18 05:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, and get a restraining order.
2007-02-18 05:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police & charge him with assault...
Sue him for being abusive...
2007-02-18 05:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋