We both spend some amount of time in the buff around the house (children are out) and she seems to enjoy it. But has resisted a suggestion to go "public". Went one time with her, very short visit, but really did not discuss expectations before and left in a short time. I have been back several times with her permission, and found the experiences very enjoyable and saw or experienced nothing that I feel would upset her. She seems more concerned with seeing other people nude than being seen herself. For the record, we are 49 and 47 respectively. Married, and very committed, two teenage children who know nothing about this. No desire to include them.
2007-02-18 05:16:31 · 34 answers · asked by mzdab3000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah, but go for it anyway
2007-02-26 03:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by thatdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she were glasses?
When I was younger, if I was in a sauna with a group of people, my reaction was the same as your wife's. I just wasn't interested in seeing others naked.
So, I took my glasses off and all I see is a blurred image.
Discuss your visits and when the resort is having a special function that your wife would enjoy attending (especially if it's clothing required affair) so she could meet some of the people. Or invite a couple that you think your wife would enjoy the company of, out to dinner to meet your wife.
If she's comfortable with a couple of the people who go to the resort, she will feel more comfortable with the idea of another short visit to the resort.
2007-02-26 01:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by maj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong to want to convince your wife to visit a nudist club with you. But, it must be her decision. You don't want to pressure her into doing it, then if she does not enjoy the experience, she will blame you. My experience has been that most women will feel comfortable being naked before other persons than her husband if the setting is right. You also need to try to determine what your own motives are. When I first asked my wife to go to a nudist club, she said "Oh, I couldn't go naked in front of a bunch of other men!" but when the situation arose naturally, at a clothes-optional beach, she was able to undress and enjoy herself without worrying about what men might be looking at her.
2007-02-24 01:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to convince her, just let her know it's something you'd enjoy experiencing with her and relate your experiences and address the areas you feel are holding her back (how is that dealt with on the resort re: other people's nude behavior)?
Most people I've known that have been did enjoy it and found it to be a friendly community of people, not a meat market or orgy. Just people who happen to like to spend time naked.
Maybe in time your wife will choose to join you on a visit...but if she doesn't want to, that needs to be okay too.
2007-02-18 05:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about it and let her know that you enjoy the freedom and would like her to share the experience with you.
If she objects, then let her know that if she ever changes her mind that you would welcome her with open arms.
You gotta make sure that the club has something that is of interest to her outside of being nude. And the male population can't have any pervs allowed!
Maybe an RV campground (they often have trailers to rent) or a tent and RV campground with a more outdoorsy feel like camping. A private nudist campground with boating, hiking, tennis, volleyball, hot tub, swimming pool, sundeck, etc., ..., sounds kinda nice.
This is the kind of place you could go alone with club and wife permission if she won't go.
Good luck. Don't harrass her into going, just create the option.
2007-02-18 05:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by Bart Simpson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try asking the the question in a different light.
Since my wife is obviously uncomfortable and I love her very much and would never want her to be in a position of being uncomfortable no matter what, is it wrong for me to try to convince her to visit the nudist resort?
Your having to convince her is your having to persuade her to see things your way and do what you like to do when she is obviously not comfortable with it. If you love her as much as you say you do then back off and leave her alone about this ok.
Not trying to be harsh, but too many relationships go sour because of selfishness or foolishness. Take care of yourself and your wife!
2007-02-18 05:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Arene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is content at home with her nudity, then why do you feel the need to go be around other people that is naked. You are so committed to her, then what is the attraction of going to a nudist resort? If that's your thing, then don't push it on her. You are lucky you have an understanding and stable wife, because allot of wives would have said HELL NO. to the idea.
2007-02-23 14:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push your wife into anything she is not comfortable with. You are lucky she does not mind you going. I think most men are more comfortable showing off their bodys than women are. At 49 shes not a young chick anymore. Be happy with sharing your Nude bodys with each other. Its not necessary to flaunt them in front of other people, to be happy. Be glad you have a good faithfull trusting wife.
2007-02-26 04:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than trying to convince her just ask her opinion of that short visit and really listen to what she has to say.
It would be awful if she eventually accepts to go to please you, if she doesn't like that for whatever reason, the resentment will grow and hurt both of you.
Anything that makes you both happy is OK, but if there are limits then it's very important not to cross those limits, there's where love and respect stands, right
2007-02-18 05:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People at these resorts are at various stages of undress, and physical fitness. If your wifes problem is viewing these other people, then you've got to respect that.
As far as I'm concerned, it's a personal choice, and you shouldn't be "convincing" your wife to go. She already knows what she can handle and what she cannot. If you keep trying you're going to push her away.
2007-02-18 05:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why push? You know she isn't interested right now. The less pressure, the less she'll worry about 'going public'.
Enjoy her sweet naked a s s around the house and if she rethinks it later, she rethinks it. I know the theory of nudism is not about sex but personally I would be so busy bending her over every stick of furniture in the house I wouldn't have time to go out without her.
2007-02-18 05:24:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋