Why are guys (including the ones you are married to) confusing?

Question

My husband is one way one minute and completly another the next. Why is that?

Answer 1

Women will never understand men. And men will never understand women.

You need to have conversations and open dialogues and just communicate with your spouse. Ask him what's wrong. Ask if you can help him with anything. Let him know that if he has a problem that he can talk to you. Tell him that you are not just his wife, but you are also his FRIEND and you should be able to talk about anything and everything.

With your hubby running hot and cold so easily, I would think that he is either having a problem and not talking about it, or he is bi-polar, or he is cheating, or he is pissed at you and not letting you know it, or he is having his mid-life crisis. (the mid-life crisis does not have to happen at the age or 45-50, it can happen at a younger age.)

Good Luck and TALK TO HIM!! communication is important.

Answer 2

Hmmm.. mine isn't. He's completely consistent and stable.
The "I love you! I hope you die!" people sometimes have NPD.
The most telling thing that narcissists do is contradict themselves. They will do this virtually in the same sentence, without even stopping to take a breath. It can be trivial (e.g., about what they want for lunch) or it can be serious (e.g., about whether or not they love you). When you ask them which one they mean, they'll deny ever saying the first one, though it may literally have been only seconds since they said it -- really, how could you think they'd ever have said that? You need to have your head examined! They will contradict facts. They will lie to you about things that you did together. They will misquote you to yourself. If you disagree with them, they'll say you're lying, making stuff up, or are crazy.
Narcissists will say anything, they will trash anyone in their own self-justification, and then they will expect the immediate restoration of the status quo. They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc., and then -- well, it's kind of like they had indigestion and the vicious tirade worked like a burp: "There. Now I feel better. Where were we?" They feel better, so they expect you to feel better, too.

Answer 3

Men feel the same way about women. We are probably more guilty of being inconsistant because of the hormone thing. Men and women have to respect and enjoy the differences in each other. Wouldn't the world be boring if we were all the same? Don't be confused.Different situations call for different thoughts and attitudes. He is allowed to change his mind. If you think his behavior is just too extreem, then mabe he has a personality disorder and needs professional help. I think he may be just a little moody, and mabe something is troubling him. Talk about it.

Answer 4

Because you're looking at him with an infinitely more confusing female brain.

Men are simple. Our needs are simple and our thoughts are simple. Women have a hard time understanding that.

Come on, is he really the only one in the house who is occasionally moody? I doubt it.

Answer 5

I give up.

Why are girls - especially the ones we are married to - confusing?

There are one way one minute and the opposite way the next.

Answer 6

We are confusing because when we are talking, women are thinking about what they are going to say next so they really are not listening to us!!!!!

Answer 7

I think when they spend too much time around us moody women and our PMS fits they start to mimick our behavior...

Answer 8

clearly you have done something annoying withing the intervening 60 seconds

Answer 9

Same goes for women.

Answer 10

boys just are confusing creatures.notice: i did say creatures! they just tend to want to confuse us girls, but they think their not confusing us, but they really are.