This damage was done by him banging on my door when my daughter refused to open it during a fight they were having...he is 19 and she is 21....
He tells her to fix it with the money he gave her to buy her some clothes. Actually the door is in need of replacement. I have told her to tell him that. She says he says for her to fix it. Is this the right way for him to handle this Should my daughter be the one to fix it. I think he should just get me a new door. He also has punched in five other holes in my daughters room, he has not fix any of those. So what should I do? Thanks.
2007-02-18 05:02:14 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Home & Garden ➔ Maintenance & Repairs
no, it is not the right way for him to handle this and no your daughter should not be responsible for fixing it. it was his anger problems that led to the door being messed up. if i were you, i would haul his little *** into court and make him pay for it. not only that but if he could not show more respect at the house of his girlfriend and girlfriends mother then he doesn't need to come around anymore. as a mom, you need to think of the consequences of them staying together. they may like eachother a lot but i am telling you from experience here. if he has no problem acting this way infront of you as the mom, he is definitely not going to have a problem doing this and possibly worse to your daughter either now or later on down the road if they decide to get married. i have got a bad feeling about the boyfriend. guys who act this way are more likely to do a domestic violence on the person they are in the relationship with. i don't want to see or hear of your daughter being severely beaten and i am sure you don't either. this is why you need to tell your daughter that she is a lot better off without him and she needs to find someone who is going to love and respect her for who she is. i know this is going to be rough for her and you may experience some resistence from her because of this but a parents job sometimes requires not always being loved. sometimes you have to put your foot down to help your child through something that they do not realize they are headed for themselves. if they hate you for a little while for it then so be it. you will be doing it for the protection and benefit of your child. she will be glad you did if not now then later on down the road when she hears about him doing a domestic violence on someone else and is put in jail or prison. she will say "mom, thank you for getting me out of the situation. i had no idea of what he was capable of doing and i am glad you were there to help." that is worth a little hatred from a child. i hope this helps you and you can get your daughter to do the right thing. getting away from him could save her life. i am not kidding about this. guys like who she is with are capable of doing things like this. good luck with this. be safe out there.
2007-02-18 05:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the door is already in need of replacement, u should buy the new door.
U could just paint it and it may look brand new , caulk any dents.
Duct tape the punch holes in daughter room and paint over it.
U never know it was damaged
2007-02-18 05:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description, your daughter's boyfriend seems clearly liable to repair the door. He was responsible for its damage. I would do either of two things. One, get an estimate from a local vendor of how much the door repairs would cost, and send the estimate to the boyfriend. The other option is to go forward and repair the door yourself, and send a letter or invoice with the actual repair amount on it.
Give him a few days or a responsible time to give you the money. If he still refuses to pay, I would send him a letter informing him of you intentions of taking the matter to small claims court. Again, if he refuses to pay, I would then actually refer the matter to small claims court and present the argument to the hearing officer. From what you have said, the court would find him liable and required to pay.
Good luck
2007-02-18 05:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call Jerry Springer. Sounds like a case for him.
Sorry that was kind of mean. What you need to do is get a restraining order to keep him off your property. And then the next time the moron comes over dial 911. If your 21 year old daughter has anything to say about it, she can go live in his house and they can tear it up instead. What a total lack of respect for you on both of their parts!
2007-02-18 05:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take pictures of the holes in the wall and take pictures of your door. Then get an estimate of how much it will cost to fix all the damage, then take him to COURT and SUE him for the damage that he has caused to your house!
I know it sounds harsh, but you can sue him hunny!! DO IT! Get your money and get a new door and get the holes repaired!
Small Claims court.. look into it.
Cheers
2007-02-18 05:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to ask this question? You, need to do something A.S.A.P. Do you want to see this person do this to your daughter. I'm sure you don't. Have him arrested and sue his butt. Tell your daughter this guy has a violent temper and he isn't the one for her. Have you ever asked your daughter how he treats her when no one is around? Have you seen signs of abuse? I have a daughter that will be 20 this yr. and i would step in and do something. NO ONE TREATS MY DAUGHTER THIS WAY. You better think like this or maybe one day he might do something and you won't have a chance to save your daughter.
2007-02-18 11:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by tammy a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and file a vandalism report. He should replace of fix your door. I personally would tell him he is not welcome in your home, even if he is your daughters boyfriend. He is a real jerk and help convince your daughter to dump him. He has not struck your daughter yet but he has an anger issue and violence issue he needs to deal with. He seems to think it is OK to go around hitting things, whats next.
2007-02-18 05:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can take him to small claims court. I cannot say whether or not you could win. Other than that, quit letting him in the house. If he is damaging your property, call the police and charge him with vandalism. You won't get any money for repairs, but he will be stopped from damaging your property further. If your daughter is letting him in, the you need to get her out. She has no business helping/allowing him to damage your property. In as much as the behavior is now well established, she is as much responsible for future actions by allowing them as the individual taking them.
Take him to court and quit allowing him on your property.
2007-02-18 05:29:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
make,
Kinda immature for a 19 y/o huh? Violent tendencies too.
I would repair the door and take him to small claims court to recover the damages to the door and the walls. Take the invoice for the door replacement and get at least two estimates for the wall repair and ask for the least amount.
After yawl make the sucker pay up, perhaps it would be in your daughter's best interest to stop seeing this kid and put a restraining order on his butt.
2007-02-18 05:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get an estimate for how much it will cost to get fixed and send him a copy via certified mail. If he doesn't respond to that then file a small claims court case against him. He needs to pay you since you own the house not your daughter.
2007-02-18 05:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by CctbOh 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋