...he knows i dont want to be with him, but he still hints that he likes me, ive already had direct words with him about "us" and ive told him that i cant be with him, but he still does it.....
I love him as a friend, i care for him so much - he's usually such a strong person, but when it comes to matters of...the heart....he's so fragile - i feel so guilty but i CANT BE WITH HIM and i think he is still taking all the chances he has....
I can tell he tries not to because most of the time, he's just his usual normal bubbly self, but then suddenly he says things that i wouldnt expect him to say....
I feel as though im leading him on when i know that im not - what shall i do?
2007-02-18 04:54:57 · 11 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You got to lay it on the line to this jerk. Give him an ultimatum, If he is not happy with the just friends aspect, then tell him to sling his bloody hook.
2007-02-18 04:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple solution.
Help him get over you by helping him get a new girl to direct feeling towards her not you. Then all sorted.
Recruit his mates on this.
ie guys need you to take him out to all the best meat markets and pick up joints, and to lap dance bars and jelly wrestle wet t shirt bars.
Help him pull and be all blokey on which girl in the club has the best boobs and parties showing debbie does dallas etc.
And you can help to helping him pull or asking what he thinks of this girl or that one.
Try for the moment to hang out in big groups together rather then jus the two of you.
Put it aorund school or work hes available and good in bed etc... or a good snogger if younger .
etc
That way you can go back to being buddies
2007-02-18 22:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your friends shoes in a situation like this. Whatever you do, don't get physical in any way!!! Just keep telling him calmly that you respect his feelings but for whatever reason you don't want to have a relationship with him and because it will ruin your friendship. If he can't handle that then maybe you need to distance yourself from him a little bit, and both find yourselves seperate friendships elsewhere.
2007-02-18 05:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Minky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my best friend fell for me when i was in my early 20's but i was married with 2 small children, he never wanted me to get married...maybe i should have listened to him, i told him that i could never be with him because of the circumstances, and even if i was not married, i valued him more as a friend than a lover...we go back a long way, so i just told him that if he continued to chase me then the friendship we have would be ruined...i could never be his partner/lover, and he knew it but it still didn't stop him from trying, once i got divorced he was there for me, he held my hand when i was upset, he held me when i was at my lowest, he listened to me, he helped me get back on my feet again and helped me with my children, he was there for me t any time of day or night and he was there to make me smile, we were very close until the day came when we (got together) just that one time destroyed everything we had, i told him it would happen but he didn't care, i felt differently than he did and i s'pose in a way i used him as a rebound (not intentional), luckily, we mended our friendship and are still good friends, BUT not as close as we used to be....so you need to have a good think about this, if you are determined not to get with this guy then he has to understand 100% that it's not possible, MAKE him listen to you, TELL him and make him hear you.... and in order for you to have a friendship with him, he's too back off a little bit or it will drive a wedge between you both....good luck
2007-02-18 05:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him,
_______ I really like you as a friend, I mean your the best guy friend i've ever had, but i dont want to ruin our relationship by dating and I think we should swich to just friends. Maybe it will work out somother time!
2007-02-18 05:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by tOyBoAt237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite simple --- tell him you look at him as though he's your brother --- you love him but you just couldn't even remotely look at him in a romantic way --- but some girl will be really lucky to have him and you hope he comes to you for advice when he finds someone since girls can see through other girls very clearly.
2007-02-18 05:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by GrnEyedBlondeSwede 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel guilty. Just keep redefining your relationship with him so he snaps back to reality. Also, help him find a girlfriend. That will also get him on the right track.
2007-02-18 05:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hes possibly bisexual. btw what u 2 did replaced into relatively heat. hehe.. considering that u like him lots i easily wish hes into adult men 2 so as that way u have a raffle with him. that is so candy. lol. sorry...if i suggested some thing that indignant u...i basically like it whilst issues ensue in this way of way that this is like a movie and then some thing relatively romantic and candy happens. wish u each and every of the main suitable.
2016-10-02 08:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plainly and simply tell him that you are unhappy with his compromising you, that you want to be friends and nothing else, and if he cant accept this, you will be compelled to ignore him. permanently.
2007-02-18 05:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already told him how you feel. The next time he does it try saying something like "Stop it!"
2007-02-18 04:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋