I met someone online and we became friends thru myspace he lives 2hrs away he is married but they are having?

Question

problems in their marriage and he feels like she treats him like a 13yr old when in all actuallity he is 9 yrs older than her. They have 1 child and twins on the way.We have never seen each other in person, we only know what each other looks like from prof. pictures,we are ONLY friends i want to make sure this is Known, he has confided in me about how he feels, how it is, that she doesnt even want to make love anymore. I asked if maybe it had something to do with her being pregnant,he said she has been caught with other guys phone numbers.The other night i wasnt home and my roomate said 2(X) she got hung ups from the same # so i checked with him he said they fought the night b4 and she was going to call here to see who i was.well she did but heard my roomates answer not me. but she is accusing him of cheating and hes not he has had opportunities to do so but hasnt and wouldnt. he still in love with her, but cant live with her if this is how its going to be. Am i BAD for being a friend?

He IS MR.MOM he stays home takes care of his daughter he cooks he cleans he does the laundry,.
I AM NOT A 900 CALL FOR HIM. I AM A FRIEND THAT IS ONLYTHERE TO OFFER A EAR TO LISTEN AND A BIT OF ADVICE WHEN HE NEEDS IT. I told identified he was still in love with her i told him if it was worth anything to him to make it work then go to see a counselor but they would both need to be apart of the effort in this to make it work, and that they needed someone professional to to on the outside to see something they are not seeing in orde to help them to be one again, im offering words of incouragment to my friend, not a cheap thrill because his wife wont. I said and ill say one more time FRIENDS never met him yet.

Answer 1

You are not bad for being a friend but I'd back away from this situation. It's going to add to the hard feelings and confusion. Putting yourself in the middle of someone else's battle is a bad idea.

Answer 2

No, you are not bad. However, if the wife tried to call you where did she get your number from? He was caught with another woman's phone number just as he claims to have caught his wife with other men's phone numbers. There is definitely more to the history in this relationship. Be a good friend & recommend counseling. Tell him it isn't a good idea to continue contacting each other until he & his wife have resolved their issues. It sounds like very destructive behavior between the two & you surely do not want to be a part of it. Do not accept any calls from the wife or you will almost definitely be pulled into something more than you bargained for when you began chatting with this man. Hope all this helps & you follow the great advice given here.

Answer 3

If they really are having problems, stay away until either a)they get divorced and have been divorced for at least 3 months or b)just stay away.
If he really isn't happy, turning to someone on myspace isn't the answer. They need help, especially if they have children. You don't want to be the reason they got divorced....what if it doesn't work between you two in the long run, and he left her for you?? Wouldn't you both feel terrible. Tell him to figure this out on his own. If they do get a divorce, give him time, or else it will still seem like you're the reason. I know that it will be very hard, but it would be what is best.

Answer 4

Remember this, for every story there is one more side than there are people involved...each person has "their side" of the story, and then there is the truth.

You are getting only his side of the story. Think about it...how many people have you known that had relationship problems? How many of them blamed it primarily on their partner? Doesn't it seem odd that we never seem to meet the person whose fault the problems were? I'm 42 and I've talked to TONS of men and women who've gone through relationship issues and the percent of those people who admitted to being the problem is a single digit number (less than 10%).

Having said that, it's okay to be a friend BUT impress upon him that he shouldn't hide the fact he chats with others online. All he's doing is making things worse for himself at home...and if he is going to hide things from her, what is he hiding from you?

Don't get caught up in their drama...you're not getting the whole story here and even if she is a horrid person and he's the "victim" it's up to him to handle it. They either need marriage counseling or a divorce. If you are a good friend you'll impress that upon him, and not just continue being someone he can boo-hoo to online. Push him to be an adult and man and do what he needs to do.

Answer 5

This sounds like the classic baby Mama drama (and you're not even w/him!) If I were you, I'd RUN, fast!
I understand that you two are just friends and that you want to help him through this rough time, but he should be talking to his WIFE about this, not you. You don't even know this man! Now his wife is calling you, hanging up, etc.?! You're not even doing anything bad, but you'll still get the short end of the stick!
I would tell him that he needs to sit down and sort this out with his partner. That's the only way their relationship will survive!

Answer 6

Womens' hormones go crazy when they're pregnant -- maybe he does act irresponsibly which is why she treats him like a child -- which could also be why she's looking for comfort in a man ---- or the phone numbers could be entirely innocent. There's not a great number of men who will mess with a married pregnant lady. She's probably needing some ego boosting .... instead of getting their needs met outside of their relationship, they had better learn how to openly communicate with each other before it's too late.

Answer 7

He's a married man looking for casual sex while his wife gets true pregnancy.
If he wants a clean friendship with you why he didn't talk when your roommate answer the phone? Bad sign.
Of course he still in love with his wife, all those problems he says he has with his wife are just hooks to see if you feel pity for him. No wonder his wife treating as a child, because he sounds so immature.
Be very cautious, if you don't want problems don't get involved.
It just sound so suspicious, and living 2 hours apart it's just ideal for him. Feel sorry for his wife, but do yourself a favor and do what's right.

Answer 8

You are bad for letting him confide in you. He has a wife to confide in, you need to be a friend and tell him to talk and confide in his wife. He should be telling her how he feels, how can he repair his marriage if he's telling the wrong person. He's telling you the one who can't fix his problems only two people get married. You are not doing anything wrong by being a friend. But if he has nothing to hide and you happen to answer the phone, you shouldn't pretend not to know who he is which says you have nothing to hide or nothing going on.

Answer 9

there is a good reason why his wife treating him like a 13 years old because he is acting like one. don't fall for all the BS he's been telling you. he is just a selfish immature bastard try to get lucky with you. he has one child and a twins on the way what do you think those kids got into his wife's belly? RUN away if you're smart, stay if you are as stupid as this guy.

Answer 10

I sure hope this is a joke. Why in the world would anyone want to get involved with a man like this? Yes you are bad. You are not a friend you are a cheap 900 call. Go tell your mother what you have been doing and see what she tells you. If you can't tell her, you know it is wrong.