What's the best way to get over an ex?

Question

I just broke up with my boyfriend and it's only been just over a week.

I completed the painstaking process of giving each others stuff back, i really didn't want to see him and hadn't been texting him; but I saw him last night when i was leaving his road after leaving the last of his stuff inside his front door along with his key.

We had been going out for a year but i didn't want to go out with him anymore as it just didn't seem to working.

I keep looking at his myspace and he seems to be out partying every night and I keep getting quite upset over it. It seems he's back to his old ways of being a bit of a for want of a better expression sl*t.

So any suggestions would be good...

by the way i'm a guy...!?

Answer 1

Yes. I think you are not ready to let go of him yet. You use the past tense when you write about breaking up. You said you "didn't"want to see him" "I didn't want to go out with him anymore" and you are checking his activities and what he is doing without you. You are also troubled worrying that he is wh**ing around which is "back to his old ways" which sounds like he's free again and sleeping with other girls. You don't seem to enjoy that thought at all, but no other girl would either. Guys are so easy. We get blamed for sexual activity but guys are applauded for it!!

It's clear you do question the break-up but you are hoping you'll get over it when it's been longer than " just over a week" which you probably will. Time changes everything but we are too impatient and then walk back into bad deals!

Maybe you are just a little jealous that he got over his relationship so quickly and is having sex with other girl(s)? If I was still deviding belongings and dropping off keys and I knew that my ex was already sleeping around, I would be hurt and very mad.

Honey, YOU CAN DO BETTER!!! Concentrate on what kind of place or situation you want for Yourself Now, and hope the next boyfriend is better than the last, because he is a sl*t and you deserve more than that. Don't flatter yourself by thinking he's doing it to show you. Guys have sex with girls because they want to. They don't even Need to Think about Why they're Doing it at that age. (I'm old so you're automatically young to me) Don't think he's just making you jealous. Any way you go with that guy, you have a guy who wh***s around as soon as there's a fight, trouble, or a break-up. And he would make a lousy husband and father to your kids. He could also give you STD's very easily now.

I still have to say YOU CAN DO BETTER!! And you don't need to have a bf just to be on your own for awhile. Don't panic!! Use your head. Emotions can trick you and that's what this sounds like. You don't miss him. You miss the way you "used to feel" about him. Good Luck!! @8-) (Sorry to sound so bossy)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It's only been a week since you've broken up so don't expect yourself to be feeling on-top-of-the-world. If you truly cared for him, then it's going to hurt for a while. The best thing you can do is let it hurt and allow yourself to deal with being without him. Unfortunately looking at his myspace page isn't going to help you especially if it seems that he's moving on quite well without you. Men tend to go out and do what they do after breaking up as a way of dealing with pain so perhaps that's how he's dealing with it. Just remember that you left him for a reason and you'll be ok. I suggest keeping yourself busy. Go out with your friends who I'm sure will love the chance to take you and have some fun or find new hobby. Do whatever will keep your mind occupied for these next few weeks and before you know it, you won't feel like you've just ran into a brick wall. Good luck!!

Answer 4

If you really want to get over him. Don't beat yourself up over it. Stop looking at his myspace, don't check his aim profiles/away messages, don't ask other people about him. Find things to do to keep your mind off of him; make new friends, hang out more with your current friends, start a new hobby. Seriously, I've been in a similar situation and I wish I had taken my own advice. It's going to be hard, but just be strong and know that you will move on. Don't let yourself think about him too much and move on with your life. One day you will find a new guy, someone who you will be much happier with.

And don't under any circumstances have any "rebound" hookups or relationships. Those will just make your situation worse. Hope this helps. Good luck :)

Answer 5

Why be jealous that he's not sitting at home pining over you? Apparently he wasn't a good match so work through this in your head and heart and move on. Don't resort to name calling, that's not kewl.

Spend time with friends, take up or pursue an existing hobby, busy yourself with work or school, etc. Do things to keep you from dwelling on the relationship until you find it doesn't keep trying to nudge into your consciousness.

Get out there and go dance and have a good time yourself...partying doesn't make one a s1ut...it makes them someone who enjoys socializing...

Answer 6

lol time table dates! i'm completely severe. like set up dates with each and every guy that asks you out and be sure later in case you cherished any of them. it's going to shop issues under administration, and not finished chaos

Answer 7

See other guys. It helps a lot. Delete him from your myspace. That will help a lot also. It's good feng shui for your next relationship to be rid of him all together. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him. Hang out with friends, meet new guys. You'll find a better guy.

Answer 8

Just think about all the bad times you had with him and how he missed treated you, that should be one way to get over him. Considering the things I just mention that should help you get over him. He's not thinking about you when he's out there partying,girl move on I know it's hard but get over it find you someone else. That can make you happy and I bet you will get over it.

Answer 9

Give it time and find other things to do to keep your mind busy and not focused on him. Don't second guess your decision. If you were right for each other, you wouldn't have felt a need to leave. There is someone that is perfect for you, and you will meet him.

Answer 10

Have sex with her best mate, sister or mother. She will hate you so much there will no chance of reprisal thus complete closure.

Also its really naughty which is a lot of fun.

Yeah yeah i'm wrong and immoral whatever takes two to tango baby.