Am I crazy?

Question

sometimes I wish I were nuts..I know I am not crazy..but I cant get past this revenge thing its driving me nuts its all I think about about..something deep inside of me wont let it go..maybe I am crazy..I never forget bad things others do to me and I always want revenge..what can I do..I tried therapy and drugs..nothing worked..

Answer 1

this comming from someone that has had a lot of people do horrible things to me since i was a little kid. stop pitying yourself and move on. i think you just need to find someone you can love and share things with. it sounds like you have set up some boundaries around yourself because of trust issues maybe?

Answer 2

Have you tried PRAYER?

You need to step out of the revenge cycle and into the forgiveness way of thinking. Revenge stems from low self esteem.If you have high self esteem there is very little that some one can do to you that will effect you to the point where it consumes your every thought.
If you seek revenge and actually get it what does that do to improve you. You may feel better for a short period of time but eventually you will feel guilty/bad.
Instead of wasting your time trying to figure out how to get revenge concentrate on good.
This may sound childish but if you improve yourself you will move past letting someone else effect you and if you do good for someone else you will feel better than you can imagine.
I don't know what you are seeking revenge on. If it is simple like that car cut me off or someone said something bad about me.
If it is of a more serious nature, like you were abused by a caretaker then I suggest continuing counseling but add Prayer and seek to forgive the person who hurt you so you can find inner peace yourself.
Good-Luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

First of all your not crazy, you're Human! Everyone has thought about and done it before. I know how it feels when people pick on you and make you feel like your an outcast. The first thing you need to do is boost up your confidence. When I was in school I had too much confidence that they would stop picking on me. The reason why people do bad things to you and others is because they're hating on you because of what you have or they just don't have anything and they need the focus to be on someone else. But if you have confidence they would just leave you alone. Stand up for yourself. When something bothers you you let them know right then and there. REVENGE is for people who don't express ones feeling, holds on to them until they're furious with themselve and use that built up anger to get back at someone. I know exaclty how it is. Guess what when I stood up for myself or just show them that I wasn't one to mess with we became friends,some good friends. That revenge statement I made above is very true because not only you but I dealt with it first hand. That is also why you can't get it out of your head because you haven't settled anything. STOP HOLDING ON AND LET IT SHOW IN A POSTIVE WAY. Don't do something you will regret later it will just make matters worst. You know what you have to do.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

You're not crasy or nuts! Angry, maybe, but not nuts. Getting over revenge can be a very difficult and long process. Forgiveness is the best tool to use in replace of revenge. Whatever was done to you making you seek revenge, just let it go. Revenge can't change what happened, but it can make matters worse.

Answer 5

Revenge is correct human group behavior.
It is good for the group to punish those who offend the groups rules of behavior. It keeps the group moving foreward to live and work for each other and punish those that go against group behaior. The group ends up with more people working towards doing the right thing .
If no one took revenge on those who commit crime against society, it would be a free for all everywherre all the time.
The only thing one has to know is what revenge is also against the rules and are there members in a group designated to keep the laws.

Answer 6

Sometimes Yoga helps with obsessive thinking. I know what it's like, i've been there and it's hell! I think it just takes practice letting go. Wanting revenge is like drinking poison and wanting the other person to die! I have tried Kudalini Yoga which has a lot of deep breathing which can balance your entire body including your thinking patterns. Good luck with it! And in answer to your question, if you think you're crazy, you're probably not - really crazy people don't have a clue! :-)

Answer 7

You just have to figure out a way to let it all go so you don't constantly think about revenge.

When you sit around thinking about revenge, then you are only hurting yourself. You are doing nothing to hurt anyone else. These people don't know that you are having bad thoughts about them. They have no clue that you hate them and want to hurt them. So you are only hurting yourself when you think about these people.

I know how hard it is to try to forget about people and move on (when they do something to piss you off or hurt you). But you have to figure out a way to forget them and move on.

There must be other things in your life to take your mind off the bad people. What are those things? Do you have school? Do you have family? Do you have a girlfriend? Do you have pets? DO you have hobbies and activities? There must be some things going on in your life to take your mind off the *bad people*, hunny.

I wish you well. And I hope you can figure out a way to take your mind off these bad people and move on with your life and be a happy person, hunny.

*hugs* to you!

Answer 8

I am overcoming an anger problem myself. Now I know that anger and revenge are not the same thing, but revenge does stem from anger. If you dont control it, it will control you-and it will eat you up like a slow killing disease. Seek help. More appropriately-pray for healing from this.

Answer 9

spirituality might help, there are lots of good religions all which teach how to overcome revenge... try to put yourself in other peoples place, you have hurt people before, not always on purpose.. sometimes getting past something is as simple as not thinking about it anymore, any time you feel revenge boiling to the surface.. try to think of compassion instead... make it a conscious effort... it is simple but not easy... i do not think you are crazy, crazy people do not think they have a problem.. you are least willing to examine yourself and try to change... good luck to you

Answer 10

first off u r not nutz, not in the logical or psycological wording of the term.I also feel that it is healthy to feel hurt or want to express that hurt in whatever way that you feel. It is good to get it out but it is not helpful to act on the impulse for the obvious reasoning it will lead you down a path of criminal records that will prevent you from having a better job,better housing,better future all overall.

So to answer your question in my opinion to keep a journal keep expressing your deep thoughts in that type of writting even start a blog it will help you work through your situations of supressed rage or feelings of day to day life.

Hope that this helped you walking towards understanding yourself and dealing with your own personal issues in life.

Be well express yourself more and more and things will get better not go away or get worst with time.