Why my 5 days new born baby daughter cries at night and sleep all day?

Question

She sleeps all day even when we talk loudly. But at night she opens her eyes and will cry if we don't carry her. She always wants someone to carry her. What can I do?

Answer 1

Perhaps, she has 3 moths colic -> Colic appears most of the time at night. If so, give your baby a tummy massage with special oil that you can buy at pharmacy (make sure warm hands & warm oil before the massage!).
Do you breastfeed your baby? Concern what you eat!
Avoid spicy, acid meal & food that give you gas, such as: chili, garlic, onion, lemon, orange, etc. It gives baby more pain & discomfort in her tummy.

Remind what you drink too! -> Do you drink too much coffee, tea, cola, or other substances containing caffeine? Caffeine is a stimulant which passes into breast milk. The easiest way to test that caffeine might affect your baby is totally avoid caffeine for several days & see if any changes occur. If caffeine seems to be the cause of the problem, then drink it only in the morning!

As the others said, newborns are still confused beetween day & night -> They need time to learn this!! Set a bed time routine will help your baby to recognize better day & night. Try to do bedtime ritual punctual every night before go to bed! e.g. change diaper or give your baby a warm bath before sleep & breastfeed laying on the bed in dark room every night. So she will understand that it's bed time each time you do this routine.

Or sleeping habit with noise-> during the day, she gets used to listen her parents' voice & other white noise. To some baby, these white noise helps them more to sleep. Record your conversation or your voice by singing your own lullaby!

Wanted to be accompanied -> doesn't like to be alone. Newborns normally love to be in their parents' arms.

Answer 2

Oh, my gosh this was me. When my son was born he did the exacpt same thing. I thought that I was going to have a nervous breakdown or get really sick. I went to his doctors office at least twice a week and called them constantly to see if there was an answer. My doctor said that this was totally normal and in about two to three weeks he would establish a routine. I remember not believing him and thinking that it would never change or get better, but sure enough after about 2-3 weeks, he started to sleep a little better.

One thing that I had to do was have my mom and dad take turns a few nights and stay over. They woke up with my son, changed him and gave him formula. (I did not want to do this, but I felt like if I did not get some sleep I was not going to care for my baby the way a healthy mom does.) My husband was also a great help but he had to go back to work and having him get up with me was not fair. I successfully breastfeed and bottle fed my son. The only time he got a bottle was before bed and once at night. Other than that he was breastfeed during the day and a few times at night.

I know how hard it is and the feeling that it will not change, but stick in there...it will change.

My son will be 12 months in two weeks and he just started sleeping almost all night (he wakes up once). I am now starting to think that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Good luck and I hope this long message helped!!!

Answer 3

I went through this and it is not fun. My son only slept about 2 to 3 hours during the night (after nursing for a long time) and did not sleep for any naps, at all during the day. I was very tired. The fact that he is acting hungry right away does not necessarily mean he is actually hungry. Babies also derive a certain amount of comfort from nursing. Eating makes them feel safe (full belly), so if there is a problem, they will seek the comfort that nursing gives them. He sounds colicy. Does he suffer from gas, diahhrea, etc.? The doctors seem a little bit uncertain what signifies diahhrea, when you breastfeed. The stools should be somewhat formed - not all runny, mushy, and should not smell too horrible. The lighter the stool, the more likely it is not a normal stool. Throwing himself back also may indicate stomach upset. This is the thing: as a breastfed baby, your son eats what you eat. If you are drinking milk, so is he. If you are eating wheat products, so is he. The doctors will say all you need to avoid are spicy things, coffee, caffiene products, alcohol, certain medicines, etc. That may not be what your son needs. He may be sensitive to wheat and dairy and maybe peanut products. So, you may need to try avoiding the things above that are normally suggested during breastfeeding, as well as ALL wheat and dairy (read labels) for about two weeks. See what has happened after two weeks of a complete avoidance of these things. If you find he is settling down, you may have your answer. Also, does he have any diaper rash? A chronic problem with diaper rash can signify candida (which is caused by wheat and dairy). Using the product called Nystatin cream can be of great help, in this case. If he has a bad diaper rash, each time he urinates, it will cause great pain. The diaper rash would connect with the wheat and dairy problems, since these feed candida. Even without the rash, he could have this problem. By my third child, I bottlefed with a combination of the following: 1/2 soy-based formula, 1/2 milk-based formula and only one had iron in it. I then held the baby in an upright position so the formula would flow right down. What a difference (and this child was also experiencing problems before that). Also, do NOT reject the idea of using a pacifier for your baby, after you have gotten the other things under control. Babies need this comfort. I did not use them and wish I had. Why not give the baby what it needs to feel comforted? If you also alternate the use of formula and breastfeeding, your husband can participate - something that encourages a bond he will need, if he is in the baby's life. Also, as you nurse him, burp him more often than you already are. Breastfed babies seem so comfortable, moms are often less willing to disturb them to burp them. Burp two or three times during the feeding. Have you ever tried to drink while lying down? Try it - really. It is hard and the liquid gets stuck.

Answer 4

sounds crazy but I watched an episode on Oprah and she had a lady on there that is like a "baby whisperer" I'm sure you can find it on her site, but she was able to actually decode 5 major cries that a baby has from birth and you will be surprised that it actually works and if you learn to understand this language then your daughter will keep these cues longer. Unfortuantly my daughter was about 1 when I watched this but I did recognize cries that she had as an infant. I swear this is a great resource.. go to Oprahs website and try to locate it... even email Oprahs staff I bet they will give you the info. Best of Luck

Answer 5

You poor thing, I have totally been there. My second child is 3 weeks old, and I only have this advice because I'm on my second, it was very difficult to do with my first because I was so tired and was grateful for any sleep he (and I) got, even if it was during the day. But here's what you've got to do...

If you're breastfeeding, you need to wake up your little girl every 2 hours to feed her during the day, starting at the time you want her day to start. I don't know how long with formula-fed babies, but I'd guess about every 3 hours or so. Make sure all day long it's every two hours, if she sleeps 3-4 hour long stretches during the day, that's why she's awake at night, those may be the longest lengths of time you'll get from her, especially since she's only 5 days old. You want those stretches to be at night time so you can sleep. Not allowing her those lengthy sleep times during the day will leave her not feeling as rested because she never was asleep long enough to fall into a deep sleep. Which means come night time, she'll be more tired and do her longer sleeping then.

I won't pretend this is easy to do, it would've broken my heart with my first child, but after about 4 weeks of sleepless nights and barely coping, I finally did it and it worked! I've been doing this since the day I brought my second home from the hospital, and at 8 days he was sleeping 6 hours at night and at 2 1/2 weeks I actually got a night of 8 1/2 hours! He'd eat and then go right back to sleep again. It was fabulous. You are able to be a much better mom when you get some sleep at night because you're able to deal with things so much better.

You may have a hard time waking your little girl up to eat (my newborn when sleeping is out cold). All the easy things to think of like sitting him up and gently stroking him, etc, didn't work. I would have to undress him so he got cold (but then once he started eating I'd cover him up again) and tickle him or change his diaper. A few times I even had to put a drop of water on his forehead (I don't know why, but some baby books I have recommended it). He'd eat about half of what's normal for him and then fall back asleep, so I'd have to wake him up all over again to make sure he was fed well. It's a total pain, but only lasted about a week and won't it be worth it if you're getting some sleep at night? Sure she'll grow out of it eventually, but by then you may be so sleep deprived that you could actually make yourself sick and you won't enjoy the awake time with your daughter because it's during the middle of the night!

Good luck! Make sure you get a nap too during the day, just make sure to set your alarm so you get up to wake up and feed your daughter. It does all get better very soon, I promise.

Answer 6

She has her days and nights mixed up. My daughter was the same way so i tried to keep her up as much as possible during the day so she will sleep at night. It took a while but it worked and by the time she was 8 weeks old we had her sleeping all through the night. Good luck

Answer 7

This is very common - she has her days and nights confused. Try keeping her more active during the day - I have found that giving the baby a bath - even several times a day if necessary, will do the trick - you can also wipe her face with a cool washcloth to arouse her. It'll take a few days but she'll get it straight.

Answer 8

I know this is hard as my son is 4 weeks. What I did was to try to hold off feeding him when he woke up during the day. I'm not advocating starving your child but I found it was much easier to keep him awake before the feed rather than after. Also we have him in the living room during the day but he goes upstairs at night. Hope this helps you. Good luck with everything.

Answer 9

i had this problem with my son, he had his day and nights mixed up, try keeping her awake for an hour longer each day in the afternoon, say if she has a sleep at 4 try entertaining her till 5, will be hard at first took a month to sort my little one out, dont worry she will get there eventually.

Answer 10

She has her days and nights confused. Try picking her up durring the day and talk to her and play with her. Do not put lights lights on at night when you feed her. She is still very new but make sure you start to establish a schedule. It is a life saver.