What was it like with your FIRST love ? How old were you and do you ever reflect back on those days ?

Question

Do you think that experience has shaped how you view relationships and love ?

I was 14 and he was 15. Things seemed more serious back then to us than you'd imagine for kids that age these days. Everything was so intense and we were dramatic lovers...he was my first and he was a rebel and bad boy type with a soft side that I got to see sometimes. He was a heartbreaker. I would have done anything back then for him. I was young and naive. I once gave him $15 of my babysitting money (on MY birthday) and late he gave me a tarnished necklace for my gift. I thought that was the greatest thing...how silly of me ! He was confusing. He took advantage of my love for him at times but then again...there was a bond between us. My parents forbid me to see him but I was stubborn and saw him until I got tired of sneaking around. We moved on and then when we were in our early 20's we reunited and stayed together for 5 years and ALMOST married but I realized how rocky our relationship had been and that we were so different now....glad I moved on.

Answer 1

I'm still with my first love. I'm in my early 20s and we've been together for a year now. We were friends for a long time before that. We plan on getting married after college.

Experience sure has shaped how I view relationships and love. Nothing compares to the man I am with now. He treats me better than anyone else has. I've had a lot of guys lead me on... some who I was actually officially with. Never lasted. There was always something about them. I never really loved someone before I was with my boyfriend now.

And yes, I reflect back to what it was like back then with my boyfriend. Just remembering what it was like transitioning from friends to more than that.

My favorite quote:
"A great friendship is the way to a great love."

Answer 2

I was 15 and it lasted until I was 20. I reflect back on those days frequently. I have very nice memories but have to remind myself that it ended for a reason. We were just too young. I was jealous and possessive like a lot of girls that age. He was the typical rebel...purposely doing things to go against society. It was a very passionate and volatile relationship. But, I am in my 30s now and realize it never would have lasted. We got engaged when we were only freshman in college. Within two years I ended things to date and experience college life. I'm positive it was true love and I don't regret the experience. It definitely shaped who I am and how I acted in relationships from that point on. It taught me what I wanted out of a life partner, what I didn't want, how to fight and I matured much more after that. I think we both probably have fond memories of those years even though I have not talked to him in a very, very long time. I am married now with children. Had a very successful career and we just both moved on.

Answer 3

My first love was the most important thing in my life. I was 17, she was 15. We were together for only one year. I broke up with her because I thought I was going to lose her and I couldn't take that. Sounds strange but if you know about love you'll understand. It was the best and most important year of my life. Yes, I reflect back on those days. I will never stop loving the first love of my life. So you don't misunderstand-I don't know her today so I am not in love with her-only the wonderful memories she gave me. I have tears in my eyes as I write this. A mesage too her even though she probably will not read this-thank you for the memories. You're in my heart for all eternity.

Answer 4

I was 17 when I really fell in love and I do think about that time. But 34 years later I'm with him again. I was married and lost my husband, he came to the funeral and told me that if I needed anything to call. Well, he call about a year and half later to see how I was doing and to get me out of the house. We started out friends and thing just developed into much much more.

Answer 5

I was 15 and dated for 4 years. It definitely affected my views. I learned what I did want from a long term relationship.

Answer 6

We were 17 and neither one of us had a clue as to what we were doing. Thank goodness I learned that sex gets better with age and experience or I would never have done it again after that first time! lol . So - no, I don't look back on it with longing.

Answer 7

my first love......my first everything. we met when we were 12 and were together for almost 6 years. but i screwed it up, i was young and flaky and lost him, more than once might i add. and yet he took me back everytime, he truly loved me. no matter what i did to him.

the last time i cheated on him, dont ask me why cause i still kick myself in the *** for it, i would do anything to change it, i not only hurt him but the guy i cheated on him with was engadged and his girl was pregnant, now i know its horrible and im scum, please you dont need to bring it to my attention its already there.

but you wanna know the funny thing? he would have taken me back, but i was too hurt at how i had hurt him and scared i would do it again so we decided to just be friends. we started as friends, grew to lovers, went through so much, and ended up being able to stay friends, that doesnt happen often.

i still love him to this day and honestly i want to be with him but i know im no good for him, i hold him back, i keep him from experiencing life because he is so caught up in me. that is why i let him go,
he wanted to get back together and so did i but i knew he would be better without me.

and it took a while to realize that without me needed to be without me. being friends always kept the door open for another chance. and i dont deserve another chance. i used to want him in my life no matter what even if we were only friends and i still do, but i dont want to hurt him anymore.

i love him and i finally decided it was time to do what was best for him not me. now we live seperate lives im married expecting my first child and i dont know where he is in life. or what he is doing or what he has accomplished but i sure hope he does a lot.

i still love him and always will you will always care for your first love. they teach you so much and you will always remember them. i cant hear a song on the radio and not think of him and wonder what he is doing. i love him and i hope only the best for him.

advice to some hold on to the ones you love, cause its hard to move on in life without them

Answer 8

My actual true love was when I was 15. We dated for 2 years. But he was so detached so I wanted attention so I looked elsewhere. He cheated on me which hurt so I cheated on him. Now I have commitment issues or did until I married my hubby.

Answer 9

I'm married to my first *real* love. I met him when I was 19 and he had just turned 26. We were married less than a year later, and our 14th wedding anniversary is in August. And we have a five-year-old son.

Answer 10

I am still with my first love. He is still just as wonderful as when we met. We have ups and downs but that is life.