Last night my baby wouldn't go to sleep. I tried rocking her, but she just kept "wiggling" off of my lap... I finally let her go to the floor and play a little. When my husban's mom returned from work, she was amazed to see the baby still up. I told her I tried to rock her, gave her a bottle, etc... She picked her up and rocked her. My baby wouldn't let me rock her, but she let her grandma rock her to sleep... Same thing today at nap time...
My baby doesn't even say "mama", however, she says "dada", "Oscar" (the dog's name) and yesterday she said "nana"...
Am I such a bad mom that my child doesn't like me anymore?... What is wrong with me?
2007-02-18 04:07:15 · 7 answers · asked by Feed the models! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You're not a bad mom at all. My 16 month old knows dada, sissy, her brothers name, etc. and hardly ever says mama. It most likely is because she is with you the most and you speak of dada, and Oscar- without really saying "mama" much. She loves your just as much if not more I'm sure.
As far as not wanting to be held by you- it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes babies just want different arms to hold them! I can hold my daughter and she'll cry and cry but as soon my husband takes her she'll stop. The same thing will happen with him holding her sometimes. Having someone different rock you is just something babies seem to enjoy. It just sounds like she wants to play more with you!! There is nothing wrong with that and the situation you described is very similar to times with my daughter. I'm sure it's a phase and she loves you dearly. Next time she does it, and she wants someone else to hold her, be thankful for the break and take a nice relaxing bath alone!!
Good luck!
2007-02-18 05:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by schmidtee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a bad mother. I sometimes feel the same way. My son is almost a year and he will let anyone rock him to sleep except me. He fights and cries until I nurse him. It is hard and depressing. He also says dada and hot??? Who figured those would be his first words...
I know that some people say a baby reacts different to his or her mother because they expect more or something different from you. In my case he knows that I will nurse him and is not content with me until I do so. This can be really frustrating.
I have learned that when I know he is tired, changed and full, I just put him in his crib and in 5 minutes he falls asleep. Of course, this took a while for him to adjust to, but that is the only way he will fall asleep with me when I am alone.
Hope this helps.
2007-02-18 15:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rach H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Grandma has more experience and probably is not as stressed out as you are with having a new baby. Babies can sense our stress and when we are tense they will not relax. Try relaxing before you pick your baby up. Also dada is easier to say than mama (don't know why exactly but the d letter is easier to form)
2007-02-18 12:22:40 · answer #3 · answered by peacefulstar10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. If my kids fall and hurt themselves, they cry for Grammy. Makes me feel bad too. Some babies associate comfort with one person. My Mom doesn't live with us, but the kids see her quite often. I don't think they love me any less.
If you are frustrated, then the baby can sense that. Maybe she didn't want to go to bed when you had her, but was ready when Gram got home. There are so many different possibilities as to why she would go down for her and not you. But, you are not a bad mother.
2007-02-18 12:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG girl! you are not a bad mother! I promise you that! nana just happens to have many many yrs experience and probobly just has that "grandmas touch" It happened with my 2 kids...ya know? dont take it to heart. believe it or not im 100% sure that in babies eyes...your #1!!! babies love there mothers instinctively and unconditionally,and this will be so for the rest of your life. trust me your baby would prefer you rather than anyone else.just hang in there-babies are fussy and i know alot of mothers have felt a bit of rejection .stay positive and you will see that i am right!
2007-02-18 12:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by tokenwhtgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way ur are not a bad mom my baby wouldnt go to her dad she wouldnt even take a bottle of him and he was great kids just go like that some times ist nothing she loves him to death now
2007-02-18 12:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heavens no, you aren't a bad mom. Sometimes babies pick up how you feel. If you are stressed,nervous,etc.So she may be picking up on that. My children said "da-da first.So no worry there either. How old is she? you never said....
2007-02-18 15:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by snowowl81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋