I am on the verge of divorce and i am wondering if i dont ask for child support can i deny my husband visitation right?We live in NJ and i make enought to not need his money.I take care of all my 1.5 year old daughters child care needs so i think i have a good chance of full custody.
2007-02-18 03:53:57 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate her father he has never lifed a finger to help with her at all !
2007-02-18 04:02:37 · update #1
No, a father has the right to see his child if he wants to. You cannot deny him that right.
2007-02-18 03:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. The judge will make a decision based on the child's best interest. People like you drive me nuts. You make enough $$ to care for all your daughter's needs. Is that so? Human beings have 4 needs:Spiritual,Physical,Emotional and Social. What need do you think a father role nourishes? I read your other q's. " I work doing this, I work doing that, I also do this on the side." You seem so busy chasing the dollar but it seems to me that it would be your husband that would teach her to value the penny. Sweetheart, it's not about money. Money doesn't fill our voids...as children and as adults. It provides sustenance for a quality of life. It's parents who instill the moral fiber in us all, such as work ethic, responsibility, discipline, humility and commitment. Being a parent is a life long commitment even when we fail to honor our promises to each other as adults. Our love should never stop. Our roles should constantly be fulfilled through special moments, good and bad. Nobody should ever stand in the way of that, no matter how much money you are worth. If there were other issues that would endanger the child, I could understand. Having no money or not making enough is not a just reason to keep a child separated from those that could and should be their heroes.
He is the father and you are nobody to say that your daughter doesn't need his money.
2007-02-18 04:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No as the father he has parental rights and if you choose to not ask for support that has no effect on visitation. If you have been the primary caregiver you will most likely get physical custody but unless there is something wrong w him you will probably have joint custody.
Why are you trying to phase the father out? Divorce is upsetting for a child and denying him the right to see her out of spite is more mean to her than it is to him, at her young age she would assume he doesnt care about her anymore.
2007-02-18 04:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have to ASK for child support. It doesn't matter if you can or can't support your child alone, it is his child too. He isn't supporting you, he is support your child that you had together. I don't think a judge would even think twice about taking your daughter away because you get child support. If there is a reason why you do not want your husband to see your daughter, then make your case to the judge. If not, then I wouldn't suggest forbidding visitation rights. Even if he hasn't been helpful, she is still her child. Don't make her blame you 16 years from now when she goes looking for him and hears his side of the story.
2007-02-18 05:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by orchid0923 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have picked your father's child BEFORE you had her, you cant do it after. But if he is physically or mentally abusive, you can restrict his visitation. But by all means GO for child support because even if you think you don't need it now, you don't know how it will be in the future. Whatever you get and don't "need", put in an account for your daughter for college or future expenses. Children are expensive and deserve anything they can get from BOTH parents. Be smart about this and don't play games about child support. Be firm from the beginning and don't say you don't need his help, because when you do it will put him in the mindset that you are after his money. Let him know it is his responsibility from the beginning. When he becomes a single father, he will HAVE to do more for her when you aren't around to do it for him.
Good luck and try to make a peaceful resolution to your daughters future.
2007-02-18 04:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tink 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so; generally, he will have visitation rights whether or not he provides financial support. Think about what you are doing to your child, and make every adult, reasoned, compassionate effort not to estrange her from her father. It's great if you can support her on your own, but she will not thank you when she is older if you cheat her of her daddy, nor will that be in her best interests emotionally.
Always take the high road, and keep your head up. It's very hard...
blessings,
cryllie
2007-02-18 04:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by cryllie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So... why did you marry him?
Let me see if I have this right... You are willing to use your daughter to hurt your husband? What kind of "mother" does that make you?
I appreciate that this guy may be a complete a$$ but this is the a$$ YOU chose to marry and then decided he was a good enough a$$ to father your children. After all of that, if he is really that bad maybe you should take a good long look at yourself and your ability to make good judgments re your children... cause it doesn't sound so good from our end.
2007-02-18 04:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aw, why do you want to do that? Deny someone from seeing their own child? What if the situation was reverse. Think about what is good for the child. Everyone needs a father, don't take that away. It's horrible.
2007-02-18 04:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe women like you. Denying her access to her dad is emotional child abuse. Whether you like it or not, you are glued to that guy through your child. Money has nothing to do with it. She has every right to see her dad and he has every right to see his daughter. I think anyone that tried to keep someone from their own kids to increase their own comfort level needs to be declared as an UNFIT parent and have custody go to the other parent.
2007-02-18 05:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, one has nothing to do with the other. a father has a right to visit with their child whether they pay child support or not. you should ask for child support even if you don't need it. you can put it away into an educational fund but make sure you ask for it.
2007-02-18 04:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand that you are getting the divorce, not your child? Do you understand that he deserves to be in her life forever. You can not provide all of her needs. How can you be such a person and want to do this to the man you mated with? Your vengeance will eat you up in the end. It will eventually drive your daughter away from you. Please do not act like this.
2007-02-18 04:12:39 · answer #11 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋