I have been with my bf for 2 and a half years . I meet him while he was here in London studying his PHD which is finished in 2 months time. He is going to move away for work and says that he wants me and my daughter to go with him but i have a feeling that he wants to go alone. Am i just paranoid?
2007-02-18 03:52:26 · 16 answers · asked by stacey f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you are just paranoid. I don't think men ask anyone to do anything they don't want to do. He asked you to go with him because he wants you to--unless there is more to the story.
2007-02-18 03:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if paranoia has stuck into your mind and instead of talking over your delusions with your bf, you have chose to speculate. If you choose to act like this, then the 2 1/2 years you have been together have not achieved mutual dialogoue between the two of you, but have been times of not sharing what one feels for the other.
All I'm trying to say is to talk it over with your bf and hear what he has to say; but already he has said he wants you to move with him, why are you doubting him on that? If you love him, then you have to trust his word. You may miss the greatest opportunity of a perfect partner if you persist with your paranoia. Remember, today is the tomorrow you were afraid of, and look where you are now. You have been through worse situations than this, and to me this is an invitation to happiness and not doom. Go for it!
2007-02-18 04:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2.5 yrs together you should be close and honest enough with each other to be able to discuss these type of things, would you be willing to move? can you see a long term future for you, him and your daughter? you should both know by now if this is "the one" be up front and ask him if he wants you and your daughter to be a part of his life, good luck to you and your daughter what ever the outcome, but remember to take the welfare of your daughter into conceration and make sure if he he does want you to move with him, that he is concidering your dauighters welbeing as well x x x
2007-02-18 04:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by pu55y perfect 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your feelings are that strong and you are noticing that he may want to go alone, I would say you need that big talk. Dont up and move yourself and your daughter if you think nothing will come out of this. It would be different if you was on your own, but you need to think how this will affect your child? Go and have that chat with him as soon as you can. Good luck
2007-02-18 03:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your b/f said he wanted your daughter & you to join him when he moves away, then why would do you feel that he would rather go alone? Does he make it a habit of talking out both sides of his mouth from day to day, leaving you confused & doubtful now? If not, then plan on moving with him.
2007-02-18 04:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be the fear of change that is making you feel like that, start making plans for the move together and see how enthusiastic he gets. If he is serious about you and your daughter coming it will soo become clear.
2007-02-18 03:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by JT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call his bluff to test him. There are two ways you could play it. You can say that your going just to test his reaction or say no and see how keen he is to stay. I woulod think based on the fact that you have been together 2.5 years then he is pretty committed to things.
What is it thats making you doubt his committment?
2007-02-18 03:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tabbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has asked you both to go with him so unless his actions is saying otherwise perhaps you are being paranoid
2007-02-18 03:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just ask really do u want me to come with you and if he says yes then its really up to you. Try not to think about it too much.
2007-02-18 04:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probabley just being paranoid, why not have a proper talk to him to put your mind at ease.
2007-02-18 03:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋