I've been battling my feelings for this woman for a few months now. I first met her 7 or 8 years ago, she was my older sister's best friend. I guess having spent so much time with her, somewhere along the way, I fell in love with her. But she's become a beautiful woman, whereas I'm not very attractive. She's dates a lot of guys, and since she drinks, well... does something else fairly regular.
It absolutely pisses me off the way all these "pretty boys" treat her, and I'm even pretty upset how I'm overlooked because I'm not "handsome" or "confident" or whatever. But I still love her. It was about a month ago I moved away (until April 3rd). The temporary move is unrelated, though my reasoning was being heartbroken. I try to keep myself occupied, but my mind always goes back to her. Just the little things, like the way she laughed, stay stuck in my head.
Sometimes it just feels like I can't take it anymore. Sometimes, I honestly wonder to myself, am I crazy?
2007-02-18 03:42:04 · 13 answers · asked by Jared C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell her how you feel, she will appreciate the fact that you were honest with her and while she may have overlooked you there maybe a chance that she be more receptive to getting to know more about you once she sees that you aren't like all the other guys she has dated, but you wont know unless you take a chance and express your feelings to her, you really have nothing to lose except for keeping things inside you that she should know...
2007-02-23 10:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not crazy but you need to date a lot more. Put yourself 'out there' and see how much more handsome and confident you can become just by competing in the dating scene. As many gorgeous women as there are in the world, there is always one more.
Just like picking at an open wound, you'll be preoccupied with thoughts of this woman as long as you let yourself be. At some point you have to stop but you don't exhibit that willpower yet. The most effective cure is fun and distraction, conversation and getting to know women through dating. Overcome your shyness, if you have it, and try any number of methods to meet more women. Set yourself a goal to go on a date at least once a week. Your life will improve tremendously!
2007-02-26 00:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel who knos maybe she feels the same way ... you say she goes through many men ..maybe she just cant find the one shes looking for... the one she wants...girls dont always want prety boys there all *****...if shes as good as you say she wont care about looks shell care about you ...so just take the chance ask her out out ... if youve already been heartbrokem what do you have to lose ..... shell probably say yes but if she dosent then at least youll kno & you can move on with your life .... if you dont youll spend the rest of your life wondering what if....
2007-02-25 09:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by lilash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, love is a funny thing. It does not see what a person is, but what is inside.
Your feelings are real I'm sure. My question is, have you told her how you feel?
Sometimes that's all that it takes - knowledge. She may be overlooking you because she isn't aware that you are interested. Give her a chance to let you know how she feels. If she doesn't have any feelings for you, she'll let you know and although it will hurt, you will know and that will empower you to move forward without her.
I know, it's not as simple as that... yet it is.
Think about it and good luck.
2007-02-24 05:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, you write pretty well as i see from your question - just one paragraph and you have told us a story of a heart breaking love .. I'm not confident either but if I could write as good as you I'll put it it down in a letter .... just some letter that you'll give her maybe one day. it'll help you to put down your thoughts on a paper and it feels much better .. that's what i think but maybe my advice is not good as i have messed up with all girls and still have no girlfriend. good luck and all the best for you.
2007-02-24 06:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about the people you talk to and are around everyday and you might find someone else. if you still live around her (it confused me about the moving) ask her out. you might think you're not a "pretty boy" , but she might think you are. you never know for sure till you try.
2007-02-25 11:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by mkh6294 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your move, if you fail, oh well!
you made a move either way. It beats regret!
try and fail and then move on!
2007-02-18 18:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by happymrzot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out.
2007-02-25 22:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u really wanna be with sum1 lyk dat??
move on dude...takes time...but happens....trust me.
2007-02-25 21:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by RiGhT.hErE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves you too,go ahead.
2007-02-25 20:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋