What shall I do, someone please help me soon, its really urgent.?

Question

My husband peeps into my neighbour's window for a lady. My husband is 40 and good looking while I am not and the lady opposite us is quite good looking. Now, when I warned him against peeping, he got angry over me and stopped talkig to me since 11th Feb and is still not talking to me, I tried to talk to him many times in vain. He keeps doing this kind of fuss often for any reason any time. How should I deal this matter, someone please seriously guide me, as I am feeling very guilty about it, when he does not talk to me.

my neighbour also peeps in our window for my husband, she too is the same kind. How can I get him back to talking to me soon

Answer 1

Why do you feel guilty? You aren't doing anything wrong. Your husband is being a jerk. He's looking at another woman & when you told him it bothers you he stopped talking to you. Just ignore him, maybe he'll go away. You do not deserve that.

Answer 2

Ur hubby is wrong , because u have every right to ask him not to peep in her window( it's against the law also) he's lucky that if she knew this she didn't call the police or a lawyer.

He's a jerk for getting mad and to stop speaking to u that's very childish. Tell him that if he wants to act like a child over this then he can keep acting like a child but u are serious about him not looking in her window again and if this happens again Ur either gonna tell the woman and maybe she will call the law on him for doing this or Ur gonna some law advice on how to handle this Ur self.

Ask him if he would feel better if he has a law suit to deal with because he's so over sex that he can't stop peeping in neighbors windows, ask him if he wants to be known as a peeping tom by the other neighbors and have everyone talking about him to the point where u may have to end up moving out of shame?

Good Luck Sweetie

Im sure this is bothering you it would bother me too

Answer 3

Your husband has a problem...peeping is against the law and if the woman does it to you I would press charges. My guess is that they a thing going on the side..
Are they children involved?
You know Child Support can be downer..hehe. if you know what I mean.
You said you were not good looking, well something attracted your husband to you...have you let yourself go. If so, now is the time to think about yourself. go to the gym, lose some weight and get in shape, get tanned, get some high lights, buy you some new clothes and makeup, go back to school..
You will find that after doing all that, you want mind him looking at the **** next door. You will have made a better life for yourself and to hell will the both of them...sounds like they deserve each other.
I know it hurts for him not to talk to you, when you feel like you cant stand it any longer, get out of the house and visit your mom, sister or girlfriend..You need a good support system right now and I'm sure they are there for you.

You are what you think you are....Keep telling yourself
I am beautiful, I am smart, and I am a worth while person
I will not except anyone in my life that makes me feel other wise.
Love yourself first!

Answer 4

why are you feeling guilty in the first place.he knows very well what he's doing only when you confronted he has become defensive and stopped talking so that you might feel guilty and won't ask him again. this is the way most of the men react. he wants you to think that you have spoit the relationship by asking such things.just ignore him for few days and look busy and try not to notice him at all.he should realise what he is doing. other thing you can do is just shut the window or put blinds.

Answer 5

First dont stop him from peeping in neghbour's window .Then you start talking to any of your friend on cell for hours and don't let him know that you r talking to a girl.How you'll do it------When you get call stand and go to a lonely place to talk or say that you r'nt comfortable talking now and ask the caller to call back. Start going out more.Over all you have to show him as if you have some1 in your life who matters for you more than your husband.This will make him realise you value and he'll get back to you.I bet this will work.

Answer 6

i think when men go 40 they becom knotty.

see friend if w think w r stupid, dump, not beatiful, n that is why no one is with us than i think this is wrong at our part only. if u think u r not so gud looking than u r wrong and that is why u r giveing ur husband that much freedom to do all this thing if a person think that he is not of other persons type than he is indirectly giving other person advantage to do anything with him/her.

what u can do

1 first stop think -vely about yourself

2 be cool and relaxed

3 w can not force anyone to love us so give your husband some time

4 stop give your husband undue importance because if w say that i love u, i care 4 u, ect... than that words hav very less means and improtance also

5 just b cool and do your work more happly if u r doing some job than do it very cooly and if u r a house wife than finesh your work on time. just don't show any consern to your husband.

6 set your self some gole in life and fulfil them

7 just go to that lady and search wat she is doing and how she thinks and is she married and happy and b more friendly with her but don't invite her in your home

8 be more perticular about your dressing sence

9 if you think that u r not gud looking than find your weak points and try to over come them

10 take this matter as a chllenge to your self and expect it with full faith and with +ve point

11 no one in this world can take away wat u hav if u know how to make that thing yours

12 SO YOUNG AND BEAUTIFUL LADY B READY AND SHOW THIS WORLD THAT YOU CAN DO IT

13 best of luck from your friend

14 see i think husbands r like a dog ( sorry 4 this but this is true) so if you know how to make your dog love u and care for u than u can do it give the best bone you can give him without know that u r doing it because u want his love and attention

15 yaar this is life and enjoy this situation and love to play the game til the end

i know u will win this

byeeeeeeeeee

Answer 7

He's not talking because you caught him and he is feeling guilty and putting the blame on you. He has some serious issues that need to be addressed. If he won't talk to you then maybe a marriage counsler. I would let the neighbor next door know and maybe she can get him arrested. Honestly I think you should let him know that you will not in any terms accept this behaviour. He either gets help or moves out.

Answer 8

I believe your husband and your neighbor wants to have an affair this is obvious. Let him know that you will not continue to tolerant his and her behavior. You and your husband need to bring passionation in your marriage for each other like you had in the beginning. Stop taking each other for granted and share your lives, moment, desires, sorrows, happiness and love. You both need to realize what you both see in each other. Don't talk to him or shout at him about this issue. Show him wear a sexy night gown put the exictement in fun back into your marriage. Act like his girlfriend at times not just a wife you can be both. Wake up before it's too late. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Please read the entire thing before discarding it.
Well I would like to tell you two things at first, firstly it is not as troublesome as it looks.Secondly though I condemn the activities of your husband I would consider his behaviour immature(including his getting angry) rather than perverted.I don't think he was always like this.What it looks to me is that his attraction for you has been subdued with time.This happens to most couples after many years in marriage to which your husband resorted to peeping..
He may have looked at her initially for fun but later he could be doing this just to irritate you.
But first what you need to do is to strike the conversation back.I know this is unfair but at times you have to step back to strike the perfect shot.You would have to apologise to him just to start talking.If he even doesn't listen then you would have to cry.Women's tears are the greatest soap to a man's ego.Chances are pretty great that he would be the one apologising after this moreover his love for you would be renewed.Many women would disagree with this but I think crying deserves a chance before taking any stern action (like involving mother etc.) which would further seperate the couple.You can't force somebody to like you. So you need to spice up ur s*x life(again a yahoo answers question) to drive any thoughts of the wicked woman out of your husb ..mind. In the initial years the initiative to make things interesting is on men but in later part women need to put some enthusiasm.

Answer 10

First of all, you have nothing to feel guilty about. Your husband is the one doing something wrong and illegal. How would you think your neighbor feels if she found out....he is violating her privacy.

You seem to have a low opinion about yourself which you need to change. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and you have to love yourself first!

You need to look at your relationship and where it stands, your husband is disrespecting you and your neighbor. Is this the kind of relationship you want to be in? I don't think so. It doesn't sound very healthy.

just my opinion. Take care of yourself because noone else will.

Good luck

Answer 11

Well why do you feel guilty if your husband is the pervert. Because that's all he is a pervert. Sorryt to say it but its true. You should tell him if he doens't stop you will tell the neighbor to close her shades and tell him it up to her if she calls the cops on him. But try to tell him to stop again then tell the neighbor. It doesn't matter if your husband is good-looking or not he shouldn't be doing that and especially if you know. He should have more respect for you. So if you need to chat more just IM me anytime