lastmonth i was out clubing with my frends i met this guy he said he was 20 years of age and single ,good lookin and single at the time i thought i had hit the jackpot we had a couple of drinks we started kissing and things just stared from there.we had sex in his car ,the car was shaking from side to side it was so passionate 1 month later
i found out that i was pregnant i told him and he told me that he was 35 ,married with 3 kids im only 17 and i feel so guilty what should i do?
2007-02-18 03:38:32 · 20 answers · asked by amanda w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Did you have to add the "car was shaking side to side" detail?
You were only 17 and should not be having sex with a stranger...esp without any protection.
Oh well..you are pregnant and you and this guy will have to take care of the kid. Your life has changed and you will have to grow up quickly. Lucky you didn't catch any disease.
2007-02-18 03:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Put the baby up for adoption.
You sound like pure garbage. I would have never been in a bar or club drinking and having sex with strangers at 17.
Your kid would be better growing up an orphan than with the likes of you as a parent.
Have you explained to your parents yet about how you got knocked up? That you were in a club getting wasted and had "hot sex with a guy", that you had the car shaking? Im certain they will be so proud of you.
Did you tell the guy you were only 17? I mean come on, you must have lied to get in the club and to be drinking, so without a doubt you probably lied to him about your age too.
2007-02-18 11:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tierra 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that's why kids should not be having sex. You had sex with someone you didn't even know. He lied which is worse on him. As for you feeling guilty, guilty about being lied to, no. guilty about under aged drinking, yes. guilty about having sex, yes, guilty about a baby brought into this, yes.
main question now is, what to do now that the mistake has been made and did you learn anything.
What to do? 1st thing if you haven't already, tell your parents. 2nd make a decission on the baby. My oppinion on this, is your not mature enough to make a good parent to this child at this time based on the fact of how the baby was made to begin with. So adoption I feel is the only right thing to do. The father should have charges pressed against him as he lied and had sex with a miner under 18. obviously he is no good being married and having sex with someone else under age or not.
2007-02-18 11:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for one you should have both been honest to each other but this day and age hard to find that . all so unpretected sex was not good do to there are so many riscks your takeing . there are a lot of things you can do depending on you do you want a child at 17 ?can you live with the consaquences of ending a preanance , or there are many willing to adoped . there are so many things out there talk to your OBGYN they can help you but defently do what you feel you think is right for you it is your body and heart and mind . many say that you made your bed lay in it but they all so dont realises we all make mistakes and yes some times many have to pay the price for the dision but all so there is al lot you have to deal with as well . will they be there to help you rases this child feed this child care for them and share the sleepless nights with you . i am agenst aborsion but i am not agenst it to have a neglected child or for gotten one eather but i know friends who have had them and there lives are turned up side down still about making that dision . so talk to some one you love and trust and ask your doctor about options as well there is a lot that you can do more than you may know you are 17 have your hole life to do what you want and if you want this child it will be a ruff and tuff ride and a lot of ups and downs it wont be easy but can be very rewarding . just becareful to what you want to do do it for you not any one else if you need some one to talk to go to my page and contact me ok . good luck Hang in there !!!
2007-02-18 11:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by dragonflyy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 17 and went CLUBBING? Probably with a false i.d.???
You are entirely too young and your actions prove it...now you're paying the price. Now to move on...
His age is irrelevant...yours IS! You need to come clean with your parents and seek counseling....1st priority is the child...have it or not....abortion, adoption??? etc. Once that decision is made, a meeting with the "man" is in order. If the result is not to your satisfaction, call the authorities...you WERE under age...
2007-02-18 12:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by superbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You messed up big time.
What the HELL were you doing out "Clubbing" and having sex with adult men when you are only 17?
What are you doing at 17 getting into cars with men you dont even know...having sex with men you dont even know? Dont you understand he could have KILLED YOU?
Even if he told you he was 20, 20 is too old for you. You are still a kid.
2007-02-18 11:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
well i can understand wht u feeling rite nw.but u souldnt be guilty as he is the one who betrayed u.He knws tht he has a wife n a family how can he jst hv x wit u ?anywaz wht has happend alrdly happend so u gota think wht u shld do now.first of all u sld tell ur mom abt it.i knw its not easy but u hv t odo it for ur sake.n ofcourse u cant abord the baby...its a tiny little life.it is not the babies fault so dnt punish him or her by getting an abortion.but still if ur parents understand and there is no choise so u hv to do it.but i m afraid tht u cant do anything as u r only 17...its too young my dear ...if u were 18thn u can take ur own desition but nw...i rly dnt knw but i will pray for u to hv gd decision.
n u sld let the wife knw abt this basturd.....ok...
n one way u sld feel guilty too as u knew tht u r underage but stilll u did it witout protection.but nw tht u r in this position u got to think vry carefully wht to do ...ok...n its not ur fault totally so stop feeling bad abt it.....he knew abt his background but still he had it wit u so i think he sld pay for it....ok...i hope u can teach him a good lesson for wht he did to u n the baby..ok...but agn i m telling u do not abord the baby if u can...God bless u...
2007-02-18 11:57:09 · answer #7 · answered by pinky_noor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed sweetheart. I just hope you don't make your baby pay for it. Make sure your baby gets a good home. Why you're having sex with strangers in their car, is beyond me. Have a bit more respect for yourself. You need to be worrying about graduating from high school instead of screwing guys in their car.
2007-02-18 12:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg what a jerk! tell his wife exactly what happened! he's gonna deny it, but if she's smart, she'll believe you. if not, you can have a court order a DNA test from him once the baby is born... then she'll believe you. I'm sorry. he sounds like a real pig. ALSO, depending on what state you live in, he could be in big trouble because you're underage. ooh... get this guy! jerks like this need to be punished as much as possible. you should only feel guilty for not insisting on a condom. the rest is HIS fault!
2007-02-18 11:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Emily H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did wrong, so learn from your mistake...Now, take charge. Feeling guilty will not do anything to fix this. So don't feel guilty. Tell your parents, make plans on how to take care of the baby. You are a MINOR at 17, so take the guy to the cleaners. He is an ADULT with his own responsibilities, so make him own up to this new responsibility. It takes two, not one to make a new life. His wife and family should know how he has been spending his spare time. Good luck
2007-02-18 11:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by cdpaso 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋