I mean is it certain dynamics or ingredients that cause people to want to remain together, or is it usually just that the sense of duty and DECISION to committ is stronger in some people.
2007-02-18 03:28:14 · 39 answers · asked by Sarah H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pardon me if I wax poetic or romantic on this. It tends to be my nature sometimes. What makes a relationship last a lifetime? Magic. You must know what I mean here. It is something that you can't put your finger on, but it exists or you find it jut by chance and sometimes you just don't know it. I have not seen it in life and while I have seen it in movies, I still believe in it.
2007-02-18 03:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a decision we make. I am married for 30 years and it was the decision to remain married through the good and bad times that made me stay. I was tempted to leave a few times, but that decision kept me where I am today.
It is important for a couple to be intimate in their communication--both parties must be willing to communicate on an intimate level--their thoughts and feelings about everything they encounter. If this is lacking, the relationship will definitely break down.
Your mate must be also your most intimate friend. You must want to never hurt one another. Also, it is not fair if one person is used by the other. It must be a mutual self-giving and a complete self-giving, and wanting only the very best for the other always. This requires work and dedication to the other, and self-respect and respect of the other.
2007-02-18 03:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by modaphnineque 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a variety of things. All depending on the persons involved, of course.
A relationship is built over a course of time where both prove their love, friendship, trust, support and understanding.
Compromise is probably the most important element in a relationship. Compromise proves love and support.
The people who stay together for a sense of duty (usually children) will find that their relationships cannot blossom for that sense of duty prevents it from doing so.
Communication is a very important element as well as honesty.
And, again, it is time that will give you the answer.
2007-02-18 03:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's team players, and two people making the commitment to stay together and accept one another throughout their lives together as INDIVIDUALS who remain together. It's people who learn to appreciate differences instead of finding fault and trying to change them. Differences can actually level each other out and compliment each other. No two people are alike, and that's what actually keeps it interesting. Remember why you married your partner in the first place and keep those qualities in mind. Remember to accept the faults and quirks that everyone has and not try to change them or improve on them. Everyone is entitled to their quirks. And COMPROMISING is a huge thing. You've got to GIVE and take. If each partner tries to give more than they take, it gives the whole relationship a boost..........and put each other on a pedestal. Your partner should be the most important person in the world...............and they should feel that. Back to the team players............you are a team when you get married. Those who work together as a team make it.
2007-02-18 03:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is having the ability and the desire to communicate. I think you have to start from a certain point that involves chemistry but also actually liking the person just the way they are. You can fall in love with someone..have passion but eventually it will burn out when you realize you don't see the core qualities in them that you can really identify with and respect. I also agree with many of the other people and their opinions, intimacy is a key ingredient..meaning that you can talk about anything and share your most heartfelt feelings or confess your greatest insecurities to the one person who you trust the most.
2007-02-18 03:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you mean happily last a lifetime, I think is growing together, communication, commitment and compromise. If each is focusing on making the other happy without thinking of them selves, both are taken care of selflessly, if each part stat thinking "but what about me?" then the relationship starts to shift in one direction more than the other and at the end it ends. It's not easy since many have not succeeded but it's worth the try.
2007-02-18 03:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by maccaroni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a decision. It's a decision to always be honest, open and loving forever to someone. Marriages that last a lifetime just don't "happen" without work. There will always be ups and downs, both people just have to be committed to get through it no matter what.
2007-02-18 03:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the time to get to know someone before committing to them, then keeping the lines of Communication open and not bailing when a problem crops up.
Long term relationships take work and in today's fast-food/disposable society too many people find it easier to toss things aside that aren't working, rather than fix them...they just go out and get another one.
2007-02-18 03:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I put my own success down to communication, adventure, wanting the same things (nearly) being honest and keeping romance alive. I'm in the army and therefore we have spent long periods apart however no matter where I have been, if I could call, I would and the last words she hears from me every time we part or go to sleep are "I love you" one more thing, never go to sleep on an arguement!!!
2007-02-18 03:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by sanders of the river 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be the decision to committ from both people and a lot of communication and honesty.
2007-02-18 03:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Nette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋