How would you react to the mean drunken actions of a teammate in the morning?

Question

I am the coxswain of the mens crew (rowing) team at my university. I'm the only girl on the all guy team i'm small and i yell row and other things along those lines. Thing is they need me, not many other girls would sacrafice 3 hours of everyday to them.

At a party last night some of my rowers were there, all of them are like my brothers except for one who always gives me a hard time (mostly jokingly) and I just ignore it.

Last Night the one who is rude told me he hated me and when I went to pick something up threw an empty beer can at my head.I was very intoxicated myself and freaked out pushing his head very hard and screaming "JUST STAY AWAY FROM ME."

I considered quitting last night because of him. We have a team work out at are schools gym this morning, he left a long apoligie on my phone last night I believe after I told another rower what happened crying my eyes out.

What do I say 2 him this morning? How do I enforce respect?

Answer 1

If you enjoy being the coxswain on this team, then don't quit! Never allow anyone to do so either. You have to be strong. You can't force someone to respect you but you can teach them to be civil within your presence. If he apologized to you, I believe that's a good sign. He realized what he did. Accept his apology and be the bigger person. Obviously he isn't a team player if he can say that to someone on his team but he has shown that he is man enough to apologize for his behavior. Ask him what prompted him to say that and go from there. Good luck and hope this helped.

Answer 2

tell him that hey buddy we r a team and i will show respect to you when you start showing me some respect and i want all of us to be one happy family so cant we all just get along.