I have a friend who's parent did something to them when they were younger. They are now far away from that person and I guess I am trying to show them that they have a choice of making the future brighter. But I don't know how to say it to them. Any serious help would be appreciated. Thanks!
2007-02-18 03:13:26 · 17 answers · asked by Myers 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Although I've never experienced either, I would imagine being raped by a parent would be more damaging.
2007-02-18 03:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the parent has done something really bad and your friend cannot accept it then let it be. They know what is the right choice for them and what they do. What I am trying to say is that you have to leave them accept it in their own time. How do you know how it felt, to be hurt by your parent? Don't worry they will soon discover how to make the future brighter as soon as they accept what has happened to them in the past.
2007-02-18 03:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by :( ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having a parent kill themselves is worse, although I have to say that both crimes are terrible. But in the case of the rape, they have a chance to go to therapy together and get some answers. But if the parent is dead, you are left with conflicting emotions (love/hate) and you can never get any answers. You can only talk to that person in your head. I've been there- it was hell to go through! It took me years.....
2007-02-18 03:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer lies within the person. Both are terrible, but it relies on the strength of the individual to overcome whatever it may be. Your job is to help them maintain and be willing to hear what they have to say. Be non-judgmental. That is the key.
2007-02-18 03:22:28 · answer #4 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it does have anything todo with your religon because all faiths have the same emotions. In my oppinion they are both bad because a child could blame themselves for both incidents.
Rape scares you mentally forever.
Your parents commiting suicide could also scare you mentally forever depending on the circumstances.
However I don't beileve that anybody,including myself, should be comparing them both, as they are to totally differant subjects and very few people have experianced them both.
2007-02-18 03:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both acts are selfish, but at least the parent who raped their child still has the opportunity to change their ways and seek forgiveness. Killing yourself, of course, affords no such opportunity!
2007-02-18 03:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude are you kidding me? get your dad to rape you up the *** then we'll see how close you wanna be to him i say let your friend be you dont have to be best friends with everyone to have a bright future especially a parent who abused/raped/neglected you if they did it once theyll do it again trust me been there done that
2007-02-18 03:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the very best friend you can be. Always be there when they need you, and never let them down.
It would be best to urge counseling, if they haven't already gone. They need to know it's not their
fault, and they should NOT feel ashamed!
2007-02-18 03:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no one answer to that question. Just be supportive to that person is all you can do. Be nice, talk nice and all will be fine in the end. Support and friendship is what this person needs.
2007-02-18 03:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in that situation, and it is tough to move on it hurts deeply when you have been hurt like that, let her know others out there have gone through that too and tell her iif she needs to talk or a shoulder to cry on she knows where to go you'll always be there for her. . it may help her to know that you care and will bethere for her always.
2007-02-18 03:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by misbehaveing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋