did anyone fele this bad?

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i have posted a few times on this subject, people probably wonder why im doing it again. I dont know myself right now, see this place at times as a sort of life line....im just over 12 weeks pregnant adn i am so sick. I have tried all of the remedies, ie ginger preggie pos ect. its not that I cant really eat anymore, I can but its the sick feeling I have 24/7. I am still being a bit sick, not as much as before... I feel nad for whinging,but lately I have become so depressed that I just dont feel like waking up in the morning.I love whats growing inside me but hating the person I am becoming. I sit here and cry all day. People say it will pass, and Im sure it will but every day just seems like ground hog day.My friends who have had kids have sailed through their pregnancies, so cant really offer any advice as thast what I am after, not sympathy. I just dont know what to do,this depression is getting worse adn worse.....

I just feel like such a failure. On top of all this, because I havent been getting proper nutrients, I have gottent he flu again.

I just wanted to thank you all for posting, apart from the one who told me I should wipe my nose and start doing fun things such as house work. Ha, fat chance. you cant do f all when you feel so ill. Its comforting to know that you have all had some sort of of the same variations as myself. I feel so bad for you all having to go through this too. I know there is light at the end of the tunnel, but it seems like its a light year away!I hate feeling sorry formyself, it isnt like me at all and I hate missing work over this too.Im a natural "to do person" I always have something on the go and to have to sit in the house day after day( although I managed 3 days at work last week , yippee!), it really has gotten me down. I feel guilty as there are people who are worse off than I am, ie cancer patients ect, it seems to have slipped my mind just now.Anyway, tomorrow is a new day...Thanks again for your kindness.

Answer 1

this must be your first pregnancy. your body has the most difficult time adjusting to the hormones during your first pregnancy, usually. my first pregnancy was horrible. i puked from day one until i gave birth and the depression was unbearable. so i completely understand how you feel. that does not mean yours will last that long though. you really should start feeling better around 16-18 weeks. although be prepared some women as i did suffer the whole way....not to scare you. make sure you take your vitamins and ask the doc about taking extra vitamin b as depression can directly be related to the depletion of vitamins. you will need to force yourself to get up and do something, anything and you will find that soon you feel a little better. unfortunately not much really ends your symptoms but you can take the edge off by keeping yourself healthy because alot of time people will neglect themselves when depressed making the problems worse. as for the nausea, i never found anything that works but some women swear by ginger ale and crackers. ask your doc for some nausea pills, they do help a little. good luck to you and remember you are not alone, some of us really understand and feel for you.

Answer 2

okay a person wrote for you to get up and clean the house,...lol if they knew what they were talking about they would know you can't get up and clean the house when you are that sick...I know what you are going through. My mom has to come over and clean my house and do my laundry. I am 11 weeks and I am still very sick. I work full time but since I have been pregnant, I barely even go to work. I have no energy and I have been in the hospital twice because I am so sick. I take medicine to help me keep things down but lately I have been so sad because I am so sick. I feel like I am no fun anymore and I cry all the time. It's very hard. I tend to get depressed anyways, so it's hard. I love the baby too but its hard to deal with a sudden change. Hang in there. When I went to the hospital, they gave me an anti nausea medicine so I can function. Talk to your dr. about the depression. Good luck!!

Answer 3

I feel you mama. For the first 12 weeks I couldn't even get off of the couch. I had to leave my job and I just felt like a piece of you know what for so many reasons. The upside to it is that if you are starting to feel a little better now then it is going to continue to get better. You should feel a whole bunch better within the next week or two. I am 14 weeks now and while I don't feel great... I feel 100% better than I did 2 weeks ago.
My issue right now is that I have developed restless leg syndrome because I had been so ill I couldn't get off the couch unless I had to rush to the restroom.
I tell you what though... I couldn't find anything to make me feel better... not crackers or ginger or anything. Then I discovered this awesome water called Glaceau Vitamin Water. It is crammed full of the essential vitamins you need everyday. There are many different flavors (the raspberry apple, lemonade and orange are my favorites) and they actually made me feel better. I love them and couldn't get through my day without them. If you are up for trying anything to make you feel better I highly recommend them. I live in Indiana and they sell them everywhere.
The depression is normal. I am so depressed but excited at the same time... so please don't feel bad about that. My mom reassured me that it is normal and okay. It doesn't make you a bad person.

Answer 4

Pregnancy can bring on many hormonal side effects. I can't completely understand your feelings, but I can try and offer you some comfort. I was pregnant last year and I cried a lot too. Some times I would just sit there watching TV and burst out in tears. I told my husband to just leave me alone. I would pick fights with him and then cry about it. The good news is, you're just over 12 weeks, which means your morning sickness should begin to go away. That's also about the time my emotional roller coaster slowed down. Try to focus on the baby and what joy he/she will bring to your life. I think you should make an appointment with your OB to discuss your depression and what you can do about it. If you are as depressed as you say you are then you really need professional attention. Good luck and congratulations on the baby!!!

Answer 5

Hi, Im so sorry you are feeling like that. I felt the same way and was like that until week 20. This is my 4th pregnancy but by far the worst ever. I didnt want to wake either, and was sooooo depressed and frustrated from it, I would just burst into tears and cry and cry and cry. Its terrible being sick 24/7 and not being able to get out of bed. I too tried everything you said plus more and took meds prescribed by the doctor for it and those didnt work either. I just want you to know that you are not the only one and Some of us are just not so lucky. I have 3 boys to take care of too and my husband works out of town , so I felt so guilty about my boys not being able to have me do what I needed for them. Try and talk to your doctor and tell them about the depression. There are things that they can give you that may help. Im sorry all I can offer is sympathy since I have been through it and understand you. There really is just not much you can do, because I tried it all myself. If you need to talk , just to talk, just email me. My email is in my profile. Im hoping you start to feel better soon.....

Answer 6

I really feel for you, just hold on a little while longer the sickness should go away really soon. I did not throw up but felt sick the whole day and nothing really seemed to help me at all. Your emotions will also start subsiding in your second trimester so just hold on it´s almost over.....

With depression I would suggest you go and see someone, don´t say there is something wrong with you but it might get worse later on...

Good luck

Answer 7

first of all there is a pregnancy pill called diclectin that wil help with the sick feeling onlypregnant women can take this pill. secondly your hormones are all out of wack so that is why you are feeling the way you are feeling. talk to your doc maybe she can suggest you talk to someone. i had to and i felt way better. you will feel like crying even after you have your baby because your hormones again will be off balance. i didnt feel like waking up eiter i never got out of bed i stayed in bed watched movies all day cause i was always crying i was going to break up in my relationship because i was so depressed adn i was getting ssick every 2nd day till i got the pill. all i can say is hang in there youll be ok. email me maybe i can help miraclebaby_2006 at yahoo.com or [e-mail]

Answer 8

I was sick for 7 months. It's debilitating! I know how horrible it is.. You can take Zoloft while pregnant for depression, and Zofran helped with the vomiting, when I could keep it down long enough. It's hellish. When you don't think you can make it through one more single day...

Answer 9

Go to the doc. I'm sure ther's a cure and it's "perfectly normal." Also, why would you hate becomeing a mother? Try spending every day for a while being what you think an ideal mother would be. Should you mope, whine and cry all day in a depression, or get help from a doctor, clean up the house, wipe your nose. and go do something fun with friends? Think about it.
Also, no matter how bad things seem, in the morning, when you wake up, you WILL feel a little bit better, I garuntee it.

-Tizzzy

Answer 10

Had very similar pregnancy, sickness, depression and heartburn. Regret now that i didn't enjoy it but i didn't, but glad to report that i am extremely happy and proud mother of gorgeous boy. Treat yourself to something nice, new CD? surround yourself with beautiful things and eat plain food, you will sail through this.