Mywork usually takes me out of town for a couple of days. One day I received a missent message on my mobile phone. The message came from my husband and he was definetely sending the message to another girl. I confronted him right away and after serveral verbal exchanges, I asked him to leave the house. This is not the first time he has cheated on me. Did I do the right thing? Some of my friends are telling me to give him another chance.
2007-02-18 02:05:47 · 18 answers · asked by confused lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has cheated on you in the past then yes you did the right thing. He has had his second chance, tell your so called friends to get a life and when there husbands cheat on them they need to say nothing and pat them on the back and send them out to get some more! Good luck.
2007-02-18 02:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter what your friends are telling you, only you can decide whether or not you did the right thing for you.
Ideally, marriage should be based on love and respect. If one partner looks outside the marriage for any reason it's always wrong and never solves anything. Obviously your husband isn't respecting you if he's cheating on you.
Marriages can and have been "saved" after an affair, a lot depends on the circumstances. If the "cheater" is sorry, and willing to do "whatever it takes" to repair the damage, I think there's a possibility of salvaging the marriage.
You are the only one who knows the situation and your husband. It's up to you to decide if he's truly sorry and willing to work on repairing the damage he caused. The call is yours.
I wish you all the best.
2007-02-18 10:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. In this day and age of nasty and deadly std's, you did the right thing. Even if he doesn't give you something, he may get one of his "ladies" pregnant. And then what? And aside from that, you deserve better. Right now you probably have a low self esteem (comes with the territory) and my guess is so do the friends who want you to give him another chance. Remember, you are a beautiful person who deserves happiness and a faithful partner. My only advice to you, beyond get a lawyer honey, is maybe get some counseling so that you don't end up punishing subsequent men for the deeds of one man. It is easy to do, but you can overcome it. Good luck honey, you will be ok.
2007-02-18 10:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by passionatemilf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you already have given him a second chance, he has done this before right? You did the right thing.Accepting it before gave him license to do it again. Taking a stand, will initiate change. Is your relationship worth all it will take to work through this. It will not be an easy road. If there are no children involved, then I say good riddens to him.
2007-02-18 10:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's left, but you haven't divorce. The second chance is always up in the air, but from what your husband has shown you and as much as it may hurt, I think telling him to leave is best for you. You respected yourself and your own needs. While marriage is a team, you need to keep yourself and you need to be safe, happy and healthy. A husband who can't stay monogamous, if that's what you need, is not a husband at all!
2007-02-18 10:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you live with wondering all the time where he is if he's not right in front of you? Or can you go by his phone, phone bills or credit card bills without feeling the urge to check? Can you both walk by an attractive woman and not wonder if your husband is checking her out?
You already took him back, and looks like he's blowing that chance. Plus now you have evidence, recent physical evidence, that can help you in court should you choose to leave him.
LIVE your life...and live it with someone that deserves you. Live it happily and without fear of betrayal.
2007-02-18 11:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by roswell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always listen to what other people say. the same goes for the answers on here. But what you have to think about is everytime you have to go out of town he is cheating. I bet everyman wishes that he had is cake and was eating it too. Do you want this kind of marriage? that is the question.
2007-02-18 10:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did do the right thing. He is not faithful to you and it would seem that is not a priority for him in this relationship. You have to be the one to ask yourself-how many times should you forgive him.
Ask yourself, Do you value faithfullness. Sometimes you just have to get to the crossroad where enough is enough... Don't compromise that because of feelings... Love you can find again. Kick him to the curb.
2007-02-18 10:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many changes is enough.Cheaters cheat.They have no respect for you now or later.No mater how many
i will change, I love you , it wont happen againnnnnnnnn.
the list is as long as there lies.Its your call, Better think on getting a check up he might of given you a going away present.Hope not good luck. Tell your friends to give him another change as it might be 1 of them he been with.
2007-02-18 10:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let him back in? When you can show me where Love and Cheating, meet? I don't think this is the only one? and I don't believe it will be the last one. If you don't end it, now! At least take a break, Ans let him see how stupid he was. Be firm. It's the ony way you can get your mind to settle down. Bless you!
2007-02-18 10:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋