Im a lesbian and Im Christian help?

Question

i have strong faith in God adn I cant seem to get attracted to guys. I was raped once and It made me hate guys. I love women. I prayed to God and told him that if this isnt the path im meant to go on then give me a sign. I had a dream that night that i was living in an apartment with a beautiful woman and wed wake up every morning and kiss good mroning and have a cup of coffee together and then talk for a couple hours then kiss each other good bye before work. I actually love the idea! I dont know how to tell my parents. Its kind of hard for me to even accept it! So God sent me a message saying its the path im meant to follow. So what do I do? i cant have kids anyways i have a ovary disorder. I need help how can I cope with it, and how do I tell my parents?

Answer 1

First, I like to extend my sincerest regrets that you were abused. Women do not turn to lesbianism because they hate and do not trust men it is because of they are attracted to women. I would suggest counseling to help you with the anger and distrust issues you fee about the rape. I am a heterosexual woman who was molested and abused by my first husband. Do I hate men? No. I love my second husband dearly.

This part of my answer I have posted previously about God and homosexuality: The way understand the bible and how God looks at Christianity is you need to understand the bible. In the time in which Leviticus lived in if you were anything but a white male you were looked down upon. If you carefully read Leviticus, you will see minorities and women were looked down upon.

Man also looked up spilling their seed as a waste. Semen was meant for procreation. Male homosexuality did not cause pregnancy.

Leviticus is also known as the book of laws. In Jewish and Christian history (Old Testament) - God looks upon everyone as evil, Leviticus set about giving us the law so that people could go to heaven. But guess what - we are sinners (this is where Christianity comes in) and Jesus died for us to erase the sin we caused.

To move to the guidelines in Genesis and Judges - if you read the stories in context, it becomes more understandable. As mentioned previously - women were considered inferior and to be treated as a woman would be considered the ultimate insult. Jesus (when referring to the sin of Sodom) was destroy because of greed, injustice, in-hospitality, excess wealth, indifference to the poor, and general wickedness. Notice that the stories about Sodom were about inhospitable treatment to the visiting angel nor did Jesus cite homosexuality as a cause.

Paul. In the New Testament the so called references to homosexuality are the Greek words 'aresnokoites and malakos'. These words only appear twice. The Greek word arsen means man and koites means bed. Someone (?) decided that means homosexuality. That is like saying the word understanding means standing below. More likely the word means rape or exploitation. The Greek word malakos means soft. That is hardly the scathing exclusion for homosexuals to go to heaven.

God is not sending you a message with your health to not be homosexual.

Please seek the help of a counselor to sort out your feelings. It is no shame to seek out help to get understanding.

Good luck to you.

Additional details:
I would not tell your parents until you have everything sorted out for yourself.

Answer 2

You are in a difficult place and must do your best to find God's will for your life. MOST importantly of all, know that God loves you NO MATTER WHAT. The bible says that NOTHING can seperate us from the love of God.

If, as you say, your attraction to women is because a rape caused you to hate men, then that is something for a therapist or counselor to help you with. There is healing and restoration for that kind of trauma. If you have truly had homosexual feelings from a young age then that may not be something that can be changed. Sadly, telling your parents is not an easy thing. Just be certain where the source of these feelings are.

BUT always remember God loves you and that will never change. If anyone tries to tell you differently they are not true Christians.

Answer 3

God is far more evolved then Christianity will ever be. If you are a lesbian, then that is part of who you are and is also what makes you beautiful. You should never feel that you are excluded or unholy or unwanted. If being with a woman makes you happy and you can still be a good person in your heart, then you will be loved. It is a fact that everyone goes to heaven.
You parents, if they are true Christians then they will understand. They don't have to like it but they will love you no matter who you are. We are all children of God first.

Answer 4

The best thing you can do is get help. Not for your attraction to women, but for your history of rape. As hard as it sounds, that may be something you struggle with throughout your life, so turning to a professional to learn to deal with the after-effects of such a horrific ordeal is really important. Also, lean on your friends, your family, someone that you trust who can listen and lend a supportive ear. You may hate men because you learned from the rape to fear them. I promise, whether you come to realize that you are homo- or heterosexual, not all men are as bad as you think they are now. But again, counseling will help you come to really understand that.

To address your questions about your sexuality and your faith, please know that your sexual orientation doesn't determine your worth in the eyes of God and it shouldn't determine it in your family's view of you. There is nothing WRONG with being homosexual or bisexual. Work on the lingering issues you have from the rape, then worry about who you're attracted to.

Best of luck!

Answer 5

you seem very sweet =). thats what god looks for. not sexual orientation. second which this is a good thing your not the only one out there. many people are catholic and still are gay, lesbian, and bisexual. does it mean your a bad person? no not at all. tell your parents you cannot be straight or bi. simple as that. say mom and dad im gay. end. its no big deal. sooner or later, you will accept yourself it just takes a matter of time when you can trust yourself and others. god simply made you that way for a reason. good luck =)

sincerly,

-mike

Answer 6

Honey, you have been thru so much suffering already !
Know that God loves you deeply and passionately.
Don't give up on His plan for you just yet.
Find some Christians that will believe in you no matter what.
Don't base your whole future on that dream. Not every dream is from God. You will find support at this site -

Answer 7

Reading your letter comes to my mind that u are young and live with your parents, my best advice don't tell. wait , you have all the time of the world to going into the journey to get know yourself. for the religious thing, the bible is clear , Jesus came to give us a new and only one commandment, that we love others in the same way that we love ourselves. on the other hand i can't say much... sexually orientation only concerns to you and you only.

Answer 8

You must see about having this conversation with a trusted minister. And if he does not give you some answers then go to another one. There is some minister out there in your area that will have real, honest, and helpful answers.
I Cr 13;8a

Answer 9

You need faith - not in God this time, in yourself. You know in your heart that you are a good person and that this is right for you. Go with it and let others deal with it as they like.

Answer 10

first of all i am so sorry what happened to you. please do not hate all men because one was bad. if you love women thats fine,but dont do so out of hate. its great that you have a strong faith to support you. i am wiccan, but grew up christian, and the god i learned of loves us with out limits. and without question. so do learn to love with out limits and find peace in what ever path you walk.