I don't want to hurt my family. But the truth I've been hidding from them for 10 years is becoming great burden for me. Now the only person who hurts is me, but when I tell them there will be much more pain. Should I tell them or should I continous with actting?
2007-02-18 00:20:00 · 16 answers · asked by athe_ena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell them the truth,
u r in danger of making urself ill over this.
don't damage urself 2 save ur families feelings.
wait 4 the right time, make it soon & ease ur emotions.
2007-02-18 00:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is way too difficult for anyone here to answer and give constructive advice without knowing exactly what you are talking about......not that I am expecting you post something so important to you on Yahoo answers. Yes! truthful we all want to be but there are times you need to weigh up a situation. I am not saying these examples are anything whatsoever to do with your problem, just trying to make myself a little clearer. 1 If you had an affair with someone 10yrs ago,it's over and you have concentrated on your marriage and being faithful for this long time. It is then unfair to bring this hurt on them. If you were truly sorry you are already being punished feeling so bad and probably will continue to do so. However, if was an ongoing affair you have no intention of stopping it puts an entirely different light on the situation and you must choose whom you want to be with and bring it out in the open. 2 If you have a child to someone else and you are maintaining or wanting to keep in touch with afraid the pain would have to be shared. 3 You have Gay tendencies time to get it all out, try and explain to your family 4 You have been in some sort of trouble or committed a crime. If you have resolved not to get in to any type of bother again and you haven't why hurt the family? However if it is something that has effected the family as in stolen from them it's time to come clean. Wish you all the very best whatever you decide to to.
2007-02-18 00:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Free yourself of this heavy burden you are carrying and talk with your family... If you can not go to your family and tell them who can you go to ? Maybe you should start with a professional mental health person and seek help in freeing yourself........ What is the worse thing that could happen ? May you find peace it has been a long time coming.
2007-02-18 00:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them what you have told us,the truth can hurt but thats what it is all about being honest.It will hurt,better that than some how it getting out and the family finding out other than you.Once you have told them,its up to them whether they continue to love you what ever,if they don't remember it then becomes their problem,not yours.Good luck in what ever you do.
2007-02-18 01:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by nessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them, hiding things is only hurting you in the long term, life is too short to worry about what others think of you, you should go out there and live your life exactly how you want to! 10 years is a long time! Tell them and get out there and start living.
2007-02-18 00:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont keep that truth in you.Niether talk about it with your family.The best thing you can do to release the burden off you is by passing it to God.Find a pleasant place and talk to God about this truth.Be honest with Him coz he knows that truth and will not judge you.He knows you and loves you just the way you are.Give it in his arms and he will take care of that.
2007-02-18 00:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty isn't always the best policy, some things are better left unsaid.
However, if it is weighing u down this much, maybe u should tell them, maybe it would be a weight off your shoulders.
It would help if there were more details from u.
I wish u love, luck & peace x
2007-02-18 00:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation - I was having lesbian affairs but could not bring myself to tell my parents. I am bi sexual - the boyfriend I was dating caught me in bed with an old girlfriend and he went to my parents and basically outed me.
Now, in hindsight I should have told them about my sexuality - it would have been better if it had come from me, rather than them find out another way.
My only problem was that when I first really recognised that I was bi-sexual I was having an affair with one of my female teachers.
I'd say - find a way of telling them, if you can.
2007-02-18 00:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with them. There is nothing to hide! If you dont tell them and keep on lying then u will not be able to cope and dig urself a bigger hole you cant get out of! x
2007-02-18 00:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by joanna.n_ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them a familys love is unconditional even though you might not be able to see it at the moment
2007-02-18 00:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by missperfection 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋