shud he make new girlfriend or go on with her sweet memories.
he finds latter one better. but i think he can't live alone lifelong without a partner. he needs help really.
2007-02-18 00:00:25 · 13 answers · asked by sunny s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Okay, I'm kinda confused...
Your friend's loved one died. Was this recent?
Everyone grieves in their own time.
No one should intentionally seek out a "replacement" for a dead partner, it rarely goes well.
He should allow himself to grieve. YOU should allow him to grieve - in his own way, in his own time.
Be loving and supportive. If he wants to talk about her/him, let him. If he wants to NOT talk about her/him yet, wait till he does. If he wants his friends (and family) around him for support, be there even if you feel awkward about it. It's what he needs that is important right now. If he needs time alone to grieve, then give him room to be alone. Stay in touch so that he knows you care and so that you will know if he's suicidal or hurting himself.
You sound like a good friend. When he has healed from the hurt and ready to love again, you can help get him back out there into the dating pool. Don't rush him into it but also don't let him grieve away the rest of his life. You can have more that one true loves in a lifetime.
2007-02-18 00:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by PixieCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you think is right. He can't live like that for ever. Slowly, over time, both memories and the pain will fade to a considerable extent. It is natural. A sympathetic and warm girl could alleviate his pain to a great extent with her companionship. He has to move on in his life. And to lead a natural life he has to get a female partner. So he shouldn't take final decisions now. Much lies ahead. He has probably said things which are natural in times of sorrow.
2007-02-18 04:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes sometime to get over the mourning over the death of a beloved and to accept that the person who is dead can be brought back to life by crying and mourning. Give your friend sometime to get over this depression phase. It is more important to get over the fact than making a girlfriend now. Once he gets a grip over himself, his emotions and his thoughts, he will autmatically start trying out options to live a happier and a better life. Just be with him and care for him or if he is going in much depression, take help from a counselor or a psychiatrist.
2007-02-18 00:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been? People get over grief at different times and in different ways. He may need more time, try to keep out in the world and around other people. I am sure that he will come around when he is ready not when others think he should be ready. Your a good friend to worry about him but don't rush him let him talk about his loved one to help him heal.
2007-02-18 00:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't jump in to it too quickly he could get burned very easily...try living her memories for a little while until he feels he can move on...we have to move on sometime or we can be very lonely. Human nature is to nurture, love and be a companion to somebody. He will be happy without somebody for an amount of time... but as he gets older, he'll naturally be seeking out a new mate. You just do your best to let him know you're there for him and you'll hang out with him and talk to him whenever he needs it.
2007-02-18 00:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs time to mourn, thats the start of he healing process and unfortunatly that may take some time, but eventually he will learn to love again.
For now you can help him by being a mate and being there for him
2007-02-18 00:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by mel_leno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are 3 basic question to answer one million. do you like her 2. does she love you 3. will being togather make the two considered one of you happy if the solutions are confident then you definately ought to dangle directly to her, do each thing and something you are able to. she doesnt love him, and it style of feels to me that the sole reason she would be with him is through the fact she feels undesirable for him. If he actually can no longer stay without her than her buddy ought to hunt for expert help
2016-10-15 22:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should make a new girlfriend.
But 1 who will confront him whenever he flashes back to the sweet memories of his lost 1.and not 1 who'll get angry whenever he flashes back.
Got it ?
2007-02-19 21:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by SE7EN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He first needs to take as long as he needs to grieve properly. He can make a decision later about new relationships.
2007-02-18 00:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he shud make new girlfriend coz tat will help him to come out of the grief
2007-02-18 05:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Aasma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋