I have dated this person for about four years now, and when i met her, I just fell so much in love with her. I live in a town where I have no family, I there due to my job. She is a type of person that no matter what i do, its never good enough. I can do 50 things right for her and 1 wrong and that makes me a bad person that doesnt care for her. she has brought me down so much that i feel so depressed, but when she is not around, I just cant stop thinking about her. I cant understand how a person that tell you she loves you so much, can hurt you in such a manner. One day she is so sweet and the next she is so hatefull. I care for her so much, but this feeling is making me go crazy, what am i doing wrong?
2007-02-17 23:23:47 · 8 answers · asked by Rocko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some people are only content when they are miserable. I can't understand why you would want to subject yourself to that kind of treatment. She obviously doesn't appreciate you. The only thing worse than being in a relationship with her for four years, is being with her for four years and one day. No one is perfect, she isn't so why should she expect you to be? You are missing out on love. Love is when you love someone unconditionally. Life is what you make it. Good luck.
2007-02-17 23:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, I know exactly what you mean.
My now ex, no matter how much I did, it wasn't enough.
No matter how well I did it, it wasn't good enough.
I was continually put last even if I was in the right.
Yes, loving someone like that is depressing.
After 19 years of $hit, I decided I'd had enough.
For the first time in ages, I actually feel like a person and not being criticised, rubbished or put down is like dying and going to heaven. They'll bring you down until you think you're worthless.
I even contemplated suicide a few times, just to end it. Good luck and be strong, there's plenty out there that'll appreciate you.
2007-02-18 07:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people feel bad and critical about themselves they often project it onto the one they are supposed to love. I think it's unlikely you will ever be able to please her and why should you continue to be treated like that. There are plenty of women out there who would love a man who makes so much effort and would make the effort to do the same for you. May I suggest you are too good for her and you need to move on and find someone who appreciates you. Good Luck
2007-02-18 08:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you are doing wrong is continuing a relationship with the wrong woman. Get out of there and next time choose someone more caring and respectful of your feelings.
2007-02-18 07:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, it's her. She sounds like the type who takes their frustrations out on the people they are close to. Some people will never change, but there are things you can try. Sports can help release pint up agression and excessive energy. It's worth a try if you really want to stay with her. Try playing tennis.
2007-02-20 03:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit back and relax.Destiny will answer your questions.
You are not wrong.You are playing your role really well in this relationship.Keep up the good work.
2007-02-18 07:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're doing anything wrong. I think she is taking you for granted. Maybe you ought to break up with her and see how she feels without you.
2007-02-18 07:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you are not the best.. or it might be just n your mind.. just listen to her what she says and ignore her complains..many ppl whine a lot. do listen to her but don't get emotional with her comments.
2007-02-18 07:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by ghost07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋