Ladies, what do you think guys think if you tell them you're a feminist?

Question

.....or even "somewhat" of a feminist? .....And whose fault is it that men think of feminism in this way?

Answer 1

i agree with the others, why just the ladies..were the ones targeted.....feminist has a vulgar connotation and my experience with it usually boils down to control or selfish problems for the girl...sorry but usually its too much baggage for me.

Answer 2

I'm fromTexas. You can run into a lot of flack from the good ol boys around here. Some men think they ought to be the breadwinners and women should take care of the house and kids. These are the same types of men who made it hard for single mothers who had to work to support their families back in the day, paying less money to women than to men. They made their bed, now let them wash the sheets. Women stick up for each other when things are unfair. I don't like the way we bring up kids these days either, but that's not just because moms work. Well, that's my reasoning. When I start talking femininst, it's usually because some guy has made an offhand remark about feminism. I'll tell them how I feel. They have to make up their minds about me after they think about it. The guys who come back to be my friend have a clear picture of the kind of person I am and accept that. I don't need those other chumps around.

Answer 3

The decent ones, the ones I actually hang out with and date, think, "okay, whatever" or "who isn't?". Liberals are better in bed.

Whose fault is it that "feminism" is a bad word? The people who have backlashed against feminism. Try actually reading some of the major feminists. Yeah, there are crazies, but every group's got them. But Gloria Steinem? Susan B. Anthony? Sojourner Truth? Never once went on about how we have to castrate men and turn into lesbians. It's the fevered imaginings of the people who see feminism as a loss of their personal power. It's the guys who are afraid that they can't compete with women, and that they can't interest an intelligent women. It's the women who've invested themselves in the Madonna/whore complex and don't find choices freeing. These people are not worth my time, or the time of any honest, intelligent person. I'm not going to give up my right to live fully as whatever kind of human I want to be, within legal reason, just to make the f#cking Moral Majority comfortable.

PS: Lenny43, you rock. Thanks.

Answer 4

Who are you to speak for all men? Do you think all men are the same? Guess what, chump, we're not. Just because you have a bad opinion of feminists, don't think that all guys do.

What do I think? I think, good, a strong, independent, intelligent woman who thinks for herself, is aware of the social structures that constrain our thoughts and actions, and can see through much of the sexist baloney perpetuated by both men and women.

Whose fault is it that women have been subjugated by men for most of the history of the West? Women's or men's? So why blame attempts to address this problem on the people who suffered under it? Do you blame African-Americans for trying to challenge racism in society?

And, by the way, arunrajp is simply perpetuating the myth of a "men's crisis" in contemporary society as a result of feminism. Men still benefit greatly from the social and legal structures in place around the world, moreso than women. And the problems they are facing are not caused by women's rights, but by continuing beliefs and values that favour men over women and that are outdated in the modern world.

Answer 5

I'm not a lady but I'll answer your question regardless. (and any woman who is a feminist is not a lady)

Women deserve equal rights (it is only fair, one wouldn't exist without the other) and they also deserve equal reponsibilities and consequences. And once upon a time feminism was a good thing but it changed now. Just like with any grop that aquires too much power.

Feminists nowadays want more rights than men and do not want to face the consequences or responsibilities. Most feminists think they are far superior to men in every aspect. (yes that's right, every aspect.) Some extreme feminists won't admit guys are physically stronger than them and will actually say they are physically stronger than men because men do not give birth.
I won't have anything to do with anyone who thinks they are better than me at everything or even most things. If they are better than me, they don't need me and can f' off.

They spread lies by saying women can multi-task and men can't or that men are wussies and would die giving birth (and have no proof to back it up) and have 9x times more treshhold for pain than men (my @$$! If I was to slap a woman she would fall on the gorund crying. If I was to slap a man, he would just stand there and take it.)
They will not accept the differences between the genders. For them women are smarter, etc. When actual studies have shown men have bigger brains (testosterone make things bigger) and therefore better memory and learning capacity. While women are clearly better at communicating and showing emotions. This is not a bad thing, men and women need each other to complete each other. They should learn men and women are to be loved for their differences and for what they have instead of what they have not.
Feminists are women who wished they were men.
They only fight for things that are harmful for women but not for men.
They bash and abuse men too much and I do not want to be in a relationship where I will be bashed and abused against.

Ladies are very hard to find nowadays.

Thumb me down all you want people but this is my opinion and I will stand by it.

Answer 6

i am a girl, and although i believe that women and men deserve equal rights etc, i rarely describe myself as a feminist. feminists did wonderful things for women, but the word 'feminist' now has a different meaning and set of associations, which i dont particularly want to be associated with.

Answer 7

Insecure men feel threatened and may even insult a feminist. Secure men will respect a woman's feminism because she is a confident and powerful woman.

Answer 8

Feminists have done a lot of great things, I admit. But now I think they are taking it too far. I don’t think they realise where to stop. I don't blame men for thinking of feminism negatively, depending on what they are complaining of.

Answer 9

I'm a guy and when a woman tells me she's a feminist - I think yeah strong independent woman. Only speak for myself here but I wouldn't want a weak, sexbot no brains. Give me an empowered woman any day

Answer 10

Port wine they dont have to say it anymore because this is the 21 st century where the germs planted by them have reached fruitition.Yhis term is now a mere synonym of thew word female.

If that were not the case and as some respondents have said not all females are feminists then why are they not voicing their protest against double standards and the demeaning of the male in society.

The damge is done and is irreversible.

Now the male doesent even know how to interact with modern females "So no opening of doors unless they call you sexist"

He suppresses his sexulaity and tries not to enjoy looking at females lest he be branded a pervert.

He is already dropping out of schools and colleges because he knows the chances of his getting a job are getting lesser and lesser.

He will soon be confined to manual hard labour or jobs that the modern female wouldnt even dream of doing.

Feminism was not just a rejection of patriarchy but a kick in the balls of fathers by their daughters.

What men think? Time to take a reality check because the female isnt going to support you if you become a house husband or a keep like we did in history.

History repeats itself and the day is not far when this female gender will get a taste of their own medicine laced with cyanide.

Answer 11

I don't really know, and I don't care. In my experience, my kind nature, and fair-mindedness comes through, regardless of any preconceived notions. But, then again, If a guy told me he was "anti-feminism"--from what I seen on this forum, I would be wary.