My son brought his semester 1 report card results here is what he got-
Communications :Exam-69/72 Final Mark:85%
Civics/History: Exam-65/71 Final Mark:81%
Hitsory- Exam 99/100 Final Mark:94%
Computer and infro science- Exam Mark100/100 Final Mark -100%
I am proud of all theses marks but especally with the computer science.... I admit that all his life me and his father have told him that he is pathetic and wont be able to achive anything in ife because of his previous marks... And also we wanted him to be a docter when he grows up, but he kept telling us no im going to be a computer programer.... So my question is what should i buy for my son to tell him that i am really proud of his work... his father is going to buy him an ipod and i dont know what can i give him plz help
2007-02-17 22:57:17 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ask him what he wants from you,, may be he has some idea in his mind..
2007-02-17 23:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best present you can say is that you're sorry, and YOU WERE WRONG that part is crucial. He knows you mean it, and it makes him feel like he's defied gravity. (hypothetically)
And stop calling him a loser. In stead of telling him he can't do it, and he can't get anywhere with grades like that, tell him he CAN he just has to work harder. If you tell him he can't, he gets into this mindset that he can't. If you tell him that he can, and make sure that he gets attention, love, and maybe even a little gift when he succeeds, he will be much more likely to push harder and try his best. Unlike, if you call him a loser, he'll just fall behind and get discouraged. (I know from personal life experiences just what can happen when someone you care about takes the time to tell you that you can succeed.)
About the present. Is there any software he needs? A giftcard to a computer place if you don't know exactly which kind? Any sports? A laptop depending on your budget? accesories for his iPod? You really, really need a case for ipods. The headphones they come with aren't the best, so you may want to get other ones. Sooner rather than later, he may be asking for one of those iHome things to plug his iPod into so he can blast it all over the house and charge it at the same time. (lol) Is he into clothes? if you want more suggestions email me rachi_b53@yahoo.com
2007-02-17 23:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tangy & Cherry 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why must you buy him any thing? He needs to learn that in life we work to achieve to be the best because we want to, not because our parents will buy us some thing for doing it. He will feel proud knowing his hard work ethics paid off when he is able to obtain the career he is seeking. Let him make his own career choice as it's his life, we can not live life through our children.
You would be better off to praise him for a job well done. Keep encouraging him to do well for him self, his rewards will come from knowing that he did it for him self.
Never and I mean never tell your child that they are pathetic or that they won't be able to achieve anything, that is the worst thing that a parent can ever tell their child. You do not build self esteem by criticizing your child, that is a form of child abuse.
I think if you really want to give your son some thing special you should give him an apology for saying those things to him. First because you were wrong and second because it shows him that even an adult can make a mistake. It teaches him that it's ok to make a mistake and to be wrong, it also teaches him that when you make a mistake it's good to apologize. He will learn by your example, so that when he makes a mistake or does some thing wrong he will know that it's ok to say that he's sorry for what he did. Good luck to you and your son, sounds like he is a terrific person who will do well in life.
2007-02-17 23:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! It is so not right to ever tell your child they are worthless. You can't buy his love, you need to work on earning his love & respect back. You also can't make your child be something he doesn't want to be. Let him choose & don't nag on him if doesn't want to be what you want him to be. What if someone told you you'll never achieve anything or tried to make you work in a field you weren't the least bit interested in? Your lucky he has self motivation, he's a good kid on the inside, it's too bad you & your husband can't see that. The best thing you can do is tell him yourself that you are very proud of him & that you are sorry for all the hurtful things you ever said - have a heart to heart with him, let him express how that made him feel, & you need to ensure him (& live by it) that you won't talk down to him any more & will support him, & tell him that you love him - he probably never hears that.
2007-02-18 00:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So my parents were not the only ones that were telling me that their children are useless and will end up living below a bridge asking for money...
Yep, my stepdad told me I was a piece of **** even if I brought home 100% and once I brought home a 102% and wasnt even proud.
2007-02-18 00:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than a gift I think you and hubby need to start by apologizing for telling him how lousy he is. What a huge mistake. THose words can last a lifetime. Support your children. We all want doctors and lawyers yet we need to let them follow their hearts. Tell him EVERYDAY how proud you are and how SORRY you are. The gift is secondary in my opinion.
2007-02-19 01:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, after spending all these years telling him that he is pathetic, why not take him to his favorite restaurant and TELL him how you are SORRY for having said that, and that you are very proud of him and will be no matter what. I'm sure that will mean more than anything.
2007-02-17 23:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by just browsin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give him a pat on the back & lots of your time. TAke him to a movie or just out somewhere for a few hours. Really give him all of your undivided attention for a good few hours.
2007-02-17 23:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe buy him a card to pay for the music he wants to download,
or
a gift certificate where he could buy something to do with a computer
2007-02-17 23:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by mary L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents would give me like $5 dollars for every A i got. Maybe take him out to eat and too a movie.
CB
2007-02-18 02:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by ©hel§ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there wwas a certain software he really wanted you could get him, you get get that. If not, just tell him your sorry for all the things you've said in the past and take him out to dinner whereever he wants to go.
2007-02-17 23:36:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋