I’m in an impossible situation with my 12 month old daughter, she now breastfeeds more than ever and can’t sleep though the night without waking constantly wanting to breastfeed. She goes into the crib initially every night but after waking two or three times ends up in my bed where she tosses and turns and cries to be breastfeed constantly. I give in to her for fear of waking the whole house and to get an ounce of sleep until she finds herself not attached and starts crying again. I’ve done something wrong and am now a pacifier. I’ve tried to just let her cry but an hour of that is all I can put her though. I try to cut back on breastfeeding during the day but she is teething now and works herself into a frenzy if she can’t. She won’t take milk at night. What should I do, we both need to sleep. Please help!
2007-02-17 22:29:34 · 11 answers · asked by maryann 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Oh gosh it's sooooooo frustrating. I breastfed my first child for 3 years for the same reasons you are describing. I guess i might say (probably to your disgust) that you are doing a wonderful thing for your child & despite pressures from others it will reap benefits in the longrun. However for the time being it is a very frustrating situation & makes parenting a real big tiring & unenjoyable chore. You have to decide whether you want to do it anymore or not! There will be no easy way to stop this habbit because you daughter will cry, scream & vomit for hours on end but there is no hard, cold evidence that it will cause her any long term harm so long as she is living in a secure & loving environment (it's just a prolonged tantrum). If you are just feeling under pressure to stop of feeling that you are doing something wrong then please be reassured that you are not & that you are doing a good thing & that it will not last forever or cause any long term problems. You have to decide what you can live with as a happy parent = a happy child (mostly). Hang in there.
2007-02-17 22:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 1 year old she can now make the switch to regular cow's milk, and you can slowly transfer her to that, or you can continue to pump and try and transfer her to a sippy cup or bottle and let her suck on that instead of you... doctor's often recommend never letting babies go to sleep sucking on something, but like your daughter, some babies don't sleep if they aren't! my son is 15 months and still sleeps with a bottle (bad i know, but he won't sleep without it). also she may be just doing it for comfort. does she have a comfort object already like a blanket or a stuffed animal? cuddle that around her and tell her that will stay with her and dream with her and keep her safe while she sleeps until morning. maybe a night light can help? also, when you do breastfeed, don't make eye contact at night, make it a quick, to the point session so that you know she is no longer hungry and then end it, and maybe give her an actual pacifier or bottle?
that's a hard situation and without ever having been able to breastfeed myself i don't know if my suggestions helped, but good luck and i hope you do find a useful solution!!
2007-02-17 22:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 06:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by barile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to cut her off at night. This is getting out of hand and will only get worse. No she isnt going to like it and it will be ugly at first but thats parenting.
At night if she starts to fuss offer her a bottle or a pacifier - if she wont take it you are just going to have to let her scream and dont let her in your bed. You are going to have a few long nights but that is the only way out!
2007-02-18 00:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's teething, her gums are hurting and she's looking for comfort from you. Use a teething medicine on her gums.
When she wakes up and wants to be fed, offer her plain water, at night. If she doesn't accept it, she's probably not hungry, just fussy. Don't take her to bed with you. Put a chair in her room or find a comfortable place where you can hold her. Comfort her and then lay her back down.
This is a hard thing to change, because now she expects to be taken to bed, with you and allowed to nurse constantly.
If things don't improve, consult your doctor.
2007-02-17 22:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep on like this, you'll never get any sleep. When she wakes up crying give her a bottle or a pacifier. Eventually she'll cry herself to sleep. I'm sure that's gonna be hard, but eventually she'll stop and you both can get some sleep. If you keep letting her use you as a pacifier you'll never be able to sleep again!
2007-02-17 22:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by So_many_questions 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter was like this for awhile also. If you are comfortable with the nighttime teething medicine, it works wonders. I never wanted to go near it, but I was working full time and going to school, so I needed sleep.
As with most breastfeeding issues with my daughter, it worked itself out, usually just before I was ready to pull my hair out. When it's going well, it's great, when it's bad it stinks.
2007-02-18 02:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the doctor, just in case there's something wrong. It probably is just teething or habit now, but I'd want to rule out any problems.
2007-02-18 00:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by A M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried cereal and formula at her bedtime feed.
2007-02-18 09:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by HAH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a pacifier! :)
2007-02-18 00:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by tylersmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋