He's 56, I'm 42, he's somewhat angry and insecure due to past relationships, has a physical disability and his only income is a pension, now he's with me and seems to be quite manipultive , ie, does not support my decision to update my skills in order to get better job, threatens to leave me if I express my desire to return to school....
2007-02-17 22:04:26 · 13 answers · asked by Mary L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Isn't a partner suppose to be supportive and want you to better yourself? And, isn't a partner suppose to want you to be happy?
Anybody that makes you feel guilty for your feelings, or uses manipulation and mind games to control things is not a good person. I'm sorry, but, I have had some experience with this.
A partner should want you to be happy. Not try to control you because of their own insecurities. Beware.
2007-02-17 22:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What are signs of manipulation by partner?
Everything you told us and more some!
Weather you stay or not is your affair but if I were you-- I would have a back up plan.
Start giving clothes to your trusted friend /s to keep for you.
Put some money away, get second set of keys, tell no one but one good trusted friend or and a family member.
Material things are only material. Can always be replaced.
Then when push comes to shove find the perfect time to just get enough balls to go for a drive. A LONG DRIVE!!!!
Even change routes, daily things you normally.
Reading between the lines something more is taking place here.
Just be prepaid. Then follow your dreams.
If can't get out fast enough phone police, they will help you leave or maybe call a women shelter home.
Clearly what he is doing is a form of control and no body has
that right!!
Once out- NEVER LOOK BACK.
I did this, other /s have done this (Without and with children involved) YOU TOO CAN DO THIS.
If stay too long, it will be taking away your livelihood.
If no changes take place.
Start NOW! Don't put off tomorrow what you can do today.
Good luck my heart goes out to you.
2007-02-17 22:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact you are asking this question should be raising red flags. I mean with you wanting to go back to school to better yourself he shouldn't be anything but supportive. It sounds like he's trying to trap you by threatening to leave you, especially for no good reason. if you want to go back to school you should definitely go back, If you can't be there to support you now and wants to leave then he wasn't worth your time in the first place.
2007-02-17 22:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by MzCaRaMeL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave now!! He should support you not hold you back. He is trying to make you think that you need him and you could never amount to anything. You should be with someone who supports you and encourages you.. GET OUT NOW.. My ex-husband was that way and I left him because he almost killed me.. Now I am with a loving, caring , supportive man..
2007-02-18 13:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by sharon k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
communication is a powerful tool in a marriage and should be used and if he threatens to leave you its would be his lost no your so open the door for him because a marriage is share not control good luck
2007-02-17 22:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself and leave that unhealthy relationship before it gets way out of hand.
2007-02-17 22:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnemarie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him leave
don't let him threaten you like that
kick him out, like yesterday.
He needs to support you and your decisions to better yourself.
He also should seek anger management counseling.
2007-02-17 22:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is called emotional bondage.....you do not have to be a prisoner to this manipulation. He is afraid of losing you if you grow and he does not.
2007-02-17 23:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say if he manipulates you to the point of 0rgasm then that is a clear indicator that you are being manipulated.
2007-02-17 22:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Joe B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about your question, but it sounds like a very controlling person.
2007-02-17 22:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by JackDaniels024 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋