im afraid I might be a lesbian. I have had sex with guys before but i never orgasm or fel right. when im with guys i feel uncomfertable being close to them, id rather play video games or talk about politics im not interested in thier opinions as much. I dated girls and I was more happy and comfertable kissing them and being close and talking about thier interests. Im scared because I dont know how to tell my parents, and Im afraid of how my friends would react. I cant help but look at girls i find my self gazing at a girls awsome butt sometimes! Sometimes I imagine that when Im older I have a beautiful girlfriend who co-owns an apartment with me and we sit and drink coffee together every morning and just talk about everything, like life in general. Why do I wish I will have this one day? lol Please help because Im having a Panic Attack thinking about it. Am I lesbian?
2007-02-17 21:56:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, You're a lesbian. deep down you know what you like, it's the fear of letting it be known that is getting to you.
2007-02-17 22:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all relax. You don't have to solve all this in one night. I can't tell you whether you are a lesbian or not. Only you know the answer to that one. I suspect that you have strong gay tendencies because you find women so attractive.
Worry about telling your parents and friends when you actually form an opinion of what/who you are...If you feel like you need help with that try giving PFLAG( Parents and friends of lesbians and gays) a call..they should be listed in your area. They are some pretty good people who can and will really help you in that regard or just someone to talk to.
Your friends...well I guess you'll find out who your friends really are.
Millions of us have been exactly where you are right now. Make no mistake about that...and we all survived it and so will you. Just go a little easy on yourself. Your responsibility is to enjoy your life.
2007-02-17 22:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Erika, first and formost, please, do not listen to the bible thumping idiots comment about how homosexuality is a sin against your body that is a temple. That is complete and utter bullshiit.
Secondly, I dont care how many men you meet, nice ones, mean ones, ugly ones, hot ones, girly ones, ect. ect.,,, you are not going to feel anymore comfortable because you are a lesbian. When you say that you want to co-own an apartment and sip coffee talking about everything that should be your first clue! lol, talk about the old joke uhauling it.:)
And as far as your parents are concerned, you dont really need to tell them in order to live your life as u want. Everyone worries to much about telling people, just do as u wish, it is your life. When you feel comfortable as a lesbian, (which will take some time) then will be the time to come out to your family. Now is not the time. Dont have a panic attack, its not that serious! Just relax and be who u are, Im sure plenty of women will love u. Good luck!
2007-02-17 22:24:57 · answer #3 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you read your Bible you will know that this is a sin against the body and the body is the temple of God. So I would recomend that you not have sex with any one until you are married. I think that you should get help from a christian counsler and your salvation depends on the fact that you reject the feelings of homosexuality. Ask for forgiveness for your sins and stay on the path of the straight and narrow. There is no sex out there that is worth going to hell for. As far as you not climaxing with any guy, well when you are married, the guy is not just in for the sex for him and his true motive is to make you happy also. You will find a man that will be able to give you a climax like you have never experianced. But sex is our wedding gift from God and when we have sex before marriage, we have just spoiled the wedding present. I would say to stop the sex, start dating a nice guy with out having sex, and see a counsler that is a Christian. A True Christian. Not one that will tell you what you want to hear. One that speaks the truth. What is in the Bible.
2007-02-17 22:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by gigi 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Just be yourself. If you cannot imagine yourself without a girl by your side then you definitely are gay. Hey, there are way worse things you could be! Stop tuning yourself into knots. Write a letter to your parents and ask them if they love you, could they please support you in accepting you as you are. Accept yourself, give yourself credit for having excellent taste. You go girl!!
2007-02-17 22:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may be Bisexual, but have yet not found the male who would satisfy your needs as women, now do.
Don't fret, accept your own pace at discovery - everyone has the right to do so, don't they?
2007-02-17 22:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by skydancerwi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a bit too early and you need to get to bed. Of course, try hanging out with guys and just get to know them.
2007-02-17 22:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by howardlee1977 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well not to be mean or anything but you are a lesbian.
2007-02-17 22:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by twizzler m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you are..but its not a bad thing...so...
2007-02-17 22:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋